Ltr

[Rainman4707]

I've been seeing HB7.3 for over 3 months now.
She has been wanting the relationship for a while now.

I've read the DJ Bible & threads about LTR's & soaked in a lot of useful information including the mentality of looking for the best you can get for a LTR & not settling.

I'm aware my power over her will be reduced if I enter LTR, but I am looking for the whole family thing (that's my goal)

I can tell that she is starting to think what am I to you? You've been seeing me for over 3 months now so you either want me or not? I really like you a lot, but want commitment. I feel like you're keeping me around until something better comes along

I will just to her to relax...if she gives me an ultimatum i'll tell her what I have been telling her give it time

 

[djthiago1]

Tell her you need two weeks to think about it, then go for it.

 

[Rainman4707]

She told me she wanted LTR about a month ago. I told her I'd think about it. Since then I've just told her I'm enjoying your company, we'll see what happens

 

[apprenticedj]

Your analysis and plan sounds great to me. Keep her guessing I say.

Now please tell me how she's a HB7.3? Such a specific number!!

 

[Rainman4707]

Thanks man. Lol. She's went from 7.3 to 7.5 back to 7.3 to 7.5
Well she's higher than a seven, lower than an 8 meh

 

[Rainman4707]

Update :-

She mentioned LTR last night - expressing her frustrations that we are not in a relationship yet. - she said there will be a time limit on the "way we are going" at the moment in other words in we are not in relationship in a wekk or two then she says we will go our separate ways (she said this half hearted & I think she likes me to much to finish things with me )

 

[GS750]

She gave you the ultimatum. The next one will be "I want a ring or we go our separate ways". This chick sounds demanding. BPD!!! Just kidding.

 

[Rainman4707]

She has told me that she wants baby

She says that "we've been seeing each other for 3 months - we get on well so why not enter a relationship.
I keep telling her there is no rush, but she says that's bull****. She said she cannot understand why I wouldn't want to enter a relationship & that there is nothing wrong with her so it must be an issue with me.

She told me after our first month that we enjoy each spending time with each other, so we should enter a relationship....she said last night that if I asked most people they will tell me that a guy normally asks the lass if she will enter a relationship with him.

Like I said the feeling from her is - we've been seeing each other 4 months - she wants relationship - why does he keep putting it off - She wants to know - I just keep telling her "I'm enjoying your company - she wants realtionship

 

[Jair213]

Update :-

She mentioned LTR last night - expressing her frustrations that we are not in a relationship yet. - she said there will be a time limit on the "way we are going" at the moment in other words in we are not in relationship in a wekk or two then she says we will go our separate ways (she said this half hearted & I think she likes me to much to finish things with me )

got her masmster spinning emotionally trying to figure you out witch is really good bro!!!!

now if shes ltr material i say you close the deal just be like ''we could try it'':cheer:

 

[Jair213]

She gave you the ultimatum. The next one will be "I want a ring or we go our separate ways". This chick sounds demanding. BPD!!! Just kidding.

LOL

and she told him she wants a kid now... that cannot be good. wtf HUGE RED FLAG!!!!

run for the hills.... :crackup:

 

[GS750]

Talking about babies is a red flag. Make sure she doesn't poke holes in your Trojans. Entrapment! In all seriousness, if you're feeling it just be like "meh, okay". Is she LTR material?

 

[Rainman4707]

I do enjoy spending time with her. I cannot see much changing if I did say "ok then we'll be in relationship" nothing much will change. She does know that I want the whole family thing & not player lifestyle.

The "baby" thing is another story. She told me she wanted baby., that I could get her pregnant & have nothing to do with baby..just walk away. She said that if my name wasn't on birth certificate then I have wont have to contribute at all to baby.
I told her that I wouldn't do that..if she wants baby then maybe it's best to find someone else or we could keep seeing each other & maybe have baby in future. She said she has strong feelings for me & dose'nt want to lose me. She agreed to keep seeing me & see what happens.
Then a week later she is telling me she's gonna get birth control needle in arm which prevents pregnancy for two years (strange)
She has the needle in her arm now so she wants me to come inside her. I pulled out last night & spunked all over her body AGAIN she was angry/emotionally upset..she couldn't understand why I did it...she felt as though I didn't trust her..she was upset.. I told her that I am used to pulling out/wearing protection with women & that I realise my behaviour looks very paranoid.
She has birth control needle in her arm so I must be being really paranoid not to come in her right??

 

[LiveYourDream]

I do enjoy spending time with her. I cannot see much changing if I did say "ok then we'll be in relationship" nothing much will change. She does know that I want the whole family thing & not player lifestyle.

The "baby" thing is another story. She told me she wanted baby., that I could get her pregnant & have nothing to do with baby..just walk away. She said that if my name wasn't on birth certificate then I have wont have to contribute at all to baby.
I told her that I wouldn't do that..if she wants baby then maybe it's best to find someone else or we could keep seeing each other & maybe have baby in future. She said she has strong feelings for me & dose'nt want to lose me. She agreed to keep seeing me & see what happens.
Then a week later she is telling me she's gonna get birth control needle in arm which prevents pregnancy for two years (strange)
She has the needle in her arm now so she wants me to come inside her. I pulled out last night & spunked all over her body AGAIN she was angry/emotionally upset..she couldn't understand why I did it...she felt as though I didn't trust her..she was upset.. I told her that I am used to pulling out/wearing protection with women & that I realise my behaviour looks very paranoid.

You are NOT being paranoid! Do NOT c*m in her unless you are willing for her to get pregnant right now! Are you ready for this woman to be pregnant with your kid and the responsibilities forever more?

Some female hormonal contraceptions are NOT effective right away! Some take a whole monthly cycle before they are to be used against pregnancy! Do NOT be swayed in the moment or by her emotions!

Frankly, I am not certain if she is more into you or more into your baby-maker.

Be careful! She has already told you she is absolutely ok being a single parent, to YOUR kid! WTF! As for saying she won't want child support, that will change after she purchases diapers for the first time. 18 years court mandated child support not worth the risk.

You say you want a kid and a family eventually. That's great. I'd bet your ideal woman and mother to your kids isn't a woman, who propositions a guy to get her pregnant within the first month or two of seeing a guy and isn't concerned if YOUR baby has a father in it's life!!

If she is already telling you she is happy to be a single mom, that tells you straight up, it's about the baby, will always be about the baby and not you!

I know it's harsh. Watch out.

 

[GS750]

Sounds like she wants a kid, and wants you to help make it. By saying that you could knock her up, then walk away...that would concern me.

 

[stevo]

Lol the responses are priceless. Way to go brothers set this man straight.

In my AFC days I did the pressuring of "what are we" and "be my girlfriend" pattern, does not work, thats a female trait.

As a DJ, if a girl pressures me like your girl's doing you, I WILL NOT GET IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER! really what's the hurry?

Thats a manipulative set up, if you haven't been with a crazy BPD chic you might not get it, if you have then you know to run for the hills when THEY DO NOT GIVE YOU TIME TO PROCESS SHEET FOR YOURSELF.

You def don't want to get this girl pregnant, PLEASE DO NOT until you've successfully qualified her as who you want a baby by, def not me, she sound a little off, just a little.

I'd call her bluff, I really would.

In simple english, she's saying: relinquish your power in the relationship to me or I walk. I'm setting the standard and pace of our relationship, if you don't accept it then I walk.

As to offloading inside her, tell her you're not used to it, you could offload in her mouth if she wants it that bad.

Tell her its not about her, right now you're going at your own pace.

Learn from those who's been through it. YOU WOULD NOT LIKE MAKING A BABY WITH A WOMAN YOURE NOT HAPPY WITH.

 

[Rainman4707]

Thanks for the responses guys. I really appreciate it, it helps me see things more clearly & improves me.

Yeah I did tell her "You really want a baby so you will do anything to get one I think" she did not like me saying this.

I'll wear condoms for a while. It wasn't me who told her to get the implant (she done that herself) so she can think what she likes.

Yes I will not be rushed into a relationship.

 

[Naughty Fins]

OP you did well. I commend your field report.

 

[El Payaso]

She sounds crazy. Be careful. She might cut your **** off while you're sleeping at night.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Yeah I did tell her "You really want a baby so you will do anything to get one I think" she did not like me saying this.

Because you called a spade a spade. Women are all about the ellipsis...

How old is she OP?

 

[LMFAO]

You have the power in the relationship with her and she doesn't like it.

That's what guys have with girls they fvck but haven't commited to.

She's being needy and showing a lot of interest while you're cool about it.

Maybe she's in a rush to get married, difficult to say until we get more information.