Love Triangle Drama... with a lesbian?

[Deep Dish]

I have a girlfriend and, when we first started dating, she warned me her best female friend is a lesbian who’s unrequitedly in love with her. (Interestingly enough, the dynamic doesn’t happen the other way around: we guys don’t experience gay men developing feelings for us.)

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about two months and, well, I guess the inevitable happened. I was hanging out yesterday when my girl received a phone call from her lesbian friend, who then came over and we all hung out. I strongly suspect she forced her way over. Before she arrived, I was told to lie, lie, lie, because the lesbian doesn’t accept my girl is straight. After a good amount of friendly conversation, the lesbian grilled me with interrogation questions, like “So what’s with you? Are you dating? Why are you hanging out with her? How often, how long, have you been hanging out? I know what happens when people ‘hang out.’” I have no doubt she knows I was totally lying. Afterwards, she was like “I love her”, then later “I want to marry her.”

I never expected I’d find myself in a love triangle with a lesbian opponent. It’s weird.

The funny thing is, I’m kinda skeptical the lesbian is a true lesbian. She’s in her 40’s, she looks like she’s always been ugly, and she ‘discovered’ her sexuality in her mid-twenties (which is kinda late). In other words, I suspect she was an abysmal failure with men and consequently she convinced herself she’s a lesbian. As how Rollo Tomassi once said,

Feminized culture has embraced sexual fluidity, but has rejected the underlying reasons for it. As a new social convention, sexual fluidity becomes less about conditions and more about the individual for women. For the post-wall, aging spinster, the concept of sexual fluidity is a godsend. As a rationale for her lackluster personal life it becomes a salve for her ego – homosexuality becomes a realizable, socially acceptable option. The true reason for her long term unhappiness is that she was, in actuality, an unacknowledged lesbian for all these years. And naturally, for all women, there is a wide base of emotional support from the sisterhood ready to embrace and accept the ‘real’ her. The necessity of accepting homosexuality as her only, conditional, sexual option becomes a new virtue to be proud of in Oprah-world. Never is there a mention that the choices she’s made in life had any bearing on her present condition, nor is there any doubt that the measures she’s now forced to resort to were dictated by those choices.

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2011/09/01/sexual-fluidity/

Right now, it seems like there’s really nothing further I need to do. Their friendship will be lost. But I am somewhat concerned about the possibility of more drama because “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.”

So, guys, ever have this lesbian love triangle shït happen to you?

 

[Scars]

I have a girlfriend and, when we first started dating, she warned me her best female friend is a lesbian who’s unrequitedly in love with her. (Interestingly enough, the dynamic doesn’t happen the other way around: we guys don’t experience gay men developing feelings for us.)

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about two months and, well, I guess the inevitable happened. I was hanging out yesterday when my girl received a phone call from her lesbian friend, who then came over and we all hung out. I strongly suspect she forced her way over. Before she arrived, I was told to lie, lie, lie, because the lesbian doesn’t accept my girl is straight. After a good amount of friendly conversation, the lesbian grilled me with interrogation questions, like “So what’s with you? Are you dating? Why are you hanging out with her? How often, how long, have you been hanging out? I know what happens when people ‘hang out.’” I have no doubt she knows I was totally lying. Afterwards, she was like “I love her”, then later “I want to marry her.”

I never expected I’d find myself in a love triangle with a lesbian opponent. It’s weird.

The funny thing is, I’m kinda skeptical the lesbian is a true lesbian. She’s in her 40’s, she looks like she’s always been ugly, and she ‘discovered’ her sexuality in her mid-twenties (which is kinda late). In other words, I suspect she was an abysmal failure with men and consequently she convinced herself she’s a lesbian. As how Rollo Tomassi once said,Right now, it seems like there’s really nothing further I need to do. Their friendship will be lost. But I am somewhat concerned about the possibility of more drama because “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.”

So, guys, ever have this lesbian love triangle shït happen to you?

Before even getting to the Rollo quote I was already rehearsing a speech about feminism, but Rollo hit the nail on the head. But from a humanitarian stand-point, the friend is probably just bummed. Think of it as if you were gaming some chick, and she was being receptive and gave the idea that you might have the chance (which your girlfriend may or may not have done intentionally) and some dude just swooped her from you. You'd probably be a little pissed right? Think of her as just another average AFC guy, and treat her the same as one. You're right, their friendship probably will end, or at least be different now. That's not your fault. She's a lesbian and went for a girl who prefers men. She should had expected it, but now she's pissed. Like I said, treat her as if she was some AFC dude and she eventually self destruct and sabotage herself. There's really no need to play dirty, nor get jealous. If the way you described her is accurate, she doesn't stand a chance.

I'd wish you good luck, but I already know you got this.

-Scars

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I have a girlfriend and, when we first started dating, she warned me her best female friend is a lesbian who’s unrequitedly in love with her. (Interestingly enough, the dynamic doesn’t happen the other way around: we guys don’t experience gay men developing feelings for us.)

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about two months and, well, I guess the inevitable happened. I was hanging out yesterday when my girl received a phone call from her lesbian friend, who then came over and we all hung out. I strongly suspect she forced her way over. Before she arrived, I was told to lie, lie, lie, because the lesbian doesn’t accept my girl is straight. After a good amount of friendly conversation, the lesbian grilled me with interrogation questions, like “So what’s with you? Are you dating? Why are you hanging out with her? How often, how long, have you been hanging out? I know what happens when people ‘hang out.’” I have no doubt she knows I was totally lying. Afterwards, she was like “I love her”, then later “I want to marry her.”

I never expected I’d find myself in a love triangle with a lesbian opponent. It’s weird.

The funny thing is, I’m kinda skeptical the lesbian is a true lesbian. She’s in her 40’s, she looks like she’s always been ugly, and she ‘discovered’ her sexuality in her mid-twenties (which is kinda late). In other words, I suspect she was an abysmal failure with men and consequently she convinced herself she’s a lesbian. As how Rollo Tomassi once said,Right now, it seems like there’s really nothing further I need to do. Their friendship will be lost. But I am somewhat concerned about the possibility of more drama because “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.”

So, guys, ever have this lesbian love triangle shït happen to you?

Has the lesbian chick ever slept with the girl you are seeing? She 'loves' her and wants to 'marry' her? Has the chick told her she's straight or does she play the bi role? WTF?

 

[Down Low]

The second I read "lesbian" was the second I said "next."

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Heheheh,..welcome to Girlworld, where not only must men compete against each other, but also be wary of getting AMOG'd by dominant lesbians.

My very first Girlfriend (at 17) was a self-identified bisexual. At the time, my adolescent mind thought "Jackpot!" and filled with visions of the possibilities of 3-ways – which I clumsily egged her on about in all my freshmen beta ignorance.

She later cheated on me with some random ƒuck (a guy), and like the symp I was scrambled to reestablish the reward of the only sex I was getting by falling into beta-orbiter status with the occasional 'I'm horny and you're available' ƒuck. I was playing white knight while she was looking for opportunities to bang women at her new university. At one point I was in direct competition with a real live lesbian who wanted my now-ex girlfriend.

In truth I was never even in consideration, because she was determined to bang a woman, but it sure gave my adolescent grasp of gender understandings a jolt. I'd got AMOG'd by a woman, but in my feminized mindset I didn't have a shred of my own gender-awareness enough to think that I might deserve some measure of pride to even have wounded by it.

This was the beginning of my education about the LGBT community and the social conventions unique to their subculture. When lesbians fall in love, they fall easily, but they fall hard. It's my observation and belief that homosexuals have a limbic understanding about the difficulties monogamy poses for them from the time they come to terms with their sexuality. On some level of consciousness they know that their sexuality puts them into a minority where finding a monogamous partner is far more difficult than if they were straight.

Needless to say this creates an inherent form of scarcity mentality for lesbians searching for the imperative need of security all women are subject to. The dominant seeks a sub and the sub needs the dom, but in the same sense that women need the security of that monogamous connection. So, at the same time she's exploring her sexuality as a lesbian, there's a nagging insecurity about her prospects of finding a suitable monogamous partner.

Now, lets cast our lesbian in terms of the rigorous and timely demands of the SMP, and how women's sexual market value declines with age, and you can see how prone to desperation an unattached lesbian might become as her SMV erodes. This isn't to cast all lesbians in the same mold, but the urgency to pair up with another woman (even the self-identified heterosexual woman as in Sexual Fluidity) is more pressing than heterosexual women due to the unconscious knowledge of her minority status and the scarcity of available women with which to pair.

Thus, you have your desperate lesbian, obsessively "in love" with your heterosexual girlfriend.

 

[In10se]

I hooked up with this girl a few times after she broke with her 4- year boyfriend...what I didn't know is that her "best friend" was actually her lesbian lover...they were both smoking hot so when my girl suggested that they both come over...obviously I said sure...baaaaad move....this lesbian chick was hard-bodied with bleach blonde hair and a fiesty fvckin attitude...she gave me the spanish inquisition, but I maintained frame and had my girl clinging to me...we both convinced her to get naked in my hot tub...and I got a little alone time with her...no 3 some, but I was satisfied....

following day I get an essay of texts from this girl, basically the lesbian friend was seriously jealous of me and brainwashed her...telling her I only care about sex and that I didn't compliment her enough about her new hair...ridiculous girl ****...I basically ignored it, but **** never clicked back with that girl after that night...would've been a SOLID summer plate, but oh well...

bottom line is the 3some **** is tricky if you have one girl that is emotionally attached...better off having two chicks that don't know each other that well and want to explore a lil 3 way action

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

That is straight up B.S. I don't even like going out with bisexual women. But this girls best friend claims she is in love with her. Would you as a man even be close friends with a gay man?? As someone in a relationship you should take yourself away of potential relationship breaking dilemma. This girlfriend also doesn't claim you to her friends? Your girlfriend is going to let someone come over to grill you?

Your girl is eating pu$$y. Point blank.

This girl isn't relationship material. Not at all.

 

[5string]

AJ get's it bigtime!!!

 

[Naughty Ninja]

That is straight up B.S. I don't even like going out with bisexual women. But this girls best friend claims she is in love with her. Would you as a man even be close friends with a gay man?? As someone in a relationship you should take yourself away of potential relationship breaking dilemma. This girlfriend also doesn't claim you to her friends? Your girlfriend is going to let someone come over to grill you?

Your girl is eating pu$$y. Point blank.

This girl isn't relationship material. Not at all.

That's exactly what I was thinking. Especially to hang out with a gay "best friend" who is in love with you? Hell yes the OP's chick is doing some carpet munching.

 

[Deep Dish]

I have a confession:

I wouldn’t be surprised if my girl was a stripper, back in her prime. Let’s just say I’ve been noticing many signs. In fact, now that I think about it, she said she did babysitting through college. I’ve always held the fantasy of dating a stripper, so I guess karma awarded me.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I have a confession:

I wouldn’t be surprised if my girl was a stripper, back in her prime. Let’s just say I’ve been noticing many signs. In fact, now that I think about it, she said she did babysitting through college. I’ve always held the fantasy of dating a stripper, so I guess karma awarded me.

I wouldn't be surprised in the least. Good luck with that one.