Making conversations with women fun and exciting

[Jager_Master82]

We all know about ****y and funny, neg’s, displaying higher value and all the other good stuff. But one thing that seems to be over looked on here is the art of conversation. On a date building a connection and building comfort is as important as building attraction. Most of you should know that questions such as where do you work, do you like your job, where are you from etc are very run of the mill and boring. It is important to ask questions and have conversations that get the girl to open up, use her imagination and help bring out her fun adventurous side.

So if there’s any guys out there who are having trouble with this I have a few questions that can make a conversation fun and exciting. For each of these questions you should have an answer ready for when she asks you the same question back which she inevitably will, this gives you a chance to show your exciting, fun, alpha male side. Questions you can ask include. So what are you passionate about? Where do you see yourself in 10 years time? What do you enjoy doing for fun? What would you say is your best/worst quality? If you could change one thing in your life what would it be? What's the one thing in your life you cant do without? What’s the wildest thing you have ever done? What’s your biggest regret? Describe Your Ideal Date? What's your favourite childhood memory?

Obviously if you have good conversation skills these questions on a date can lead to a lot of fun, humour and encourages her to feel comfortable around you which leads to less chance of her flaking IMO.

 

[Huffman]

Like these questions, they can bring fresh wind into a convo.

Haha I was at a concert with this girl, and our conversation was pretty stale and boring... I was actually about to leave. Then I asked "so what's the craziest thing you've ever done" and she was like "erm... uhm... " and I thought she was so boring she couldn't think of anything.

SUDDENLY she tells me how she's had a threesome with two other girls and keeps talking and talking, asking me about the weirdest places I've had sex, comparing favourite positions etc etc.... (happy ending later this evening )

It was the last thing I expected, and the fun thing is I hadn't said anything about sex, she just assumed it, haha!

 

[Jager_Master82]

awesome story, my theory is very simple when you talk about wild adventurous things you bring out her wild adventurous side. So simple but so many forget.

 

[Iceberg]

Questions you can ask include. So what are you passionate about? Where do you see yourself in 10 years time? What do you enjoy doing for fun? What would you say is your best/worst quality? If you could change one thing in your life what would it be? What's the one thing in your life you cant do without? What’s the wildest thing you have ever done? What’s your biggest regret? Describe Your Ideal Date? What's your favourite childhood memory?

Obviously if you have good conversation skills these questions on a date can lead to a lot of fun, humour and encourages her to feel comfortable around you which leads to less chance of her flaking IMO.

These questions sound like they were taken straight out of an interview for a banking job.

Ok not that bad. But they sound like what they are....which is pre-packaged, canned, date questions.

I couldn't seriously see any of my friends or myself asking some girl, "So....what is your favorite childhood memory?"

If you're already having a conversation about travel and you slip in, "What's the best place you've visited so far?" At least that sounds natural. I can't picture"What's your best quality?" being a normal part of a conversation.

I'm not trying to rip on you. I'm trying to help guys who might consider taking this advice. These questions sound like they were copy and pasted off of 95% of dating advice columns. No one seriously asks a woman, "So describe your ideal date." Okay well now that I've been a negative jerk. Let's see if I can offer any tips of my own.

Just talk about your passions. Don't ask "what are you passionate about". I'm a guitar player, so if I'm talking about music, I'll throw in "Do you play anything?" Maybe she'll say no. So I'll turn to "What did you do growing up?" She'll talk about painting. Or running. Or freakin...chemistry sets. Whatever. Now we're having a conversation.

Did something awesome happen to you on the way to the date? Talk about that. "This is going to be an awesome night?" "Why?" "I found $20 in the couch cushion. Don't you love when that happens?" Hey, maybe now you're talking about situations where something lucky happened.

I guess my overall point is: it's hard to come to a date with a prepackaged list of questions and NOT sound weird. Whether it's a date with a girl, or me and you at the pub having a beer, I could have a 2-hour conversation about the block you grew up on and make it fun and exciting. Even if these guys are new to dating or nervous, those types of questions just sound too.....canned. We should all avoid that, not matter what our level is.

 

[Jager_Master82]

These questions sound like they were taken straight out of an interview for a banking job.

Ok not that bad. But they sound like what they are....which is pre-packaged, canned, date questions.

I couldn't seriously see any of my friends or myself asking some girl, "So....what is your favorite childhood memory?"

If you're already having a conversation about travel and you slip in, "What's the best place you've visited so far?" At least that sounds natural. I can't picture "What's your best/worst quality" or "What are you passionate about?" being a normal part of a conversation.

I'm not trying to rip on you. I'm trying to help guys who might consider taking this advice. These questions sound like they were copy and pasted off of 95% of dating advice columns.

Im always up for learning and improving my game whereever I can so feedback is always welcome. When you read the questions one after another as I have wrote them it does look canned and does look like an interview. But keep in mind that the intent of these quesions is to illicite emotion and to be slipped into a conversation naturally without disrupting the flow. I probably should have made that clearer. For example as for the question "what are you passionate about?" it wouldnt just be asked out of the blue, you would talk about something you love to do and discuss your passions back and forth for a little while and then ask her "what are you passionate about?". Although now that I think about it the childhood memory question has to go.