Haha. Okay.
But what SHOULD I come across as? Any suggestions? I tried the "businessman" look a couple years ago wearing a suit but that didn't last.
It's not about a look it's about your vibe.
I feel like part of the problem is you may crave women more than most men, and women will pick up in that.
Not so long ago I was pretty unhappy in life. Furthermore I felt like the only way to make myself happier was to get laid more. Now when you are unhappy with your life it's pretty tough to attract women in my opinion. So this just made me more unhappy and even more thirsty for women. Women are disgusted by depressed, sex thirsty males and they can smell you a mile off.
So basically I had to forget about women for a while. I got therapy and started working on myself, doing stuff I enjoy and setting life goals that were more aligned with what I wanted and not what other people (including hot women) wanted. After a while I began to be fulfilled with my goals outside of women and it made me more happy with myself. I also picked up on an old hobby which I am now progressing with so much that it could potentially lead to a new career. So I found a passion for something and grew my self esteem and since then I am no where near as concerned with getting women as I used to be.
The flip side to this is that now my vibe is attractive to women. I am more happy, I joke around more and I'm more fun to be around. I can chat to a really hot girl and not care as much what she thinks about me or whether I get her to like me. I'm already fulfilled by being me and doing the stuff I like to do, so getting her in bed would be just a bonus. My confidence is way higher.