In order to eliminate these mindsets you have to work on yourself to eliminate or minimize the traits you perceive or know that hurt your game. That means going out to the field constantly and trying this stuff out, until you become good at it.
The problem with you and a few other posters on this board, is that they are looking for the silver magic bullet answer to help transform them from a bumbling stuttering fools that deep down they know they are, into a Casanova within a matter of days. Sure they may be able to cut corners here and there and have some limited success but eventually they will find themselves exactly at the same spot where they have started and new problems will arise.
I just read a post on sosuave about a guy that been infatuated with a girl-“friend” since the 7th grade (he is 20 now!). He has even slept in the same bed with her while holding hands and sh1t but he never got sexual with her. Now after she broke up with her boyfriend, he sees a silver lining and needs that magic bullet answer, you want to know what the answer is?
The answer is this: HE HAS ALREADY FVCKED UP. His behaviour and mindset to this point have been extremely detrimental to his game that any answer given to him now would not yield the same result as to someone else that is already confident and knows what he is doing. He has dug himself a pretty big hole over the years where he is now trying to climb out of, instead of avoiding getting into the hole in the first place. The best thing he can do right now is to forget about her, and concentrate on him thus eliminating the hole all together.
If there was such thing as a time machine, I would tell you to hop aboard and fly 2 years back in time. There you would find yourself being almost the exact same position as you are today. However if I would have told the younger you to start hitting the gym, get hobbies, start to aggressively approach women left and right and take risks that person would have completely changed by now.
After 2 years the new you would naturally be "immune" to getting oneitis (since you have the mindset of being the prize not the girls while being confident in your own abilities to pick them up). Also when you are confident in yourself and actually like yourself, you stop caring what others may think of you. When you do that you actually start living. The new you would have probably be spinning plates by now, instead of wondering if he has a shot with his teacher. The new you would have KNOWN if he you had shot with your teacher and wouldn’t really cared about the outcome as much.
Now since you do not have a time machine, I suggest that you really work on yourself and instead of looking at the world has having "one unattainable desired woman" start looking at the world as having "many attainable desired women" and go out and have some fun.
Now you may prove me wrong by finding that magic bullet answer but would you really be better off in the long run?! but hey If you can do both then more power to you.
The problem with you and a few other posters on this board, is that they are looking for the silver magic bullet answer to help transform them from a bumbling stuttering fools that deep down they know they are, into a Casanova within a matter of days. Sure they may be able to cut corners here and there and have some limited success but eventually they will find themselves exactly at the same spot where they have started and new problems will arise.
I just read a post on sosuave about a guy that been infatuated with a girl-“friend” since the 7th grade (he is 20 now!). He has even slept in the same bed with her while holding hands and sh1t but he never got sexual with her. Now after she broke up with her boyfriend, he sees a silver lining and needs that magic bullet answer, you want to know what the answer is?
The answer is this: HE HAS ALREADY FVCKED UP. His behaviour and mindset to this point have been extremely detrimental to his game that any answer given to him now would not yield the same result as to someone else that is already confident and knows what he is doing. He has dug himself a pretty big hole over the years where he is now trying to climb out of, instead of avoiding getting into the hole in the first place. The best thing he can do right now is to forget about her, and concentrate on him thus eliminating the hole all together.
If there was such thing as a time machine, I would tell you to hop aboard and fly 2 years back in time. There you would find yourself being almost the exact same position as you are today. However if I would have told the younger you to start hitting the gym, get hobbies, start to aggressively approach women left and right and take risks that person would have completely changed by now.
After 2 years the new you would naturally be "immune" to getting oneitis (since you have the mindset of being the prize not the girls while being confident in your own abilities to pick them up). Also when you are confident in yourself and actually like yourself, you stop caring what others may think of you. When you do that you actually start living. The new you would have probably be spinning plates by now, instead of wondering if he has a shot with his teacher. The new you would have KNOWN if he you had shot with your teacher and wouldn’t really cared about the outcome as much.
Now since you do not have a time machine, I suggest that you really work on yourself and instead of looking at the world has having "one unattainable desired woman" start looking at the world as having "many attainable desired women" and go out and have some fun.
Now you may prove me wrong by finding that magic bullet answer but would you really be better off in the long run?! but hey If you can do both then more power to you.
