Luke Warm Approaches

[PK]

Hey Fellas,

I've been with the board for a while now, but only post every so often, mostly when I need help or an eval that I can't find in the bible or under other topics.

I just recently moved to a new area for graduate school, so things have been kinda slow in meeting new women. However I know what one of the number rules here is and that's:

1#MAKE SURE TO APPROACH AND ASK FOR HER NUMBER!

That's probably one of the best pieces of advice that I hear resonating through out this forum.

Anyways every mornning I go to the school gym to work out and almost every morning a cute brunette smiles at me. So one day I do a slick approach and start a conversation while on the cardio machines. Which in my opinion is an excellent way for any guy to start a convo with a girl because they are not going anywhere.

We have a convo about sports, how she doesn't really now much and that's it. no number I felt kinda shy about it. Again a few days later we have a more in depth convo while doing cardio. She's says I will see you tommorow and she enjoyed talking. no number

Damn, time for me to bone up, so I devise a script in my head to get her number in a non threating type way or maybe you could classify it as AFCish. For any guy that has trouble thinking on his feet I would definitely advise a script in asking out a woman. Think of what you're going to say or do before you go at it. You can even test it out on this forum beforehand to get a response.

Well the next day which is today, I tell myself YOU WILL DO THIS OR YOU WILL PERISH!, my own way of getting myself to do something I'm hesistant to do. I know she's going to be at the cardio machine, so I play out my game plan and this is what I want you guys to eval.

I'm all dressed in street clothes and I approach say hello and then I ask a question.

Me: Would you mind if I asked you a question regarding my graduate thesis, it would really help me out?

Her: Sure

Me: Just keep in mind this is all hypothectical , but let's say hypothectically of course that you are approached by a handsome, charming, young graduate student and this grad student asks you out to coffee sometimes as friends (I know this is probably a retarded thing to do, but I figured it's less threating). What is the probability that you would go and hang out with him?

Her: Most probably so

Me: above 80%

Her: yeah

Me: interesting, so how bout you help me out further with my thesis, and I could call you sometime and we can go get coffee.

Her: Ok do you have a pen

Me: No but I'll remember it.

So that's it fellas I felt this approach was really luke warm, and well kinda afcish. It seems kinda wishy washy and weak, maybe I could have done things better or maybe I could do something to throw me in a more romantic light. I haven't dated in a while so I would appreciate any advice. Thanks in advacnce.

 

[golf299]

i wouldnt have asked her out like you did... im pretty sure most people who have some experience wouldnt do it that way. however, you did and it worked. congrats. this only proves that if a girl is into you, you can't really do much wrong. no matter how you would have asked this girl out, she would have said yes. now the challenge is keeping her IL up. good luck

 

[Tango-Kid]

Hello PK!

Congratulations! I wouldn´t call it AFCish to get a number from a girl and to get her for a date!

Maybe what you said is a little bit AFCish, but it really doesn´t matter because the result is good. Now you have made the approach - the approach on the next girl will be easier. Try not to plan what to say - though saying something that´s planned is definately much better than saying nothing!

Tango-Kid

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Good going =)))

Btw to those who think this approach lacks the confident kind it all depends on HOW it's said. If the line with the hypothetical question is said in a suggestive and confident and open manner it's good but it can also be said in a protective and shy manner which might work but is not as good.

 

[Tango-Kid]

Yep, it´s not too much about what you say, but about how you say it.

It´s possible even without saying nothing.

 

[PK]

I guess that's true, she did give me alot of signs, that she seemed open to me. i.e smiling, open to convo, always saying goodbye.

It's more important to read into those bits too and in the end your approach really doesn't even matter.

Well it's good to see the board has grown so much, I still remember the days of pook, red xl, and antidump, this site has definitely matured well.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

PK - this works as long as you are saying it with a tone of affirmartion and smiling...she obviously knows you are asking her out, so it is not necessarily luke-warm.

I would never have said "as friends" - now she may think you only want to be friends. If you took out 'as friends' in your statement, then it is implied that it is for purposes beyond friendship. Now you are going have to use your words and make your actions known that it is not friendship that you want. Do this as soon as possible, to check for interest level.