Don Juanobi
Don Juan
Ok, I'm fairly certain I have some emotional probs.
Generally, I don't have a problem talking to women and building rapport fairly easily, I can approach them 'cold' on occasion as well, however it seems like I am subconsciously engineering ways to sabatoge my success. I am deathly afraid of success to be honest with you and as soon as it looks like I'm getting somewhere I panic and bail.
This of coarse happens when I am interacting with women I find attractive.
As a result I have absolutly no experiance with women at an intimate level.
Recently I just met a slender, shy, not particularily attractive girl who is very interested in me. It was no prob for me to aquire her phone #, call her up and go for an icecream.
This particular girl does not scare me nearly as much, and now I am considering hanging out with her continually as a means of desensitizing myself to intimate interactions of the female kind.
My attempt would be to round first and go for second base in a period of a month or so.
Does anyone consider this a wise choice? This girl is by no means a prize and frankly I would be embarrased if friends saw me with her. Does this have the potential of further damaging my psyci?
particularily if my friends 'catch' me with her.
On the other side, I suspect I would gain confidence at least in experiancing an intimate friendship.
Generally, I don't have a problem talking to women and building rapport fairly easily, I can approach them 'cold' on occasion as well, however it seems like I am subconsciously engineering ways to sabatoge my success. I am deathly afraid of success to be honest with you and as soon as it looks like I'm getting somewhere I panic and bail.
This of coarse happens when I am interacting with women I find attractive.
As a result I have absolutly no experiance with women at an intimate level.
Recently I just met a slender, shy, not particularily attractive girl who is very interested in me. It was no prob for me to aquire her phone #, call her up and go for an icecream.
This particular girl does not scare me nearly as much, and now I am considering hanging out with her continually as a means of desensitizing myself to intimate interactions of the female kind.
My attempt would be to round first and go for second base in a period of a month or so.
Does anyone consider this a wise choice? This girl is by no means a prize and frankly I would be embarrased if friends saw me with her. Does this have the potential of further damaging my psyci?
particularily if my friends 'catch' me with her.
On the other side, I suspect I would gain confidence at least in experiancing an intimate friendship.