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Interceptor
Master Don Juan
I think this isnt a productive, nor a loving plan of action for a Man.
Number one, you cant MAKE anyone do anything, they have to do it on their own accord. You can coerce and blackmail them, but is that honorable, is that a true reflection of who you want to be? Is that really what you want to inflict on a woman you love?
I think those are desperate measures. And if they are, then that can only mean that the man who enacts those plans is a desperate one.
Arent we the men that try to "Kill that Desperation!"??
That is something that is not only preached here, but also a common sense goal for all of us.
We have a right to self respect , dignity, and self love. And acting out of desperation does not honor us in that manner.
And believing we HAVE to make someone angry to GET SOMETHING from them is trying to get a "REACTION" out of them.
And we often talk about how we should avoid operating on the needy/insecure ego attached way of trying to get a reaction out of them. We all know at the end, it reeks of insecurity.
And it means we desperately want their attention, badly...
You dont want that, man. I know you dont.
If we're talking about a current steady GF in an exclusive LTR, then planning on introducing MORE drama and conflict is possibly the WORST choice a man who wants peace and harmony in his relationships can do.
Sure, most women are very in touch with their emotions.( Most men arent really.Most men were raised without understanding how to feel their emotions and work through them. We just tend to avoid them or stuff them all the way down and pretend they're not there.
We often label having emotions as being "WEAK".
When in actuality, its not the feeling of the emotions that makes one weak, its actually the hiding/avoidance from them that we often advocate that is our weakness.
We often shame men who want to understand their emotions, and we often see even having emotions in the first place as weak.
But all that is false, and disempowering.
It takes us off course and doesnt provide us with answers on how to grow as a Man and as a human Being. We dont have a better life by living a life of avoidance. We have a better life with more options when we have the skills and understanding to navigate through life courageously.
One of the biggest challengeswe face is for the man to have an innate understanding of his partner's needs. And that can only come from the Man being in touch with his emotions and his NEEDS himself. If he's disconnected, then being compassionate and understanding of her and other people too , is severly compromised.)
They DO want strong emotional connections and bonds. Women are pretty much wired that way. They did evolve with close knit communities and much deeper bonds, and they expect that in their romantic relationship with a Man. It doesnt appear to be changing any time soon.
Sure,they respond strongly to things that really 'tug at their heartstrings'.
But as her Man, the only emotions you should be willingly trying to evoke are those out of love, compassion, tenderness, gentleness, kindness, tolerance, forgiveness, honesty, and so on.
Dont bring conflict into your relationships, brother.And think very very seriously about it if you want to give your love and all your resources to a drama queen.
Trust yourSELF. Truly. Listen to what YOU want to experience in a relationship. I KNOW you dont want more drama, angst, frustration, depression, tension, stress, worry etc....
You will have to be very aware and pay attention to yourself, your partner, AND the relationship and attend to them the best way you can.
Being in a relationship is about having your NEEDS MET.
And we DONT 'need' conflict in our relationships. ONLY when it comes up so that we can HEAL that and harmonize with our partners again.
Yes, it is tough to have to go through those things in your day to day relating with your partner. But truly, if you didnt actually face those things, you would either not try to fix them, or have a blind spot and not even know you have that conflict there.
So if it does come up, then we should have the mind/heart to honor our relationships and our partners, and ultimately ourselves.
Because we have the courage to FACE that, confront it and then take STEPS to heal it so that you dont have to live in a relationship that is full of stress, sadness, depression, anxiety , and tension.
Resistance comes up when we dont want to face ourselves. Its ALL about us FACING ourselves and our partners, and thus, our Lives.
Relationships are challenging enough by themselves, and to actually WANT to bring in more challenges is IMO masochistic and sadistic to want to impose this on your partner.
People are in romantic relationships because they want love and companionship, not drama, conflict, and fighting.
I sometimes feel that people that create drama in their relationships are people who are actually kind of empty inside, and lead empty lives. So because they often have adverse reactions to non exciting parts of their lives, they try to create problems and drama where there are none. Thus, distracting one in facing how we perceive our lives and healing our dysfunction.
They fear boredom and routine. And they almost are repulsed by predictability , routines, and things that actually are GOOD in LTRs when they give you the true feeling of SOLIDNESS in your relationship.
When you truly KNOW in your heart that you can trust your woman to BE THERE for you. And she feels the same about you.
And that can ONLY happen when you are predictable in the sense that you are a responsible Man with self accountability.
I advocate that whether in an LTR or not, and whether she is or isnt.
These things are higher qualities that are based on respect for other people AND Self Respect.And a genuine DESIRE to live up to a higher standard.
And that is an honorable quality to have. It's not about doing it to GET acknowledgement or accolades, or recognition. But for your own self, your own peace of mind.
Sure, there are plenty of times when we demonstrate respect, and we dont get it in return...but that is THEIR shortcoming and character fault, NOT YOURS.
Then you can actually RELAX. You can have Peace. Harmony.
Not cheap drama, conflict, arguments, ego driven attacks and so on....
Anyway, I think the idea of the 'emotional rollercoaster' does serve a purpose.
But we have to use very accurate thinking in how to implement this notion, and for what reasons.
When we are dealing with people's feelings, it does make sense to honor and respect them.
Number one, you cant MAKE anyone do anything, they have to do it on their own accord. You can coerce and blackmail them, but is that honorable, is that a true reflection of who you want to be? Is that really what you want to inflict on a woman you love?
I think those are desperate measures. And if they are, then that can only mean that the man who enacts those plans is a desperate one.
Arent we the men that try to "Kill that Desperation!"??
That is something that is not only preached here, but also a common sense goal for all of us.
We have a right to self respect , dignity, and self love. And acting out of desperation does not honor us in that manner.
And believing we HAVE to make someone angry to GET SOMETHING from them is trying to get a "REACTION" out of them.
And we often talk about how we should avoid operating on the needy/insecure ego attached way of trying to get a reaction out of them. We all know at the end, it reeks of insecurity.
And it means we desperately want their attention, badly...
You dont want that, man. I know you dont.
If we're talking about a current steady GF in an exclusive LTR, then planning on introducing MORE drama and conflict is possibly the WORST choice a man who wants peace and harmony in his relationships can do.
Sure, most women are very in touch with their emotions.( Most men arent really.Most men were raised without understanding how to feel their emotions and work through them. We just tend to avoid them or stuff them all the way down and pretend they're not there.
We often label having emotions as being "WEAK".
When in actuality, its not the feeling of the emotions that makes one weak, its actually the hiding/avoidance from them that we often advocate that is our weakness.
We often shame men who want to understand their emotions, and we often see even having emotions in the first place as weak.
But all that is false, and disempowering.
It takes us off course and doesnt provide us with answers on how to grow as a Man and as a human Being. We dont have a better life by living a life of avoidance. We have a better life with more options when we have the skills and understanding to navigate through life courageously.
One of the biggest challengeswe face is for the man to have an innate understanding of his partner's needs. And that can only come from the Man being in touch with his emotions and his NEEDS himself. If he's disconnected, then being compassionate and understanding of her and other people too , is severly compromised.)
They DO want strong emotional connections and bonds. Women are pretty much wired that way. They did evolve with close knit communities and much deeper bonds, and they expect that in their romantic relationship with a Man. It doesnt appear to be changing any time soon.
Sure,they respond strongly to things that really 'tug at their heartstrings'.
But as her Man, the only emotions you should be willingly trying to evoke are those out of love, compassion, tenderness, gentleness, kindness, tolerance, forgiveness, honesty, and so on.
Dont bring conflict into your relationships, brother.And think very very seriously about it if you want to give your love and all your resources to a drama queen.
Trust yourSELF. Truly. Listen to what YOU want to experience in a relationship. I KNOW you dont want more drama, angst, frustration, depression, tension, stress, worry etc....
You will have to be very aware and pay attention to yourself, your partner, AND the relationship and attend to them the best way you can.
Being in a relationship is about having your NEEDS MET.
And we DONT 'need' conflict in our relationships. ONLY when it comes up so that we can HEAL that and harmonize with our partners again.
Yes, it is tough to have to go through those things in your day to day relating with your partner. But truly, if you didnt actually face those things, you would either not try to fix them, or have a blind spot and not even know you have that conflict there.
So if it does come up, then we should have the mind/heart to honor our relationships and our partners, and ultimately ourselves.
Because we have the courage to FACE that, confront it and then take STEPS to heal it so that you dont have to live in a relationship that is full of stress, sadness, depression, anxiety , and tension.
Resistance comes up when we dont want to face ourselves. Its ALL about us FACING ourselves and our partners, and thus, our Lives.
Relationships are challenging enough by themselves, and to actually WANT to bring in more challenges is IMO masochistic and sadistic to want to impose this on your partner.
People are in romantic relationships because they want love and companionship, not drama, conflict, and fighting.
I sometimes feel that people that create drama in their relationships are people who are actually kind of empty inside, and lead empty lives. So because they often have adverse reactions to non exciting parts of their lives, they try to create problems and drama where there are none. Thus, distracting one in facing how we perceive our lives and healing our dysfunction.
They fear boredom and routine. And they almost are repulsed by predictability , routines, and things that actually are GOOD in LTRs when they give you the true feeling of SOLIDNESS in your relationship.
When you truly KNOW in your heart that you can trust your woman to BE THERE for you. And she feels the same about you.
And that can ONLY happen when you are predictable in the sense that you are a responsible Man with self accountability.
I advocate that whether in an LTR or not, and whether she is or isnt.
These things are higher qualities that are based on respect for other people AND Self Respect.And a genuine DESIRE to live up to a higher standard.
And that is an honorable quality to have. It's not about doing it to GET acknowledgement or accolades, or recognition. But for your own self, your own peace of mind.
Sure, there are plenty of times when we demonstrate respect, and we dont get it in return...but that is THEIR shortcoming and character fault, NOT YOURS.
Then you can actually RELAX. You can have Peace. Harmony.
Not cheap drama, conflict, arguments, ego driven attacks and so on....
Anyway, I think the idea of the 'emotional rollercoaster' does serve a purpose.
But we have to use very accurate thinking in how to implement this notion, and for what reasons.
When we are dealing with people's feelings, it does make sense to honor and respect them.
Interceptor... have to admit, I think what you say makes more sense than the OP's point. (I do understand the need to generate emotions, but creating drama isn't going to get you love... it's going to generate trouble, unhappiness for both people and needless stress). ^.^
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Master Don Juan
Man they had AFCs 2100 years ago and still 2100 years later...that just proves some main concepts of attraction and relationships have remained the same for millennia. This makes me want a history lesson on B.C. dating lol.
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Even though I don't like it,this is true. I do believe that making a woman angry will cause her to have emotions towards a guy.carrot said:
It's true. I've seen this many,many times,even done it before.
It used to baffle me. It didn't make any sense. I'd see a woman crying or complaining about something her boyfriend said or did,and how much anger she seemed to have towards him and think that that was the end of the relationship. Then a day or two later,I'd seen her with him again all happy and cheerful. Didn't understand it.
However,once I learned more about attraction from the female's point of view,I started to undrstand what was going on.
Women are emotional. If you make her feel an emotion,any emotion,even a negative one,that's an emotional connection. Even if you make her feel bad,you still connected to her emotionally. As crazy as it sounds,you'd have a better chance with a woman by approaching her and making her feel anger than by approaching her with the standard,"How are you?/What's your name?" scenario.
After all,what is anger? It's just passion in a different form. When you're angry about something,you're passionate about it. So by making her feel anger,you inadvertantly will also make her feel passion. Of course you can't go around making women angry,but if you're interested in a girl,you'll get farther with her by doing this than making her feel nothing at all.
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Making them angry is a form of breaking rapport, which is what's actually important. How you go about it is up to you. Some guys use ****y funny, others go sexual, and some challenge them and piss them off a bit. Making a woman angry, and then winning them over, is a solid method of building attraction. It's how I did it back in teh day when I had no idea what I was doing. I'd just ruffle their feathers a bit, smooth things over, and suddenly I went from "jerk" to "sexy". It's rule #1 why chicks will ***** & moan about their bf being a jerk, but then they go right back to them. While they don't like the jerk phase, they're keenly drawn to the emotional roller coaster they give them. Pretty much all women are like this in some way, shape, or form.
RandallLambert
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Making a woman angry to increase her emotional bond to you only works if the woman respects you. Because there is being angry (the fear based anger) and contempt. If you fight with her and she feels contempt for you, your relationship will rapidly disintegrate. If she becomes angry at you for something you did or did not do, that is different because her anger is based on the fact that she wants something from you and therefore is dependent on you to fulfil her emotional needs, which is different to just making her angry.
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LOL its not hard.. if she likes you she will get angry eventually, the important thing is that when she foes you stay strong and to nut supplicate..