You may have heard some men tell you that paying a woman a compliment might not be such a great idea. That you really don't want to be the guy that says something along the lines of, "Your eyes, they're so beautiful, blue like the ocean, sparkle like diamonds...blah blah blah..." Of course, this is absolutely true. Don't be that guy. But you also should not get the impression that compliments are completely off limits either, because a proper compliment done the right way can be a very powerful weapon within the arsenal of charisma.
Some time back I was out on a date with this very attractive woman, a foreign girl, and she had mentioned early on in the date how much she hated her accent. I had told her that she shouldn't hate her accent because a lot of guys actually find it to be very sexy and attractive. Do you know what she told me? She said that's exactly why she hated it so much. Apparently, it's the first thing almost every guy she meets instinctively goes to as a source of flattery, and after having heard it a million times, it lost it's vigor, it's impact. In my effort to point out a positive I instead ended up on the receiving end of a lot of complaining. If I had better luck, I would have just gotten a mediocre, half-hearted thank you.
She was also a very young girl as well, but I had no idea how old she was at the time. She seemed very intelligent and very mature to me, and after a few hours of conversation when she had mentioned to me that she was only 21 years old, I was shocked. I told her that I thought she was at least 25 or 26. Immediately, I received a wide eyed, big smiled, enthusiastic "Thank You!". Her body literally lifted up out of her seat a few inches, somewhat the same way you would if you were sort of slouching then suddenly straightened your spine and puffed your chest out. She physically exploded with appreciation.
After having felt the massive difference between one compliment and the other, I started to figure out what a good compliment really was. Later on during this same date I even managed to redeem myself on the first "compliment" that exploded in my face. While she was talking, a few words within one of her sentences wrought thick with accent came through with absolutely no accent at all. I noticed it, brought it to light and it was the same thing: She physically exploded with appreciation.
Now, there is a reason why a physical reaction is so highly sought after here. We are doing it for more reasons than to just make a good impression. That reason is kino. Touching. A woman that is physically enthusiastic will begin to touch, and I don't think I really need to explain where that eventually leads to. By igniting this process within her, it becomes increasingly easier to escalate the seduction process. It becomes much more likely that the date will end on a natural, intimate, physical note.
So what are the exact principles that lead to a great compliment that has a physical effect?
By now, I'm hoping you've noticed at least the first principle, in that it should not be obvious. It shouldn't be something she likely hears all of the time. This is precisely why complimenting a beautiful woman on her looks often turns out to be very lame. A general rule of thumb here is that if it's a popular concept men often use, then just forget it. Don't go there.
The second principle is that the best compliment in many cases take a little time to discover. This is because it requires some listening. It requires a piece of information you were completely unaware of just moments ago. It will come to you as a gift with a bow on it. A little surprise. And all you have to do is throw it back at her. Odds are, she is going to set herself up for the compliment. You just have to pay attention.
The third principle is that a compliment that yields a positive physical reaction will more than likely be a subject she feels slightly insecure about, rather than proud of. When I told this girl she looked older, when I noticed her perfect English pronunciation, these were her self-perceived weaknesses, not strengths. (On a side note, charisma essentially is the ability to make other people feel good about themselves when they are around you.)
And finally, the fourth principle is that it should be a general observation, not a romantic one. Remember, your goal is to get her to feel physically ignited rather than feel physically observed. You'll get plenty of physical "observation" in when the touching begins. Trust me.
Some time back I was out on a date with this very attractive woman, a foreign girl, and she had mentioned early on in the date how much she hated her accent. I had told her that she shouldn't hate her accent because a lot of guys actually find it to be very sexy and attractive. Do you know what she told me? She said that's exactly why she hated it so much. Apparently, it's the first thing almost every guy she meets instinctively goes to as a source of flattery, and after having heard it a million times, it lost it's vigor, it's impact. In my effort to point out a positive I instead ended up on the receiving end of a lot of complaining. If I had better luck, I would have just gotten a mediocre, half-hearted thank you.
She was also a very young girl as well, but I had no idea how old she was at the time. She seemed very intelligent and very mature to me, and after a few hours of conversation when she had mentioned to me that she was only 21 years old, I was shocked. I told her that I thought she was at least 25 or 26. Immediately, I received a wide eyed, big smiled, enthusiastic "Thank You!". Her body literally lifted up out of her seat a few inches, somewhat the same way you would if you were sort of slouching then suddenly straightened your spine and puffed your chest out. She physically exploded with appreciation.
After having felt the massive difference between one compliment and the other, I started to figure out what a good compliment really was. Later on during this same date I even managed to redeem myself on the first "compliment" that exploded in my face. While she was talking, a few words within one of her sentences wrought thick with accent came through with absolutely no accent at all. I noticed it, brought it to light and it was the same thing: She physically exploded with appreciation.
Now, there is a reason why a physical reaction is so highly sought after here. We are doing it for more reasons than to just make a good impression. That reason is kino. Touching. A woman that is physically enthusiastic will begin to touch, and I don't think I really need to explain where that eventually leads to. By igniting this process within her, it becomes increasingly easier to escalate the seduction process. It becomes much more likely that the date will end on a natural, intimate, physical note.
So what are the exact principles that lead to a great compliment that has a physical effect?
By now, I'm hoping you've noticed at least the first principle, in that it should not be obvious. It shouldn't be something she likely hears all of the time. This is precisely why complimenting a beautiful woman on her looks often turns out to be very lame. A general rule of thumb here is that if it's a popular concept men often use, then just forget it. Don't go there.
The second principle is that the best compliment in many cases take a little time to discover. This is because it requires some listening. It requires a piece of information you were completely unaware of just moments ago. It will come to you as a gift with a bow on it. A little surprise. And all you have to do is throw it back at her. Odds are, she is going to set herself up for the compliment. You just have to pay attention.
The third principle is that a compliment that yields a positive physical reaction will more than likely be a subject she feels slightly insecure about, rather than proud of. When I told this girl she looked older, when I noticed her perfect English pronunciation, these were her self-perceived weaknesses, not strengths. (On a side note, charisma essentially is the ability to make other people feel good about themselves when they are around you.)
And finally, the fourth principle is that it should be a general observation, not a romantic one. Remember, your goal is to get her to feel physically ignited rather than feel physically observed. You'll get plenty of physical "observation" in when the touching begins. Trust me.
