Maintaining the Mystery

[Trapspringer]

Maintaining that mysterious persona not only makes me a challenge but it is a challenge just to maintain it. How is one supposed to keep this up without seeming like he is hiding so much about himself.

One can only keep a lady talking about herself for so long before she says “I tell you every thing about me but I hardly know any thing about you.” I get this often.

How am I to proceed then? How can I keep up some stellar convo without telling some interesting things about myself that would make me less mysterious? Should I avoid talking about my family members and what they do for a living. Should I not tell her about some funny mischievous acts in my childhood?

I just would like to know a good method of pacing myself. If I can’t see a particular girl for a while or if I have to next her for some reason in the beginning, I feel that she probably wouldn’t miss me as much if she doesn’t know much about me.

 

[dirtsphere]

i agree. it's hard to strike that balance between appearing to have no career, no interests, and no knowledge and giving her your credit card number and telling her which hand you wipe your ass with.

 

[Trapspringer]

i agree. it's hard to strike that balance between appearing to have no career, no interests, and no knowledge and giving her your credit card number and telling her which hand you wipe your ass with.

Yep.............. you feel me, alright.

 

[Rhetorical]

if you ever come across with that statement "I tell you every thing about me but I hardly know any thing about you" , simply respond with a smile and teasingly say "I know girl, what're you gonna do about it?

 

[rtx1]

[QUOTE simply respond with a smile and teasingly say "I know girl, what're you gonna do about it? [/B][/QUOTE]

ugh NO! she DID do something... she opened a door and told you she's interested. Don't play games... well.. yes, sometimes. games should bemutual, maybe a little at first for flitration.... but if you make her play 20 questions you'll exhaust her.

offer anything you want to, offer anything you're willing to share. you don't have to give it all at once, offer it, she may ask more questions which will make it easier. If she doesn't - offer a little more. The conversation doesn't have to be steller or engaging.... just sincere.

 

[dontmindme]

Reveal superficial things at first. Don't go too deep into who you are, what you like, etc etc. That way you share some of yourself with her, but still maintain some mystery.

 

[Trapspringer]

Reveal superficial things at first. Don't go too deep into who you are, what you like, etc etc. That way you share some of yourself with her, but still maintain some mystery.

That is my whole point. Isn't superficial uninteresting? How can a woman be crazy about you if she only knows where you live and that you like movies and sex? Well, you wouldn't flat out state the latter but you know what I mean.

 

[Starman]

The whole thing is to just feed them little nibbles here and there..make them wonder exactly what you are about without giving any clear indication.


If she says what do you do, and you are in sales say "Well lets just say I make alot of people happy everyday...blah bla blah (even if she suspects you are a drug dealer..this will turn her on even more)

then let her DIG for more information..if the theory is true ..that women love chasing things that are hard to catch...your little bit by bit feedings (think of a food trail of seeds)..will keep the woman eating piece..by piece..in hopes of finally hitting the storehouse where the food is hidden.

If you give the chick the map and exact directions where the food supply is stored..she will eat..become content..get up and leave.(unless you really do have a cool job like movie producer, musician, FBI, secret agent etc..in that case throw it in ther faces)

Leave the chick hungry..keep mixing truths with 1/2 truths..and talk about them

most byatches say they hate when a guy talks about themselves too much on a date anyways

 

[vdk]

I noticed when I play mr mysterious I hear women talk about themselves to the point I lose interest in them and think of women as self centred. If I appear more open they lose interest in me!! I agree with dirtsphere in that it is hard to find a right balance. lately Ive been dressing really well, changed my hairstyle and adopting the 'strong silent type' approach. result? women I usually talk to kino me often to try and get me into the conversation as I pretend to be disinterested.