That's why they are here for. As a reminder that we have to take better care of ourselves.
Lost soul, tired of all this sht
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Master Don Juan
Bad Boys have something that nice guys don't and is why women are drawn to them, over the conventional nice guy -- an honesty about what they are, as they don't cower their desires; possibly their pain and scars too. Rejection doesn't steer them.
Nice guys play to the woman's wants over their own and slowly build resentment towards her because he's expecting she will return that. All the while not being authentic to his true desires and being. He sacrifices his own dignity and integrity to keep her happy, because this is how he has been programmed through society. It makes a nice rom-com, ok, but it isn't sufficient in reality. It's too surface and shallow. It lacks character, truth, and any amount of depth. It's sourced out of external validation.
Women don't want a bad boy. they just generally have to choose between an a-hole and a "nice guy". Who would you choose? a wimp woman who is needy and unreliable in her words because she needs an idea of you or someone who is at least exciting who you will never be able to catch and tie down?
Woman want someone who is truthful and honest with what they are; someone that can stand firm in front of them. That within itself is passionate and spontaneous as it's continually changing and perhaps evolving. One can work with that. It can be challenged and shaped.
Women want aspects of a nice guy because who doesn't want to be treated nicely at the core? Everyone believes they are worth it to varying degrees and depths. It's usually just covered in years of rejections, hurt, scar tissue; but we all crave a tranquil solace of sorts and to be seen for the imperfect human we are.
On a very simply level, women want a good guy with a spine. It's a hybrid of both worlds. a multidimensional human being who loves them-self fully and doesn't seek validation whilst goes out in to the world, chest out, ready to take life on, but who comes back to her so she can nurture him. She wants to support a man; it's encoded in to women's biology. She will nurture and water that with her whole being if she herself is healthy. She would do anything for that.
the Dating GAME is just a greater reflection of what the GAME of life is. It's all reflections of who we are at that moment.
Every answer we seek will not be found on SoSuave, online, through others' opinions. Rather, It will be found in your own inner compass via your experiences. Life is always pushing you to the most difficult tasks so that you can unveil your true self. I truly believe no one needs advice. They just need to shut up and listen to their own inner voice. We know what is healthy and what isn't. Always enter the cave which frightens you most.
Stop waiting for a woman to do anything. They merely just react to how YOU show up in the moment. It's the woman's desire to tie the man down. Not the other way. That's messing with nature. And if you go against nature, it will surely fall apart. And that's just how it is. We never had a say.
The second you seek something outside of you, is the second it will fall apart. You're here to simply open up and give without reciprocity and receive wholly. Breathe in and breathe out. That's nature.
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Master Don Juan
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