LTR Problems Please Help

[EverymeEveryou]

LTR of one year im 26 she is 23 college student. She lyed to me and went out with a guy she has been spoking for two years in the net, and meet in irl two times (nothing physical not even a kiss she says) , she said she felt something for him, and is divided. She dosent want to loose me but at the same time she isnt sure what feels for the other guy. I told her from the begining to be ****ing honest with me no matter what and from the day she didnt have feelings for me im mature enough to end everything without regrets. Anyway i told her that i dont want to be second choice and dont want ther to be with me for the wrong reasons and have the other guys in the head, if so things are finnished between us and i dont want her not even as a friend, and i would cut everything with her. I told her that i still loved her but im hurt and it will be hard to have the same trust. Im in the verge of finishing everything no matter what. After this talk she phoned me a couple of hours later telling that its me that she wants and its not two encounters that will give away everything we built in common. Anyway she says she wants to keep the guy as a friend cause she has some kinda connection with him mutual interests and been spoking for two years on the net, and wants to have a friendship with him. ( Yeah right she just told me in the afternoon she is divided and wanted a time, but as i said above i told her i give no ****ing times if its over its over and i dont want too see nevermore and i will not be waiting for her)

Im not jealous type but what the **** if she truly wants to be with me she has to cut everything with the guy not even a ****ing hello. Thats what my gut felling says , if she dosent agree with that dosent matter to me . Game Over

Whats your guys view on this ?

 

[Tyron]

Well usually it shouldn't matter if a gal has male friends. But after she pulled that "i don't know with whom I wanna be with" s*** I would dump her ass so fast. You really have to think about your relationship and whetever she's the one you wanna be with. Obviously she's already thinking this herself. And you couldn't propably handle the situation where she has him as a friend, and there won't be a situation where she won't talk to him. I only see one outcome for this, and you propably already know what it is.

 

[EverymeEveryou]

I Agree with you Tyron anyone thinks the situation is salvagable

 

[cordoncordon]

I certainly wouldn't let those 2 still be friends and communicate if you decide to make it a go with her.

What i would do is preemptive strike and break up with her. That is the only way to scare her straight into thinking she is losing you and make her realize what she is risking by still seeing this guy. If she then begs you to come back, you know she probably won't be seeing this guy any longer. I would also make her call the guy in front of you and have her tell him she never wants to see him again. If you just accept her back now and allow them to be friends, I can guarantee you this issue will be coming up again and again, and she wil probably end up leaving you for him. Not to mention she will have lost a lot of respect for you as well.

 

[DavenJuan]

I have been in similar situations before and i can tell you from experience that once she has "feelings" for someone else its OVER. There is no salvage. Look at it like this...

You are the GREAT CATCH, we all already know this. Do you think a KING would allow himself to be put in this situation?? There is no second guessing or "i like this guy too". Once she started having feelings for this guy she lost out.

Take this as a learning experience....one thing i have learned that goes both ways is that if someone else is interested in a third party (whether it be you or her) then something wasnt right in the first place. Good luck and remember...its only about YOU

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Im not jealous type but what the **** if she truly wants to be with me she has to cut everything with the guy not even a ****ing hello. Thats what my gut felling says , if she dosent agree with that dosent matter to me . Game Over ...

Why don't you make a decision based on your feelings, needs and the situation? Why are you waiting on what she does, hasn't she done enough?

 

[KontrollerX]

You're doing the right thing.

Don't date women with guy friends.

I don't care what anyone here says or anywhere else about this subject.

Such as oh he's AFC its alright or don't be insecure etc.

Such thinking and advice is is utter nonsense and counter productive to finding yourself a healthy relationship because even if the woman views the guy as a friend the guy doesn't view her as a friend but an opportunity and he will take that opportunity if your relationship goes through a bad spell and she's emotional vulnerable to him.

Date women with only female friends.

They are the safest bet since nothing in this life is a sure bet.

The advice I just gave is if you're looking for a girlfriend and a "healthy relationship".

If you just want a fvck buddy or a fling date all the women with guy friends that you want and like Last Man Standing would say while you are doing this keep in mind that you are only the next pimp in line since you are not dating healthy relationship candidates you're just out for a fvck.