LTR feels FOMO because her BF "enjoys" new **** and flees 10,000 miles

[AJ84]

Let me also clarify that when I say fit it don't mean ripped. Guys can be fit and not be 100% muscle. Even with a bit of chunk, like that husky look can still be fit ( I personally think those guys are sexier than some mucsle neck with veins popping out).

Someone who is unhealthily overweight, like a big beer gut for example, that's what I'm referring to as not being fit.

 

[Spaz]

The intent mainly yes. If your girlfriend let herself go and it wasn't due to an illness, mental or otherwise, what would you think? It's different if they were already fat, but if they got that way after I would want to address it and see if I did something to make him feel like giving up or is it from his end and try to work on it because no one wants their partner to let themselves go right?

I would still have sex of course, but let's be real and honest here: fit partner or fit partner who got fat? Which one would you honestly prefer?

Surely the fitter version of her.

I've had girl friends who grew slightly plump after 3 years together.

Ain't a big deal 4 me. Seems cuter for some reason.

Wouldn't dump her 4 that.

It would take something more serious than that for me to initiate a dump or cheat.

People have ups and downs in life, its expected, nothing surprising there and being that I know my woman must be going through some phase in her life.

Sexy can only bring you so far....

It's only touches the surface.

What's underneath it all is something that outstrips physical shape.

When my woman is happy buying and fussing over her cloths, groceries, she amuses me.

When my woman plays with kids, she amuses me.

When my woman is being kindly to old folks and helps the unfortunate I'd admire her.

When my woman cooks and cleans for me, I am grateful.

Because as a man I am unlike her.

Because of that she's special.

And because of that I won't mind her being a little plump.

 

[devilkingx2]

I'd dump a girl once she stops being hot enough to warrant whatever she expects from me.

if she drops from a 9 to a 7 but expects to be treated like a 9 still, that's a no-go, but if she drops to a 7 but was always low maintenance then it's no big deal unless she hits low 6 or 5

another key factor is how easily replaceable she is, if she gains 50 pounds and is barely a 6.5 she better give amazing head and cook like a chef

 

[AJ84]

I would prefer fit, however I EXPECT my partner to gain weight from time to time, and eventually permanently (American women). I wouldn't nuke a 4 year relationship because my partner gained weight. Again, if I expected infinite sexual gratification I would NOT be in a relationship.

I too would not nuke a 4 yr relationship either, not like the OP's girl did. But I wouldn't want to stay with someone who stopped caring enough to want to be healthly and attractive, and again that goes back to the intent. We all know couples who get fat happy and become siblings. I'm not saying the spark will always be as hot as it was in the beginning of a relationship when everything is new, but blimping out because you got someone and don't feel you need to try anymore is never good in any relationship.


I've been with my husband for 7 years. I like to be sexy for him do little things like buy lingerie in his favorite colours because it makes me feel good and makes him feel good. He will text me a sexy pic of himself from his office. When you are in decent shape you tend to feel better about yourself and when you feel better you feel sexy and when you feel sexy there's sexual activity ( doesn't even have to be intercouse).
It's fun, and that feeling can certainly be sustained as sexual gratification, imo.