A little over a month ago I met this foreign exchange student at a party for law students. I was kinda drunk when I approached her but in a fairly good state and all my sets that night opened easily. We had a few minutes of good convo before closing time and I #closed her and told her that I'd give her a call and we'd go out and have a few drinks or get a bite to eat sometime. She complied and she also got my number. Can't really remember much of the brief conversation, but I know I used future projection and discussed what we should call our kids etc. Playful tone, subtile IOI's. I always enjoy speaking with foreigners. The language barrier seem to work to my advantage. Maybe I'm just smoother in english than in my first language
I consider this girl an HB7(strict scale) Very pretty face and a nice body. Maybe just a tad too much ass, but still sexy. Beautiful eyes and very confident eyecontact which I find very attractive.
So anyway..the party was on a friday. The following monday she texted me: "Hi remember me? Are you still interested in having a drink or something else?" The fact that she re-initiated the contact was very positive and I'm assuming high interest and attraction here. We text back and forth and I say that I'd like that very much but that I was busy atleast until next week.I said we could meet up for a drink the following week. She agreed. I don't like sending messages so I didn't try to flirt or show disinterest in any way. No games.
The following week we arranged to meet at a student-bar. I had soccerpractice so we didn't meet until 11:30 pm. I had a beer at home before going out. I arrived before her, ordered a beer and enjoyed myself for 10 minutes or something. I was worried that I wouldn't recognize her at once but when she arrived she came right over and we hugged. Some nervousness on both sides the first 2 minutes as we went to the bar to order a new beer, but it went away almost instantly. The conversation went great even though we sometimes touched boring subjects such as school, job and education. Then we talked alot about traveling and beer I complimented her on her personality and the fact that she was so adventurous. They were all genuine compliments. This girl was great and I was really enjoing myself. After 3 beers each the bar closed and we switched venues.
I took her to a nightclub which is pretty fancy. Alot of stuck-up people there and expensive drinks. We both had similiar thoughts on this place so we had that in common. We mocked some people and made fun of the stereotypical characters at the club. We ordered more beer and sat in the lounge. I started initiating light KINO. Nothing major just touching her lightly and poking her etc. Can't remember too much of our conversation but we talked about everything and never ran out of things to talk about. I felt in complete control and was able to calibrate and adjust my bodylanguage and conversation to her reactions and responses. I never made any moves on her all night. This is very different from what I normally do. I get drunk and try to hump things. Alcohol is a major stickingpoint for me. Trying to drink less and start drinking later. Managed that this night though.
As we sat in the lounge, a girl that I've "almost" dated came over. HB7 but too skinny. We have talked about dating and when I first met her over a year ago I went in for the kiss, but got the cheek. I'm pretty sure I've managed to bump up the attraction after that and feel pretty sure that she sees me as a potential lover/partner. She was kinda drunk and she seemed reluctant to sit down with us and asked if she was interrupting something. I said "not at all, this is HB7" They shaked hands and I turned slightly away from HB7 and had a brief convo with HB7skinny. Then I gave her a hug and she walked away and I shifted my attention back to HB7. I felt that this gave me massive social proof as she could see that HB7skinny was interested. Sweet.
After even more beer (both getting kinda tipsy at this point) the club closes. We go outside and talk. It's pretty cold and I pull her against me as my teeth clicks. I say it's so cold, I should get home. I say i've had a great time and it sucks that it has to end. She agrees and I say that I think I have some beers in the fridge at home. She replies with "lets go" and holds my arm. I live like 3 minutes walk from the bar and as we walk I take her hand and holds it as we walk. Fingers intertwined boyfriend/girlfriend style.
When we get home my roomate is awake playing poker in the livingroom. I introduce them as I get 2 beers out of the fridge and pull out a DVD from our collection. I take her to my room which basically consists of a bed and a tv.. She lights 2 candles as I put in the movie. Notice that I have yet to kiss this girl!! I've intentionally escalated slowly throughout the whole date. I've built massive comfort for several hours. As we get on the bed I go in for the kiss. I finally give her compliments on her looks and tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks. No LMR. Clothes come off, movie gets ignored, beer forgotten, roomate puts on headphones.. She was great in bed. Very active and dedicated. In the morning, after round two, we cuddled. It was not awkward or anything as it sometimes gets. We made smalltalk and touched eachother. All in all a great date. Probably the best I've ever had.
What I've learned from this is that comfort is soo very important and that you shouldn't make intimate moves too early. I've screwed that up so many times before. We have a date again tomorrow. We are eating out and maybe some drinks after. Too bad she is only in town for a few months more...she could very well be LTR-material.
I consider this girl an HB7(strict scale) Very pretty face and a nice body. Maybe just a tad too much ass, but still sexy. Beautiful eyes and very confident eyecontact which I find very attractive.
So anyway..the party was on a friday. The following monday she texted me: "Hi remember me? Are you still interested in having a drink or something else?" The fact that she re-initiated the contact was very positive and I'm assuming high interest and attraction here. We text back and forth and I say that I'd like that very much but that I was busy atleast until next week.I said we could meet up for a drink the following week. She agreed. I don't like sending messages so I didn't try to flirt or show disinterest in any way. No games.
The following week we arranged to meet at a student-bar. I had soccerpractice so we didn't meet until 11:30 pm. I had a beer at home before going out. I arrived before her, ordered a beer and enjoyed myself for 10 minutes or something. I was worried that I wouldn't recognize her at once but when she arrived she came right over and we hugged. Some nervousness on both sides the first 2 minutes as we went to the bar to order a new beer, but it went away almost instantly. The conversation went great even though we sometimes touched boring subjects such as school, job and education. Then we talked alot about traveling and beer I complimented her on her personality and the fact that she was so adventurous. They were all genuine compliments. This girl was great and I was really enjoing myself. After 3 beers each the bar closed and we switched venues.
I took her to a nightclub which is pretty fancy. Alot of stuck-up people there and expensive drinks. We both had similiar thoughts on this place so we had that in common. We mocked some people and made fun of the stereotypical characters at the club. We ordered more beer and sat in the lounge. I started initiating light KINO. Nothing major just touching her lightly and poking her etc. Can't remember too much of our conversation but we talked about everything and never ran out of things to talk about. I felt in complete control and was able to calibrate and adjust my bodylanguage and conversation to her reactions and responses. I never made any moves on her all night. This is very different from what I normally do. I get drunk and try to hump things. Alcohol is a major stickingpoint for me. Trying to drink less and start drinking later. Managed that this night though.
As we sat in the lounge, a girl that I've "almost" dated came over. HB7 but too skinny. We have talked about dating and when I first met her over a year ago I went in for the kiss, but got the cheek. I'm pretty sure I've managed to bump up the attraction after that and feel pretty sure that she sees me as a potential lover/partner. She was kinda drunk and she seemed reluctant to sit down with us and asked if she was interrupting something. I said "not at all, this is HB7" They shaked hands and I turned slightly away from HB7 and had a brief convo with HB7skinny. Then I gave her a hug and she walked away and I shifted my attention back to HB7. I felt that this gave me massive social proof as she could see that HB7skinny was interested. Sweet.
After even more beer (both getting kinda tipsy at this point) the club closes. We go outside and talk. It's pretty cold and I pull her against me as my teeth clicks. I say it's so cold, I should get home. I say i've had a great time and it sucks that it has to end. She agrees and I say that I think I have some beers in the fridge at home. She replies with "lets go" and holds my arm. I live like 3 minutes walk from the bar and as we walk I take her hand and holds it as we walk. Fingers intertwined boyfriend/girlfriend style.
When we get home my roomate is awake playing poker in the livingroom. I introduce them as I get 2 beers out of the fridge and pull out a DVD from our collection. I take her to my room which basically consists of a bed and a tv.. She lights 2 candles as I put in the movie. Notice that I have yet to kiss this girl!! I've intentionally escalated slowly throughout the whole date. I've built massive comfort for several hours. As we get on the bed I go in for the kiss. I finally give her compliments on her looks and tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks. No LMR. Clothes come off, movie gets ignored, beer forgotten, roomate puts on headphones.. She was great in bed. Very active and dedicated. In the morning, after round two, we cuddled. It was not awkward or anything as it sometimes gets. We made smalltalk and touched eachother. All in all a great date. Probably the best I've ever had.
What I've learned from this is that comfort is soo very important and that you shouldn't make intimate moves too early. I've screwed that up so many times before. We have a date again tomorrow. We are eating out and maybe some drinks after. Too bad she is only in town for a few months more...she could very well be LTR-material.