JST8828
Don Juan
Just following up on a plate I've been working with over the last month or so. Went out several times already, however I've always gone to her. She lives 45 minutes away from me. Due to the pandemic she's nervous about taking public transportation and meeting me what would be halfway in the city, and I kinda understood that, but that being said, it doesn't make dating easy right now, and things have now taken a bad turn to the point where I'm turned off and ready to smash the plate. As a quick summary, the first 4 dates we've had have been very good. Tons of IOI's, kino, she's invited me back to her back to hang and talk for a while, told her parents about me, told me to "think of me" tonight after I left her on the last date, etc.
So when it came time for me to finally ask her to come to MY town (and hopefully my place so we could finally, maybe have sex) I was met with weirdness. I didn't even ask her over my place flat out. I asked if she'd like to come to me this Saturday and we'll go out to a nice restaurant near here that she'd love. Her response was her telling me she's "totally booked" this weekend and how she has "halloween plans" friday AND Saturday. Alllllrighty then. Didn't know halloween was such a big thing among 30 year olds, especially during a pandemic. In any event, the real issue IMO was no counter. As in, NO counter whatsoever and then she proceeded to start texting about something completely off topic before the convo ended. This was Tuesday.
Fast forward to Thursday night and no contact since, she reached out and asked how my day was. I went by the book, not giving into her chit chattiness too much. I texted a few times before bringing up the talks of her coming here again. I talked about a new restaurant i want to check out in my area and she said send over the menu. Ok then. I said I want to take you there just let me know when you're free! She then responded saying something about how the menu looks amazing with ZERO mention of when she's free. Convo ended there. I had enough.
At this point I've decided to move on and no longer prioritize this plate at all. It is clear there is no urgency on her end to see me and certainly little to no interest in her going out of her way to come to my turf for a date. Mind you this is a girl who told me all about how she wants a serious relationship, wants kids one day, etc. I have come to the final conclusion that she either has low interest disguised as high interest when we go out as she lives in some sort of fantasy world, OR she's just plain weird and doesn't want to come to me yet for what would already be a FIFTH date, after me driving to her 4 times now. Both are equally bad imo and prove this is a girl who's definitely not serious about dating and progressing with a guy. Really a shame as I've been seeing this trend more and more these days with women in their 30's. They SAY they want a real relationship but in reality they just live in this fantasy world where they THINK they do but actually just enjoy the idea of it all while not actually doing the work and putting in any effort to progress and hanging out with their friends any chance they can get. That's what I've seen happen here.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks guys.
So when it came time for me to finally ask her to come to MY town (and hopefully my place so we could finally, maybe have sex) I was met with weirdness. I didn't even ask her over my place flat out. I asked if she'd like to come to me this Saturday and we'll go out to a nice restaurant near here that she'd love. Her response was her telling me she's "totally booked" this weekend and how she has "halloween plans" friday AND Saturday. Alllllrighty then. Didn't know halloween was such a big thing among 30 year olds, especially during a pandemic. In any event, the real issue IMO was no counter. As in, NO counter whatsoever and then she proceeded to start texting about something completely off topic before the convo ended. This was Tuesday.
Fast forward to Thursday night and no contact since, she reached out and asked how my day was. I went by the book, not giving into her chit chattiness too much. I texted a few times before bringing up the talks of her coming here again. I talked about a new restaurant i want to check out in my area and she said send over the menu. Ok then. I said I want to take you there just let me know when you're free! She then responded saying something about how the menu looks amazing with ZERO mention of when she's free. Convo ended there. I had enough.
At this point I've decided to move on and no longer prioritize this plate at all. It is clear there is no urgency on her end to see me and certainly little to no interest in her going out of her way to come to my turf for a date. Mind you this is a girl who told me all about how she wants a serious relationship, wants kids one day, etc. I have come to the final conclusion that she either has low interest disguised as high interest when we go out as she lives in some sort of fantasy world, OR she's just plain weird and doesn't want to come to me yet for what would already be a FIFTH date, after me driving to her 4 times now. Both are equally bad imo and prove this is a girl who's definitely not serious about dating and progressing with a guy. Really a shame as I've been seeing this trend more and more these days with women in their 30's. They SAY they want a real relationship but in reality they just live in this fantasy world where they THINK they do but actually just enjoy the idea of it all while not actually doing the work and putting in any effort to progress and hanging out with their friends any chance they can get. That's what I've seen happen here.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks guys.
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