lower libido 35 ? causes job and money ? Age ?

[nicktum28]

Hey guys, quick question in my upper 20's i made good money and also was all about trying to sleep with girls from the bars. Now i am 35 still never married no kids etc and feel like I don't care as much or don't make an effort. I know I have been upset I am not making the money I used to make and am working as a server now but do you think this matters? if i am at a bar or store and see a hot girl for men in there 30's and 40's don't you want to talk to them despite what else may effect you ?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Yes. Older than you and still horny.

 

[nicktum28]

what would affect it???

 

[nicktum28]

yes i am on TRT Idk its like i just dont feel like making an effort when I am out, I don't know if its low confidence or what

 

[sangheilios]

A lot of this emotional/psychological.

I'm 33 and I think in the best overall shape I've probably ever been in my entire life. My health markers are fantastic, I eat great, sleep good, etc.

I haven't had a date or asked a woman out in years, it was sometime in the late summer/early fall of 2019. I had a lot of bad experiences over and over with nothing to show for it and at the time I ended up taking a break. I slowly started spending less and less time and energy towards meeting women and focused on other things. Then COVID lockdowns hit, the years go by and my life priorities completely changed.

I see women as a distraction from my true goals and place very little thought into meeting them. I'd be open to going out with a woman but everything would have to line up where she practically falls in my lap.

 

[itouchyou]

A lot of this emotional/psychological.

I'm 33 and I think in the best overall shape I've probably ever been in my entire life. My health markers are fantastic, I eat great, sleep good, etc.

I haven't had a date or asked a woman out in years, it was sometime in the late summer/early fall of 2019. I had a lot of bad experiences over and over with nothing to show for it and at the time I ended up taking a break. I slowly started spending less and less time and energy towards meeting women and focused on other things. Then COVID lockdowns hit, the years go by and my life priorities completely changed.

I see women as a distraction from my true goals and place very little thought into meeting them. I'd be open to going out with a woman but everything would have to line up where she practically falls in my lap.

Covid definitely took away some good years for me. 32-35 or so. Lost my physique, things went to complete ****. Just now getting back on track and atleast things are looking up.

 

[sangheilios]

Covid definitely took away some good years for me. 32-35 or so. Lost my physique, things went to complete ****. Just now getting back on track and atleast things are looking up.

It was honestly one of the best time periods in my life. I killed it financially and became hyper focused on my goals. I can look back at the beginning of 2020, before the lockdowns, and the end of that year and see that I grew/changed a lot over the course of that year. Literally all of the people I considered "friends" or those that I spent time with pre COVID ended up being completely cut from my life by early 2021.

I also stayed in shape during COVID, it did suck when the gyms were closed down but I adapted.

 

[Murk]

Being stressed/frustrated with your financial situation (or any situation) will definitely decrease libido.

 

[corrector]

I think its the financial and living situation that can lower the libido. For example, if you won the lottery, then I think your libido would spike up. Working as a server would probaby cause the low libido.

 

[SW15]

A lot of this emotional/psychological.

I'm 33 and I think in the best overall shape I've probably ever been in my entire life. My health markers are fantastic, I eat great, sleep good, etc.

I haven't had a date or asked a woman out in years, it was sometime in the late summer/early fall of 2019. I had a lot of bad experiences over and over with nothing to show for it and at the time I ended up taking a break. I slowly started spending less and less time and energy towards meeting women and focused on other things. Then COVID lockdowns hit, the years go by and my life priorities completely changed.

I see women as a distraction from my true goals and place very little thought into meeting them. I'd be open to going out with a woman but everything would have to line up where she practically falls in my lap.

At 6'4" and 230-235 lbs with big muscles, you are in a position where a woman could fall into your lap. You could get very strong IOIs and even get approached in a gym with that physique. Even outside the gym, you're well positioned to get strong IOIs and even get approached.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Your body gives you impulses to fix the major issues first.

What's the point to be horny if you're not in condition to compete, protect, feed yourself.

Wheter we like it or not women got from nature the task to remind men where they stand at life.

Why should your brain push you to approach a hottie in a bar if you lack what it takes to get her, it makes perfect sense.

Dont get me wrong, Im not judging nor bashing you, I had moments of no libido at all myself.

 

[MatureDJ]

It could very well be that you don't find women your own age attractive anymore. Could you imagine getting it up for this 48 year-old?

 

[MatureDJ]

A lot of this emotional/psychological.

I'm 33 and I think in the best overall shape I've probably ever been in my entire life. My health markers are fantastic, I eat great, sleep good, etc.

I haven't had a date or asked a woman out in years, it was sometime in the late summer/early fall of 2019. I had a lot of bad experiences over and over with nothing to show for it and at the time I ended up taking a break. I slowly started spending less and less time and energy towards meeting women and focused on other things. Then COVID lockdowns hit, the years go by and my life priorities completely changed.

I see women as a distraction from my true goals and place very little thought into meeting them. I'd be open to going out with a woman but everything would have to line up where she practically falls in my lap.

You're a MGTOW that has been sent his own way. You have been rejected by woman you want to mate with, and you are not attracted to women that would accept your romantic invitation. You increasingly see no avenue for social situations in which you could meet women that interest you, and you finally have come to the conclusion that you don't feel like continuing to waste your time in that pursuit. You have convinced yourself that pursuing women is not a "true goal", which is just a psychological pacifier for accepting that it's OVER, and feeling positive about your CopeMaxxing.

At some point, the Beta-male lions have to give up the struggle, and live the life of a Bachelor lion, hunting a new wildebeast every week or so while they sleep all day and clean their balls most of the time they are awake.

 

[MatureDJ]

At 6'4" and 230-235 lbs with big muscles, you are in a position where a woman could fall into your lap. You could get very strong IOIs and even get approached in a gym with that physique. Even outside the gym, you're well positioned to get strong IOIs and even get approached.

Not if he's a FaceCel.

 

[itouchyou]

You're a MGTOW that has been sent his own way. You have been rejected by woman you want to mate with, and you are not attracted to women that would accept your romantic invitation. You increasingly see no avenue for social situations in which you could meet women that interest you, and you finally have come to the conclusion that you don't feel like continuing to waste your time in that pursuit. You have convinced yourself that pursuing women is not a "true goal", which is just a psychological pacifier for accepting that it's OVER, and feeling positive about your CopeMaxxing.

At some point, the Beta-male lions have to give up the struggle, and live the life of a Bachelor lion, hunting a new wildebeast every week or so while they sleep all day and clean their balls most of the time they are awake.

Ouch.

 

[MatureDJ]

I think its the financial and living situation that can lower the libido. For example, if you won the lottery, then I think your libido would spike up. Working as a server would probaby cause the low libido.

Yes, winning the lottery would allow one to pursue attract high-maintenance women that would put out to keep the maintenance going.

 

[corrector]

It could very well be that you don't find women your own age attractive anymore. Could you imagine getting it up for this 48 year-old?

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Yes, she is just butherface.

 

[corrector]

You're a MGTOW that has been sent his own way. You have been rejected by woman you want to mate with, and you are not attracted to women that would accept your romantic invitation. You increasingly see no avenue for social situations in which you could meet women that interest you, and you finally have come to the conclusion that you don't feel like continuing to waste your time in that pursuit. You have convinced yourself that pursuing women is not a "true goal", which is just a psychological pacifier for accepting that it's OVER, and feeling positive about your CopeMaxxing.

At some point, the Beta-male lions have to give up the struggle, and live the life of a Bachelor lion, hunting a new wildebeast every week or so while they sleep all day and clean their balls most of the time they are awake.

Are you are trying to out-incel my posts?

 

[MatureDJ]

Yes, she is just butherface.

No, she's a butherbody too!

 

[SW15]

I haven't had a date or asked a woman out in years, it was sometime in the late summer/early fall of 2019. I had a lot of bad experiences over and over with nothing to show for it and at the time I ended up taking a break. I slowly started spending less and less time and energy towards meeting women and focused on other things. Then COVID lockdowns hit, the years go by and my life priorities completely changed.

I see women as a distraction from my true goals and place very little thought into meeting them. I'd be open to going out with a woman but everything would have to line up where she practically falls in my lap.

You're a MGTOW that has been sent his own way. You have been rejected by woman you want to mate with, and you are not attracted to women that would accept your romantic invitation. You increasingly see no avenue for social situations in which you could meet women that interest you, and you finally have come to the conclusion that you don't feel like continuing to waste your time in that pursuit. You have convinced yourself that pursuing women is not a "true goal", which is just a psychological pacifier for accepting that it's OVER, and feeling positive about your CopeMaxxing.

At some point, the Beta-male lions have to give up the struggle, and live the life of a Bachelor lion, hunting a new wildebeast every week or so while they sleep all day and clean their balls most of the time they are awake.

@sangheilios is an interesting case study. He's definitely one of the more interesting case studies of major forum participants.

At 6'4", 230-235 lbs, big muscles, and lower body fat, this is a top tier level physique. This is a guy who would be called a 'Chad'. Based on height and muscles, he could be the top seducer on this forum with one of the highest notch counts.

He adds a lot to this forum with well thought out responses that show a certain level of critical thinking ability. He seems personable.

The combination of height, muscles, and a decent personality should be enough to attract women. At a bare minimum, that should be enough to attract a solid 6-7 into an extended relationship. When someone has height and muscles, there's not much need for a personality in order to seduce.

This is a situation where the collective of women have rejected someone who has 'Chad' type features. If someone with 'Chad' type features is being rejected by the collective of women, what does that say for the health of the overall dating market? It's showing that the typical female is absurdly fussy in selecting men. Women are sending more and more men to the rejection pile. This is the 90/10 rule in action. Plenty more men under 6'0" without elite levels of fitness are also being rejected. In this case, women have thrown out someone who would be a good selection for them based on how much women value height and muscles.

The collective of women did send @sangheilios his own way, as @MatureDJ has indicated. MGTOW isn't voluntary, as it is some form of incel. MGTOWs are generally men who are rejected by the market of women and realize that they can compete effectively in the market.