Making Friends As An Adult

[BaronOfHair]

This is a topic that's been broached on this forum previously, and now a video on the subject

just cropped up on my YT sidebar

I haven't actually watched it yet

 

[justaroundthecorner]

It is difficult past some age. I moved to the another city when I was in my early 30's. I have acquaintances/colleagues here only. Friends? I do not think so.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I have acquaintances/colleagues here only. Friends? I do not think so.

Spending your off-hours glued to The X Box and binge watching She Hulk for the 1,000,000,000,000,000th time yields that effect

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Spending your off-hours glued to The X Box and binge watching She Hulk for the 1,000,000,000,000,000th time yields that effect

Get those hours up to 10,000 and you'll be a Gladwell-certified expert.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Get those hours up to 10,000 and you'll be a Gladwell-certified expert.

Similar to The Kaiser's army in WW1. Exhaustive practice with mustard gas, during encounters like Ypres, left those Krauts nothing less than masterful, when it came time to break out the Zyklon B at Auschwitz

 

[plumber]

easy to make friends with those that look up to you. difficult to make friends with those we look up to.

 

[Solomon]

I only get more friends as I get older, but that probably has to do with the way I live. Plenty of lonely people in Amsterdam.

^^^This, if you live an active or interesting life it's not that hard. I have made friends at work, in the gym, at bars, church, fashion events heck I even made a friend several years ago at an art gallery, but the friendship ended cause it was one-sided. It's about putting yourself out there. Vetting people is a must though, IME a lot of people aren't worthy of friendships. A wise woman recently told me there is "levels of friendships" don't treat someone like a best friend who treats you as an aquistance or associate at best. Once you figure that out, it makes easier to deal with various people

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I find that people use the term “friend” too loosely now a days. If most people were in a life or death situation they would be hang to dry by that one “friend”.
I already got my very few solids to shoot the camaraderie spill.
Now in my early 30s I am looking more for mentor-type friends where I can learn how to weave through life better.