LR: Staying calm and relaxed leads to good things.

[BackInTheGame78]

2nd date with a woman, planned to meet up last night but I realize now that I left it a little open ended and didn't give a solid time so things got a little off track in terms of meeting up.

I get to the place and she wasn't there and then said she thought I would let her know a definite time...said she felt bad and asked what I wanted to do...now this could have went several different directions.

I stayed calm, and asked if she just wanted me to come there since she wasn't ready and I could just pick something up on the way and we could chill and have a drink or two and watch a movie. She was all about it...

Sent me her address, went over, talked for about 45 minutes or an hour about various things, watched a movie and she snuggled up close to me, had a few drinks and I was running my fingers through her hair and gently rubbing her arm and side...once the movie was done she sat up and basically dove into me and started making out with me and one thing led to another and ended up in her bedroom where I fvcked the life out of her for about 2.5 hours with minimal breaks...

Moral of the story...stay calm...relax and if there has been a miscommunication don't immediately try and place blame, figure out a solution that works for both parties...in this case, I much preferred this date location than the original one...

 

[jimwho]

Must have been "Sleepless in Seattle". Nice meet up on the 2nd.. You left a meet up open ended and still went, nice gamble..

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Must have been "Sleepless in Seattle". Nice meet up on the 2nd.. You left a meet up open ended and still went, nice gamble..

It was more actually that I thought I set a time, but she thought I set a general time and would let her know a definitive time later...after we talked I realized that it was on me...but it turned out pretty well

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Congrats, but the headline should read "led" and not "leads". There's no universal applicability here, mileage is always going to vary.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Congrats, but the headline should read "led" and not "leads". There's no universal applicability here, mileage is always going to vary.

That's the case with almost anything, but I've found that staying calm and relaxed in these type of situations with women pays off far more than going nuclear scorched earth to make yourself feel better about things or try to push the blame on her, etc...

So in that way there is some applicability...

 

[f(x)]

That was slick

 

[BadBoy89]

Moral of the story...stay calm...relax and if there has been a miscommunication don't immediately try and place blame, figure out a solution that works for both parties...in this case, I much preferred this date location than the original one...

Come on bro. Congrats on what happened but this ain't the moral of the story.

The moral of the story is she was attracted and needed to get laid. You could have probably told her off and she wouldn't have cared, because she was attracted. Now if she was 30% attracted, it wouldn't have mattered if you played it perfectly, she would have a found any excuse to let you down.

 

[member160292]

Women need sex too, it's absolutely being at the the moment at the right time. OP took his shot and went all-in with confidence, otherwise it would have been another 'shots that I missed' story.

Kudos on the LR, we need more of these since many think it's more difficult than it really is.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Come on bro. Congrats on what happened but this ain't the moral of the story.

The moral of the story is she was attracted and needed to get laid. You could have probably told her off and she wouldn't have cared, because she was attracted. Now if she was 30% attracted, it wouldn't have mattered if you played it perfectly, she would have a found any excuse to let you down.

I mean yeah that true, but I think that's true in any situation like that. Guys still fvck this up all the time tho by flipping out or acting all butthurt or whatever else...

Sometimes misunderstandings or miscommunications happen and if you are always looking for "disrespect" you'll find it.