Maintaining your online persona is more important than actually living it

[MrAddiction]

Next time you feel tempted, ask yourself if there's any chance the other guy will bother listening. If you don't think so then don't bother responding. If you get a sh!tty response then responding won't magically change their mind.

...and if somebody is just plain simple bothering or annoying you with his posts and his narcisism put him on ignore list. Always works great.

 

[Konada]

Hey....kid....I DID NOT make this thread. I don't make fake usernames. Me and Guru have been arguing, debating, etc., since 2015 both in public and in private.

Any Moderator on here can back me up, it's very easy to see if I'm some alternative username.

See this. You're being reactive to trollbait again. Why do you hold accountability to anyone on this forum to explain yourself?

You may not see it but its obvious as hell you have something to work on here. The way to deal with drama ridden men and women are the same. Emotional unreactiveness and taking away your attention.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

@ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Not sure why you're this harsh, Tenacity already admitted to his reactiveness. Are you just trying to piss him off? I don't think it's going to work this time.

Btw, that means you're wasting your time and effort like we just discussed is stupid. Trying to come off as better by bashing someone else, pfff. No respect for that dude.

Or maybe because there is some truth to what I'm saying and it actually makes sense why. Projecting your inferiority onto me through passive aggressive 'Oh you really aren't better than me ITDG, I don't respect you for that' is even more pathetic than Tenacity because it's the girliest thing a man can do. Way too catty and effeminate for my liking. Reread the post. Nowhere can you find me insinuating I'm better than you or anyone. You just feel that way because you're stupid enough to think this is a legit poster. Gtfo with your 'respect', as if I or anyone on this board needs it from you.

 

[Serenity]

Or maybe because there is some truth to what I'm saying and it actually makes sense why. Projecting your inferiority onto me through passive aggressive 'Oh you really aren't better than me ITDG, I don't respect you for that' is even more pathetic than Tenacity because it's the girliest thing a man can do. Way too catty and effeminate for my liking. Reread the post. Nowhere can you find me insinuating I'm better than you or anyone. You just feel that way because you're stupid enough to think this is a legit poster. Gtfo with your 'respect', as if I or anyone on this board needs it from you.

I didn't say there wasn't truth to what you were saying, in fact I said the exact opposite.

 

[Konada]

Or maybe because there is some truth to what I'm saying and it actually makes sense why. Projecting your inferiority onto me through passive aggressive 'Oh you really aren't better than me ITDG, I don't respect you for that' is even more pathetic than Tenacity because it's the girliest thing a man can do. Way too catty and effeminate for my liking. Reread the post. Nowhere can you find me insinuating I'm better than you or anyone. You just feel that way because you're stupid enough to think this is a legit poster. Gtfo with your 'respect', as if I or anyone on this board needs it from you.

This reminds me of women saying "we're not having sex tonight".

 

[Tenacity]

See this. You're being reactive to trollbait again. Why do you hold accountability to anyone on this forum to explain yourself?

You may not see it but its obvious as hell you have something to work on here. The way to deal with drama ridden men and women are the same. Emotional unreactiveness and taking away your attention.

Well, hey, I already know I need to work on that aspect. But I mean, someone accuses you of being another profile, there's nothing wrong with immediately addressing that.

Sosuave is like my personal journal but the reality is, I'm just not really getting much from this website that's even really helping me sort through issues I've had (which prompted me to come here). What are these issues?

- I still haven't found the "unicorn" I have described time and time again. This website has failed to provide any reasonable paths to finding this unicorn and honestly, has just made the search worse. If the unicorn doesn't exist, I'm still struggling with accepting that, and this website has done nothing to help me get into that state of contentment.

- I still feel internal anger towards my family and towards women in general, for the way I was treated growing up.

- I still feel as though I don't "belong" anywhere as an Educated Black Conservative. Black people hate me because I'm an Uncle Tom and white people hate me because I'm just another N-Word. This website has done nothing to help me with this.

I've actually GIVEN more to this website than what I have received. I don't know if I have honestly received anything from this website, OTHER THAN some guys motivating me over in the Health and Fitness thread to finally see my 6 pack. That's honestly it.

The reality is that my time here has pretty much run its course and I need to find other avenues available that might be able to actually ASSIST me with the issues/challenges I am having.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I didn't say there wasn't truth to what you were saying, in fact I said the exact opposite.

You have selective reading. Or you aren't very bright.

This reminds me of women saying "we're not having sex tonight".

For some reason, I can actually see what you mean by this lol

 

[MrAddiction]

I still haven't found the "unicorn"

That was quit frankly the first thing I got in to my head when coming to this site:There is no one!
Which means there is no such thing as a unicorn or a woman of your dreams. I think from time to time WE all fall back to feelings for wanting such a thing but reality is not that way.
Guy I you are here for nearly there years now: so I Do not know what you have already been reading and what not. So forgive me if I post something that you already know and your issue lies on a deeper ground. Let me know.
Read this
https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/30/there-is-no-one/

 

[MrAddiction]

- I still feel internal anger towards my family and towards women in general, for the way I was treated growing up.

That is just pointless. We all were brought up this way. It lies in every mans own responisibilty to question whatever was told him during his upbringing and even later on. Society does what serves society best. And so do women.
The same way there is no point hating a rattlesnake for being a rattlesnake, the same goes for women and society. Either you avoid them or Learn to deal with them ( rattlesnake, women, Society, whatsoever)
You can change neither of those things - only thing you can do is fine tuning your reaction and action towards those things. How much are you willing to give/ take and compromisse for these things.

 

[MrAddiction]

@Tenacity
Another thing came to my mind when replying to you.
For me the following was like an epipahny that unfortunately came a bit late, but eye opening. I had been guilty to the exactly described. Using Redpill techniques and mindset to reach bluepill goals.

Give it a read. Maybe it is the missing link in your thoughtprocess.
https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/22/dream-girls-and-children-with-dynamite/

 

[Reykhel]

Well, hey, I already know I need to work on that aspect. But I mean, someone accuses you of being another profile, there's nothing wrong with immediately addressing that.

Sosuave is like my personal journal but the reality is, I'm just not really getting much from this website that's even really helping me sort through issues I've had (which prompted me to come here). What are these issues?

- I still haven't found the "unicorn" I have described time and time again. This website has failed to provide any reasonable paths to finding this unicorn and honestly, has just made the search worse. If the unicorn doesn't exist, I'm still struggling with accepting that, and this website has done nothing to help me get into that state of contentment.

- I still feel internal anger towards my family and towards women in general, for the way I was treated growing up.

- I still feel as though I don't "belong" anywhere as an Educated Black Conservative. Black people hate me because I'm an Uncle Tom and white people hate me because I'm just another N-Word. This website has done nothing to help me with this.

I've actually GIVEN more to this website than what I have received. I don't know if I have honestly received anything from this website, OTHER THAN some guys motivating me over in the Health and Fitness thread to finally see my 6 pack. That's honestly it.

The reality is that my time here has pretty much run its course and I need to find other avenues available that might be able to actually ASSIST me with the issues/challenges I am having.

Yep, it's probably not repaid the time, energy and emotion you've put into it.

You've realised that for a while now.

It's an important question "How is this serving me?"

We often lose sight of why we started upon a certain path and the original motivation gets obscured. You are back in touch with your original motivation.

Now what.

 

[Tenacity]

That was quit frankly the first thing I got in to my head when coming to this site:There is no one!
Which means there is no such thing as a unicorn or a woman of your dreams. I think from time to time WE all fall back to feelings for wanting such a thing but reality is not that way.
Guy I you are here for nearly there years now: so I Do not know what you have already been reading and what not. So forgive me if I post something that you already know and your issue lies on a deeper ground. Let me know.
Read this
https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/30/there-is-no-one/

The trick is to learn YOU are the unicorn. YOU are what you have been searching, striving, and hoping for! The fact that you are here trying to better yourself in all areas of life means that YOU are what you have been searching for all your life. The "one" DOES exist! And he's staring right at you in the mirror. So supplicate to the one like you've always wanted to. Roll out the red carpet.

I tend to BELIEVE what you guys are saying, which helps me begin to move over into the complete Red Pill side and get rid of looking to find the "unicorn" girl I keep describing.

But there's a section of guys on this forum that keep telling me that the girl I'm looking for, DOES exist and they run into her in DROVES. Like everyday. And that there's just still MAJOR things wrong with Tenacity and that's why I haven't found her.

The guys saying this have been Guru, Legend, and BeTheChange for the most part. They routinely talk about how they are meeting these unicorns everywhere. BeTheChange said he's with the unicorn I've been looking for right now in another country.

So here's my question, which side is right??

- Do the unicorns NOT exist and I need to stop looking for them, eliminate my stupid criteria, and accept the market of women as it is??

- Or, is The Guru said right, and I'm doing something majorly wrong or have things I have to majorly work on...then I will see these unicorns?

That's one of the reasons I keep coming back here, I STILL don't know the answer to this 100%.

Now Granted....

- Now granted, Guru could just be fvcking with me and trolling me. Because Tenacity can't seem to do ANYTHING right to Guru. I build up a very high net worth for my age (based on every measuring metric out there) and he calls that piker shyt. I take my body fat percentage down to see my 6 pack and he talks shyt about that. I buy a sports car (Camaro) and he talks shyt about that. I invest in Index Funds and he talks shyt about that. So Guru could just be fvcking with me, IDK?

- Then granted, BeTheChange could just be flat out lying about being with these unicorns. I have caught the guy in multiple lies on this forum many damn times. So IDK??

But I at least have to consider their feedback because they could actually be telling the truth in this regard. Shyt if I'm doing something wrong or have shyt I need to majorly work on....shyt I want to know so I can do it. But if it's really a market problem, I want to KNOW that so I can reduce my criteria, stop focusing on unicorns, and ACCEPT women for what they are.

 

[lizardking82]

I don't understand why some guys here try so hard. There is no need to do that LOL you disagree with someone? Happens almost everyday in life. No need to get hyperactive about it, I think.

 

[Von]

Any Tenacity thread ends up being "closed/blocked".... surprised sometimes how he didnt get banned lol. He must be sleeping with a M....

This site is way better investment than Facebook. I come here basically every free time I have lol. At least you read and you learn.

Flash news to everyone: Life Ain't Happening HERE its OUTSIDE

We all came here for a reason, make use of that reason.

Sosuave is for me a journal I can have with strangers, and learn, while not looking too beta/desparate or haven't had the courage to share it with my surrounding.

Now, remember this age-old quote: "always be weary of the quiet one"

Online forum I believe emphasize it more: if you quiet here, clearly you doing something somewhere.

Always Actions over Words.

If you have issues here, you have issues elswere, if you preach doesnt mean you back it up: people who talk about money but dont have any, anti-gay preacher actually being gay, lessons you theory know but never applied.

At least the reader can read, learn and act.

I appreciate every advice and I go further, I seek to understand the poster and his context and how it reflect to my life.... you learn alot just by being quiet and reading (or listening and being quiet).. cause no matter how "anonymous" a online foum his... people deliver their secrets when you let them chat long enough to trap themselve in.. and everyone does it cause we all love to talk about ourselves.

In réal life.. am I a dj? In réal life to I apply everything I read and write about? Definitely not 100% but am always working on making it more perfect and improving

 

[MrAddiction]

I tend to BELIEVE what you guys are saying, which helps me begin to move over into the complete Red Pill side and get rid of looking to find the "unicorn" girl I keep describing.

But there's a section of guys on this forum that keep telling me that the girl I'm looking for, DOES exist and they run into her in DROVES. Like everyday. And that there's just still MAJOR things wrong with Tenacity and that's why I haven't found her.

The guys saying this have been Guru, Legend, and BeTheChange for the most part. They routinely talk about how they are meeting these unicorns everywhere. BeTheChange said he's with the unicorn I've been looking for right now in another country.

So here's my question, which side is right??

- Do the unicorns NOT exist and I need to stop looking for them, eliminate my stupid criteria, and accept the market of women as it is??

- Or, is The Guru said right, and I'm doing something majorly wrong or have things I have to majorly work on...then I will see these unicorns?

That's one of the reasons I keep coming back here, I STILL don't know the answer to this 100%.

Now Granted....

- Now granted, Guru could just be fvcking with me and trolling me. Because Tenacity can't seem to do ANYTHING right to Guru. I build up a very high net worth for my age (based on every measuring metric out there) and he calls that piker shyt. I take my body fat percentage down to see my 6 pack and he talks shyt about that. I buy a sports car (Camaro) and he talks shyt about that. I invest in Index Funds and he talks shyt about that. So Guru could just be fvcking with me, IDK?

- Then granted, BeTheChange could just be flat out lying about being with these unicorns. I have caught the guy in multiple lies on this forum many damn times. So IDK??

But I at least have to consider their feedback because they could actually be telling the truth in this regard. Shyt if I'm doing something wrong or have shyt I need to majorly work on....shyt I want to know so I can do it. But if it's really a market problem, I want to KNOW that so I can reduce my criteria, stop focusing on unicorns, and ACCEPT women for what they are.

Tenacity, this whole post screams insecurity - no pun intended. There is no absolute Truth an everybody lives in his own Reality. You ask is the one side right or the other? No one can tell you. It s just like relgiion: Do you believe or don't you? You Must decide for yourself - noone can tell you.
Guy you guy a sportscar - that you like....why Do you give a fcuk what somebody says about that.
First rule in the DJ Book : mit giving a fcuk. You can listen to advice but at least you have to decide what you consider good or Bad adcice. Sometimes you must take from both in a dialectical way.
Are there unicorns/ dreamgirls? i would say no. But maybe there are. Question is only if all you want to Do with your life is going and find one? The opposite might be MGTOW. Both is extreme. The middle way would be, living your life, interacting with women, having fun and if by accident a unicorn appears you are a lucky guy and take it, but if it does not appear you have nothing lost.
But always keep in mind even a Girl that might e seem like a unicorn when you meet her might turn to a fcuking bytch later on or just plain simple turn out to be AWALT.

http://no-maam.blogspot.in/2004/03/bonecrcker-71-not-all-women-are-like.html

Might also be interesting
http://no-maam.blogspot.in/2004/03/bonecrcker-91-could-she-just-walk-out.html

And also consider the women might be the Problem and not you:
http://no-maam.blogspot.in/2010/10/bonecrker-47-living-in-la-la-land.html
http://no-maam.blogspot.in/2004/03/bonecrcker-80-binge-and-purge.html
http://no-maam.blogspot.in/2004/03/bonecrker-61-there-is-no-pattern-to.html

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Nothing is gained from maintaining an online persona, a lot is gained from living up to it. What we do shouldn't be to impress strangers on a forum, the entire purpose of actually doing it is to benefit ourselves.

I don't care if some guys here have big mouths bragging about sh!t they don't actually do, or even sh!t they actually do. I'm not impressed anyways and it's really their loss if they're faking it, not mine.

Actually living the life I claim to be living is far far better than impressing you guys, there's simply not anything to gain from the latter.

There should be no online persona... that would be purely delusionary. Save the persona for real life. "Online' is a digital linguistic/ conceptual space. It's simply the discussion of impersonal ideas.

If you get involved at the personal level perhaps you suffer an addiction... ad-diction; to words.