Radharc said:I subscribe to this school of thought in situations like these. Why should you let yourself be dragged to verbal duels when you did nothing to provoke them? Besides, having some snappy comebacks prepared is no guarantee the guy won´t have a better one and it will backfire.
When sh1t like this happens I tend to think of it, primarily, not as some guy trying to steal my girl (that too, but its secondary) but as some guy that decided it would be ok to disrespect me, like some random guy coming out of the blue and deciding it is ok to cut you in on some line and then laugh about it. Now imagine he does that on a consistent basis? It´s between me and him, has nothing to do with the girl.
So in this situations I dont let it phase me when I´m with the girl, what I do then find the guy alone, no witnesses no nothing, and have a talk with him, just get the message across that you are not happy with his behaviour, you mean business and are prepared to make nasty things happen.
The idea is making the other guy realize that you dont like him, so he has no business treating you like you´re one of his buddies with whom he can make all those snappy ****y and funny jokes.
Honestly, this is where I fall into these days. I used to be the quiet computer nerd type, but after some real life sh1t, I find it hard to accept disrespect. maybe it's just getting older. Maybe its having to deal with a my ex's thug boyfriends and having to step up or be a bytch in front of my daughter, or maybe its some of the other things I had to do to survive. but I will snap and split your fvcking head open. Don't test. So before I get to that point...I would probably pull you to the side, send her in the apartment and give you a real stern and solemn warning. The next time it happened I would probably give you a smile and a wink and then catch you in the parking lot later when no one is around and beat the sh1t out of you. I really try to avoid those situations because I know I'll end up in jail and you'll end up in hell. Which is in part why I sold my guns. That type of stuff tends to escalate when nobody wants to back down. Over my daughter, I was never going to back down and those guys knew it. Over some chic I'm just screwing, I could care less. I'd probably just give the guy some firm eye contact and say "funny guy, do I know you?"
I haven't been in love is so long, I have no idea what I would do.
I guess this might come off as some E thuggery, but believe me its not. I get my bruce banner on. Just don't make me angry man. Nobody will be happy if that happens.