AMDG said:
A cuckoo tricks another bird in raising its offspring. The father and the mother of this kid do the same to you. What's so hard to understand ? You are consuming resources for a stranger while ignoring your own bloodline
The decision is your own - but there are consequences. We are only showing you the alternatives - one is being used by a brood parasite with no reward whatsoever, and the other is passing down your own genes to the next generation.
I've noticed you didn't say a word about the father of the kid. Is he still around ?
Ah ok, now i get it. Who said anything about ignoring my own bloodline? I plan on having my own kid. I'm not being tricked into raising someone else's kid, I just think it would be crzy for me to be married to a woman, provide for my own kid and refuse to contribute to the other kid. Hense "I would treat the kid just like my own" comment. perhaps that wasnt clear.
I did mention the father in an earlier post, you will have to look for it.
Also want to add that I'm no where near marrying this woman yet. I just said I'm considering a LTR relationship with her where if it works out, marriage is a
possibility. Thanks for the comments. All i can say is i'm not going into anything blind, i'm aware of the pitfalls. I dont have her on a pedestal. At this point i'm not even in love with her. At this point, i enjoy her company, we have good chemistry, and based on her personality, character and values meshing with my own, i am close to dating her exclusively. Who knows perahps 3-6 months down the road i find that i'm not as into her as i thought i would be, perhaps no real love develops. If not, i move on, simple. I'm at a point where i feel confidant that i can do that. Again thanks.