LTR diagnosied with BPD

[2bAlpha]

All last week I was on here after ayear or so being away, questioning my LTR. Met a great girl last summer, never has a bad thing to say about anyone. In the past 3 months she became super depressed. Last week she started with suicidal threats only to her sister, not to me.
Her sister flew down here to watch over her (gf and I moved in together after 10 months, great time till this week). A couple nights ago the cops were called when my gf told her sister she wanted to commit suicide, my gf went to er for 3 days and now is in a treatment center being diagnoised with Boderline Personality Disorder.
BPD is new to me. Ive been reading up on this and is some scary stuff for AFC who aren't able to leave a relationship. Her sister has totally taken over the whole situation, and the doctors aren't letting me talk to my GF. Her sister has been convincing me I was a fling and mean nothing to her sister in the long run, reguardless of my gf professing her love since she's been instituted, she's been nothing but an ideal GF, no arguing, kinky sex, confirmed loyalty, open minded and greatful for me.
Have I been saved from a nightmere, or has her sister taken over and just destroyed a great relationship. I was greatful of the sister untill today with her attitude torwards me as insignificant to her sister.
Anyone been in this situation? I love my GF so much, that I broke up with her over the phone to ensure she'll get treatment. I've never had a hard time of breaking up until now. Lost a great girl, or saved from nightmere?

 

[HeMan]

sorry to hear that.. must be tough!!

def saved from a nightmare though!!!

 

[sodbuster]

Saved from a nightmare. The REAL woman just showed up in the last couple weeks. She was using the drama for attention[you'll NEVER be able to give her enough].

 

[Alle_Gory]

If it really is BPD, then you dodged a bullet man.

Now's a good time to play the lottery.

 

[catman]

Run as fast as u can into a church then thank god you didnt marry or have a child with this woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Accension]

2bAlpha, you must be so low value for her sister to have acted like that.
Your name also suggests 'alphaness' is a trait you value (suggesting you aren't).
Work on it.

From what you've said, I'd tread water for a while and don't do anything rash.
If this girl really is as awesome as you say and you aren't just blinded by romantic BS, then things will work out.

Just because she has BPD, it isn't automatically warranty void.
However, you're shopping in Thailand, man.

 

[2bAlpha]

well in the mean time, i'll try to put the boots to the sister. 'oh youve been so supportive, it can be hard without the pasionate love we use to make, bla bla'

 

[F!DELITY]

To the OP, you have definitely done the right thing, I had a similar experience a couple months back. GF told me she has BPD and suffers from depression sometimes etc. BUT she was in a good spell when we met, and she felt she was over the worst of it so I persevered......

Sh!t hit the fan, she got depressed again, broke up with me, and then changed her mind....I gave her the benefit of the doubt...and then a week later broke up with me again!!! lol

Like what you found, she was a lovely girl, and I was a bit down about it at first; but now I am so so so glad to be out of that relationship!!!

We gotta find the right girls for us...not girls who bring nothing but drama and make us feel bad!!

 

[boomerick]

You've possibly dodged the dreaded BPD point blank headshot soul execution. You are lucky, higher devine powers are shining on you. Walk on this one, let her sister be the bad guy - "driving you away". Do a thread search of this site for BPD you will see only stories of pain, personal loss, and regret. If you walk now you will have saved yourself the mind f*ck of a lifetime. BPD = as crazy as a chick can get and still function outside of an institution. EJECT!EJECT!EJECT! Over and Out.

 

[pipe007]

To the OP:
if you are smart enough, you will notice a pattern here
EVERYONE agrees that you are LUCKY to be out of this one, and you should run as fast as you can ... TODAY!!!

unless you have low self esteem and don't care about sticking with her as you have no better options.

good luck

 

[5string]

To be perfectly honest.....

Your gf doesn't exhibit much of the BPD traits as far as I can tell.

I think there is a misdiagnosis somwhere. BPD's are NOT sweet for 10 months or a year or however long.

Not to say that the op's gal has BPD, but I can tell you one thing. A BPD gal can be sweet for 10 months before she flips and splits you black again. I have experienced it first hand with a woman who was DX by a psych. I suppose there are different levels of BPD and it would also depend on whether or not the DX is comorbid. That was my experience with it anyway.

 

[Alle_Gory]

well in the mean time, i'll try to put the boots to the sister. 'oh youve been so supportive, it can be hard without the pasionate love we use to make, bla bla'

Does this mean what I think it means?

 

[Captain]

You know what. DOES NOT MATTER. Women should be treated the same whether or not BPD.

BPD is NOT an excuse for bad behaviour. Don't take any crap from them. Far too much time is wasted discussing BPD women.

 

[GetOveIT]

BFD = run like your life depend on it, and thank god you didnt lost your soul :crackup:

 

[f283000]

Stupid b|tches get depressed over anything. We have hundreds of millions of people that are starving to death and then you have some stupid b|tches here in first world countries (specially America) that feel the world owes them something. The moment they start getting a little drama in their lives they freak out.

This is what happens when parents don't discipline their kids. They grow up as wannabe princesses with a mentality of everything needs to go their way and their sh__ don't stink.

If you ever have kids please don't be afraid to discipline them and spank their behind if they get out of hand. They will thank you when they are adults.

 

[2bAlpha]

To be perfectly honest.....

Your gf doesn't exhibit much of the BPD traits as far as I can tell.

I think there is a misdiagnosis somwhere. BPD's are NOT sweet for 10 months or a year or however long.

She's been CLINICALLY DIAGNOISED!

 

[2bAlpha]

Im moving all my **** out right now. I am just waiting for her to get back from the psyc ward because I am going to have one last wild pissed off hooker sex with her. This is a real diagnosis, not going online and giving her a self diagnosis. All this has cost her, NOT ME THANK GOD, over 20k or more I am sure. She has prob banged more guys than any other chick I know. I've banged alot of girls, 20+(alot to me at 25) and by far the more mental the chicks are, the better in bed she is.
Guys, bang the mental chicks for the wild ass sex, but DO NOT GET INVOLVED. This is the lesson I am taking from all this. All the doctors are telling me how hard of a time I must being going through, all the time I am think 'Not really, I just dodged a bullet!' Now, I'm focusing on banging the **** out of her like the crazy lunatic she is.
With real BPD, not a girl that gets depressed and angry, I mean REAL BPD like I'm dealing with, these women are straight up sex addict sluts, treat them like that.

 

[Rescue Mission]

Stupid b|tches get depressed over anything. We have hundreds of millions of people that are starving to death and then you have some stupid b|tches here in first world countries (specially America) that feel the world owes them something. The moment they start getting a little drama in their lives they freak out.

This is what happens when parents don't discipline their kids. They grow up as wannabe princesses with a mentality of everything needs to go their way and their sh__ don't stink.

If you ever have kids please don't be afraid to discipline them and spank their behind if they get out of hand. They will thank you when they are adults.

ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL POST!!!

This post that I am quoting actually gave me the chills with how much TRUTH it has resonating in it!!!!

Parenting (or in the case of single moms, which has all in all killed the concept of what a "family" should be) has absolutely gone down the drain - thus all the messed up AFC's and all the messed up attention who0res, depressed people, and entitled princesses.

The ONLY reason that is EVER valid for a person to be depressed, is if someone close them dies - but that is called MOURNING, and you mourn for however long it takes, but then life becomes closer to normal again!!

Depression sounds like something that came along as a bonus when feminism took off.

Never before have more people been this depressed while at the same time being able to live as comfy and as easy a life as ever before in the history of mankind!!!

 

[2bAlpha]

Notice how a vast majority of 'people' depressed and with BPD or whatever horse **** disorder ARE WOMEN. With half of the American women "depressed" and the other care more about voting for dancing with stars or some other mindless pop culture than real life, I am beggining to see how backwards our society has become.
And for men, most guys are more worried about their iphone or whatever. Too bad they don't make an "app" for getting laid.

 

[starplayer]

Notice how a vast majority of 'people' depressed and with BPD or whatever horse **** disorder ARE WOMEN. With half of the American women "depressed" and the other care more about voting for dancing with stars or some other mindless pop culture than real life, I am beggining to see how backwards our society has become.
And for men, most guys are more worried about their iphone or whatever. Too bad they don't make an "app" for getting laid.

I agree that there are A LOT of messed up women around these days.

I recently posted about this in another thread - but the more and more I look at it, the more I'm beginning to think that women are the real losers of their "liberation" and modern society. The feminists have actually fvcked over women more than anyone else.

Nowadays, women can make their own living, and they can go out with their girlfriends on the weekend and get completely wasted and end up riding some random c0ck. Awesome, good for them. But are they really happier than before? The fact that millions of them are taking anti-depressants and the rise in personality disorders means things might not be as good as the feminists make out.