MAJOR problems with a friend!!

[DJ Jeff]

Ok guys. Me and this woman used to be lovers, and very much in love. She was alot older than me however, and had kids, and no time to spend together. So i decided since we never saw each other in the end, it would be better to just be friends.

We are trying this, but now everytime we talk we fight. Tonight was our 3rd fight in 4 days. she went on a date, and i said jokingly "did ya do him?" Then she started screaming about how i view her a a slut, and that i **** every girl i know, which is not true...in fact it was pretty insulting considering some of the girls i know are.....well, GROSS!!!!! (although i did feel bad about my comment)

Anyway. I sent her a long email, telling her i don't view her as a slut, and she knows this, blah blah blah, a long emotional email, including a fare amount of how she insulted me tonight.....i will get one in return,and it will no doubt be *****ing me out.

I don't know what to do with her....I WANT her as a friend, as she has been my best friend for almost a year and is a very good emotional support for me if i need it. I don't want to lose her, but at the same time, i can't keep fighting her like this, it brings me down too much. And i don't deserve to feel like that.

Any thoughts?

 

[Tano]

Why do you want her as a friend? Sounds like your still in love if you cant move on. What else can this women offer you except pain and misery?

Is she worth all this trouble? You will find many other beautiful women out there who will give you the respect you deserve and will truely like you without bringing all their emotional baggage to the relationship.

This women is gonna drag you down and make you too depressed to enjoy life. Go out there and meet new people.

 

[OddTech]

I don't know all the details of this. But basically when you turn to lovers, you reach a point of no return. When you come back as friends, things just don't feel "right" anymore. You retain the memories of each other having sex and sharing intimate moments. It's not the same.

Your problem is that you're around her TOO MUCH. You see each too often and you're talking to her like a girlfriend. Geez, give her the space and let her live her life. She probably has a bitter taste of you by now (this is probably true if you dump her). So my suggestion is to do what Tano suggest and meet other people and find other friends.

You took your chance to be lovers and it doesn't work. The consequence is that the friendship will suffer.

 

[DJ Jeff]

thanks for the advice...i have been dating and fvcking other women, and having a pretty good time. As a matter of fact, last night was probably my most favorite date.

Thanks guys.