You remember I met a girlfriend and we were in love but were having some arguments like normal couples do, things got better and we were more settled. She always used to tell me how she wanted my child and often used to say she can’t wait to have one, she always mentioned how she loved me and can’t wait for us to have a baby etc. I began to use contraception and told her where I stand on this, that I do want children but in a couple of months’ time when I complete studies. She said that’s perfect (3months time).
She never did want contraception and always was angry when I brought contraception…………
Months later, I’m in the final stage of my studies and she declares pregnancy. I’m financially prepared so was not worried and was supportive and knew that it would happen sooner or later right!?
During the weeks she was pregnant, she constantly shouted at me and argued with me over pointless stuff and I never raised my voice to her but I felt miserable and trapped and wanted to end the relationship. One day she snapped at me and then I left the relationship and went home, hours later she missed calls me, so I called her back and talking to her I realised that I still love her so I went back to her and we talked things over
The One thing I learnt about her was , Her Family are very important in her life. Also she has a best friends that she has known for years and they are also very important in her life. Her parents treat her like a teenager even though she is an Adult over 27 years old!
The next few days she was so happy and things were wonderful and she kept on talking about baby schools, clothes ,toys and everything you can imagine . I tell her not to mention the pregnancy news to her family until a few days has passed(as I know ).
The Night she telephoned her parents to tell them the news, Her Mum called her a “****” and told her never to come to see them and the rest of her family cut her off.
She Cried so badly, she was hurt badly by what the parents said and she cried the whole night and she cried the whole of the next day, I obviously comforted her. Her best friend told her stuff also which I can only assume was along the lines of “Don’t complicate your life, enjoy your life ” because the friend is single and always boast of never having emotional relationships.
The next day she gave me a weird look and started telling me how she doesn’t think this is a good idea and named a million reasons why. I tried to convince her that it was good and now there is an unborn child involved! That I will be there for her and the baby and also the upbringing of the child. She said that is nice and she will go ahead with the pregnancy.
The next day she phones her Parents/ friend and they carry on telling her the Bullsh*t! . The next day the same conversation came up and it ended the same way. The next day the same conversation came up, however this time she said that she cannot go through with the pregnancy because she is getting depressed and I was so shocked .
She was looking to start an argument to break us up, first it was you will not support , then you will sleep around , I said some things and then, she just said “she needs to remain Alone” therefore I left her and told her to phone me if she needs anything what so ever! or needs me to come to hospital appointments ….that I will be there for her and the baby 100%.
1 days later she we talk on the phone. I say I want to see her but she says she wants to remain alone, I respect her wishes. The next day she sends me a text message that she is in hospital(confirmed with papers).
I call her ASAP and she says she is in hospital with her best friend! And tells me not to come there! she is upset with me and said she loves me and it’s not me but maybe in the future she will change but she wants to be alone and can’t go ahead.
I love her
Opinnions will be a great help !
She never did want contraception and always was angry when I brought contraception…………
Months later, I’m in the final stage of my studies and she declares pregnancy. I’m financially prepared so was not worried and was supportive and knew that it would happen sooner or later right!?
During the weeks she was pregnant, she constantly shouted at me and argued with me over pointless stuff and I never raised my voice to her but I felt miserable and trapped and wanted to end the relationship. One day she snapped at me and then I left the relationship and went home, hours later she missed calls me, so I called her back and talking to her I realised that I still love her so I went back to her and we talked things over
The One thing I learnt about her was , Her Family are very important in her life. Also she has a best friends that she has known for years and they are also very important in her life. Her parents treat her like a teenager even though she is an Adult over 27 years old!
The next few days she was so happy and things were wonderful and she kept on talking about baby schools, clothes ,toys and everything you can imagine . I tell her not to mention the pregnancy news to her family until a few days has passed(as I know ).
The Night she telephoned her parents to tell them the news, Her Mum called her a “****” and told her never to come to see them and the rest of her family cut her off.
She Cried so badly, she was hurt badly by what the parents said and she cried the whole night and she cried the whole of the next day, I obviously comforted her. Her best friend told her stuff also which I can only assume was along the lines of “Don’t complicate your life, enjoy your life ” because the friend is single and always boast of never having emotional relationships.
The next day she gave me a weird look and started telling me how she doesn’t think this is a good idea and named a million reasons why. I tried to convince her that it was good and now there is an unborn child involved! That I will be there for her and the baby and also the upbringing of the child. She said that is nice and she will go ahead with the pregnancy.
The next day she phones her Parents/ friend and they carry on telling her the Bullsh*t! . The next day the same conversation came up and it ended the same way. The next day the same conversation came up, however this time she said that she cannot go through with the pregnancy because she is getting depressed and I was so shocked .
She was looking to start an argument to break us up, first it was you will not support , then you will sleep around , I said some things and then, she just said “she needs to remain Alone” therefore I left her and told her to phone me if she needs anything what so ever! or needs me to come to hospital appointments ….that I will be there for her and the baby 100%.
1 days later she we talk on the phone. I say I want to see her but she says she wants to remain alone, I respect her wishes. The next day she sends me a text message that she is in hospital(confirmed with papers).
I call her ASAP and she says she is in hospital with her best friend! And tells me not to come there! she is upset with me and said she loves me and it’s not me but maybe in the future she will change but she wants to be alone and can’t go ahead.
I love her
Opinnions will be a great help !
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I don't want to go. All my friends know we are together and stuff.