Lying about past relationships....

[Ken785]

i have never had relationship before or gone on any real dates....

but when i was out "hanging out" and making out and stuff...the relationship issue popped up, i found myself lying about past relationships (but never had one before) just so i dont seem like a loser that never had a GF before at 22.

what do you guys do when youre out with a girl and she asks you about the girls you been out with or dated when you never been before...do you lie about it or tell her you never had a GF or been out or kissed a girl before and look like a loser??

 

[Qualtran]

I'm in the opposite situation. Some girls dont care and I feel fine telling them, but others that will get a little intimidated by how many relationships I've been in don't get an answer.

If a girl starts asking me about how many girls I've dated, had sex with, etc, and I don't want her to know (thats none of her business anyways), I dont give her a real answer. I just say something like, "oh, wouldn't you like to know," or just change the subject.

I find it a lot better to work around a subject than to directly lie about it.

 

[Reed247]

tell the truth

why do women go for older men?
because experience.

don't tell her you never dated before .

 

[Ken785]

what would you guys say to that though??

 

[duttylove]

I wouldnt recommend lying or making stuff up that you havnt done. Mainly because you will probly forget exactly what you said and if the subject comes up at a later date you going to screw your self. I would impliment some c&f when asked eg if she asks you about your past. in a jokey tone say "well i used to date my cousin for a while" then change the subject. not sure if you get away with that line but couldnt think of any thing else rite but hopefully you get the picture.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Tell her "Do you think it would be fair if your ex boyfriends talked about you to their new girlfriends?"

 

[englishcrap]

Your doing the right thing..the minute you be honest with her she wont even want to know you

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by Ken785
i have never had relationship before or gone on any real dates....

but when i was out "hanging out" and making out and stuff...the relationship issue popped up, i found myself lying about past relationships (but never had one before) just so i dont seem like a loser that never had a GF before at 22.

what do you guys do when youre out with a girl and she asks you about the girls you been out with or dated when you never been before...do you lie about it or tell her you never had a GF or been out or kissed a girl before and look like a loser??

you are definitly doing the right thing by lying

 

[Nexxus]

I say 'I'll tell you if I get to know you a bit better', whenever something similar to that happens

 

[thefonz]

lie...... keep it simple, don't get caught......lie now so that one day you won't have to.....

 

[diceman]

Don't lie!!!!

If theres only one big life lesson i've learned in my life, then it's NOT TO LIE. Big lies i mean.

They will ALWAYS catch up with you. Always. When a close friend or someone you're close with finds out you've made up a whole chunk of your history up, they won't be able to trust you, & they won't take anything you say seriously. They won't respect you.

Believe me.. i've learnt this the hard way.
I know whats it like to be in your early 20's & never having a proper relationship with a female. & if someone brings the subject up, DON'T LIE.. but certainly don't tell the truth either. Nothing turns a woman off more than a virgin.

Talk around the subject. Laugh. Joke about it. & change the subject.

The best example i've read here was something like this..

HER : How many people have you 'been' with?
YOU : er.. I dunno. Do midgets only count as half?

Anyway, DON'T LIE. Don't answer it directly or seriously. etc.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I've always wondered why some guys feel that they have to lie to women. I've never felt that it was necessary to tell them everything but I never understood being so afraid as needing to lie.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Just say that you enjoyed women before but to have a "relationship" she has to be very special!

 

[escobar04]

I just tell it like it is

I just turned 18 but before I've never really cared for girls

however, I've hed numerous dates andonly one of them was right, and we dated and did all that stuff for like 4 months until she LJBFed me but now I'm getting even better at this whole girls stuff
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....no real dates at 22 huh???

well, just never ever tell that to a girl!

that's sorta alarming

 

[Skullcrusher]

I always tell girls that I dated a couple of Hollywood *****s like Paris Hilton or Jessica Simpson. The girls instantly feel sorry for me and begin sucking my **** right after.

 

[NewMan]

I was in the same situation as you - and I lied. It came back to bite me in the a## yrs later.

The girl was a hottie and a keeper. I didn't think I would have much of a chance with her to be honest - so I lied to make myself more interesting.

Well, we hit it off - ended up living together - and yrs later she busted me on my lies.....

So what I would do is tell the truth. But tell it in such a way as to sound interesting....

Something like...

"I not found anyone interesting enough to date long term"

Or

"Up until now I've been to focused on my hobbies and future - but I'm now on the market for a intelligent, classy fun girl."

Point is, you don't have to say like your a loser.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by NewMan
I was in the same situation as you - and I lied. It came back to bite me in the a## yrs later.

The girl was a hottie and a keeper. I didn't think I would have much of a chance with her to be honest - so I lied to make myself more interesting.

Well, we hit it off - ended up living together - and yrs later she busted me on my lies.....

So what I would do is tell the truth. But tell it in such a way as to sound interesting....

Something like...

"I not found anyone interesting enough to date long term"

Or

"Up until now I've been to focused on my hobbies and future - but I'm now on the market for a intelligent, classy fun girl."

Point is, you don't have to say like your a loser.

You were petty to lie about past relationships. She was petty to hold this against you years later.