Lost her forever...read if you shall

[TTAG]

ok, obviously its hard to get thru to someone when there in your position. so ill try something else.

I dunno some DJ's are probably gonna diss me for saying this but...

you want this girl back? you want it to be how it was in the beginning? well there is one and only one thing that can do to achieve this. it is a big challenge.

it will work, but its not easy, its very hard. and a lot of people are not going to like what i say...

what you need to do, to get her back and to be happy is LIVE WELL. follow slickster's and drixsa's advice. they know what they are talking about.

i dare you to do this. c'mon just have a little fun. treat it like a game, when you see her, make sure she sees you, you and the other girls that are drooloing over you and your DJ techniques, let her see you with other people, guys or girls, having fun,in one way she is challenging you.

she thinks that you're a wimp, a pvssy, she already has her own why would she want another? if you stay home, and heal like that its gonna take you years, might not even happen. and she'll be right.

but if your man enough, you'll take this challenge head on. ok not for me, you'll prove her wrong. indirectly show her that you know how to have fun without her. she'll want to be a part of that, who doesnt?

 

[Player_Supreme]

Unfortunately your living proof that you can't retire from this shyt and think everything is going to be all good.

You don't learn how to handle women and then let it float out ya minds when you meet the first dime that you fall for.

For that misbeguided fool who posted about when the game will end...like I said never!

Its all a game. You either play it or not. And if you play it hopefully you will have the know-how to win!

When I said I was retiring I didn't mean I was going to hang up my ability to handle women and become a chump...it just ment that I have selected a long term sparring partner.

nothing more...nothing less!

 

[badger04]

I feel your pain buddy. I just went through the same thing. Yeah I have had to see this guy's car parked at her house every morning and see them in the club for a second before I bolted.
The fun has all been at my expense the past 2 weeks but thats going to change soon. See my post above. If this pans out than shes going to have to start seeing me out and such with someone else and well see how she likes it I had planned to give this girl a ring on Christmas and she laughed it off like it was a joke. I know what your feeling as I thought of all kinds of stupid things to do to get even.
Nonetheless though I didn't do anything. I am going to ignore her, and make her see that she was wrong to give up on me and us. Ill guarantee it will get better though.

 

[Cremasta]

Legend, just two things mate.

1. You found a girl who you thought was perfect and fell in love - GREAT!!
2. It was not the right girl - Not great.

You did nothing wrong except fall too hard for the wrong girl. Look at it this way, better she buggers off with her other man now, than after you are married and she buggers off with her other man AND half of your stuff.

I think of the times she let me down, the times she lied to me, the times she showed up late, or she pizzed me off. That puts her in proper perspective!

This works... try not to remember the good stuff about her that you listed at the start of this post.

 

[sux2bu]

Go out and talk to as many girls as you can. Network, approach, number close, go on cheap action dates. Soon, she'll be nothing but a fading memory. If fact -- 2 years from now -- you'll look back and laugh at how pathetic your behavior was towards this girl.

 

[Squid]

We've all had similar situations I'm sure. Four years ago I found out my wife (at the time) was having a fling with her "good friend at work", the one she "worked late with" quite often. I had to start off from scratch, new home, new things, etc. It was hard, but I soon realized it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I decided to do all the things that I have always wanted to try, there was nothing stopping me.

I can promise you without a doubt that things will get better to the point that you will look back at this and laugh. You will look back and actually be thankful that it happened, because it taught you lessons you will never forget.

It was posted previously, but your going to be a doctor someday with loads of ca$h. She will look back some day and think "man, I missed the boat, this guys hot, rich and I settled for army guy".

 

[Legend]

Thanks for all the support on this thread guys. Its been about a week and i have high and lows. The good news is i did well on all my exams. The bad news is still think of this lil ***** and that marine. In about 3 weeks school lets out and i will have a good solid month of not seeing her. This is the time i need to get back on my feet and truly get over her.


She still calls me though...i dont understand why.
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[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Legend
Thanks for all the support on this thread guys. Its been about a week and i have high and lows. The good news is i did well on all my exams. The bad news is still think of this lil ***** and that marine. In about 3 weeks school lets out and i will have a good solid month of not seeing her. This is the time i need to get back on my feet and truly get over her.


She still calls me though...i dont understand why.
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OMG biotch, seriously this girl is really pizzing me off! DONT ANSWER HER CALLS!! It will just keep playing with your head, and if you dont answer she will start to want you more. Not that you would EVER want her again when you think logically! Maybe only in your heart! I had a biotch like this once who was really crule, but it kept drawing me to her, she was destroying me, and she knew it, but she couldnt stop. It was just her personality! I tried to end it sooooooooooooo many times but never could. Then one day not sure what happened, but I managed to pull myself away. I still think about her all the time, and I have dated MANY hotties since, but there was still something about her. Guess it was her destroying me that made me feel like I needed her somehow. Man seroiusly just hang out with friends a LOT, be around people, be happy, smile, laugh, take it easy. Try to just be your old self, the happy one, the one that used to not need this girl. Eventually your emotions will detatch and you will feel ready to move on. good luck mate, I truly feel your pain!

 

[Legend]

Its just so hard man....i feel like i am dying because the relationship is so fvcked up now. The only way things could ever be normal again is if we never talk again. I feel like a idiot because i did a lot of stuff i should'nt have done, and i put up with a lot of shyt i should have put up with.

Like i got pissed at her for going down to the city with a bunch of drug using strangers. And said you wonder why i dont want anything thing to do with you. She slept in the same hotel room...i mean give me a fvcking break. Who does shyt like this. Did i have the right to be mad or was i wrong? Do i have the right to care/mad she was playing two guys? Or am i just out of line?

The more i think about it the more i am glad i am going to be moving on to better things and better people.

She is bringing me down and i lost my true self during this. I hate this shyt and it really is the only thing wrong in my life. Love is something i has never been on my side.

 

[drixsa]

yea shes pretty shady

u r broken up

your not gonna move forward if u dont take her out of your life

wtf is she doin with druggies??

 

[JustDoItAlways]

When you hang around negative people for long enough, that negativity begins to wear off on you. It changes the person that you naturally are.

Its the same with a girl that is bringing you down. All the slights, intentional or not, begin to wear you down.

That is just the point. No matter how much you like her, no matter how much chance there is you will get back together, no matter if she actually has your best interests at heart or not, this girl is simply not good for you.

She is not good for your personal psyche, your self-confidence and even your health. She is, for certain, not good for you finding another woman who will appreciate you.

Stay away from negative people and women who bring you down, intentionally or not.

You want positive people and positive women that bring positive energy into your life instead.

 

[Remulak]

To the original poster, bro hang in there we've all been there. You learned from this which is what matters...but since this post was pulled out of the graveyard he's probably been over it.

 

[djbr]

Seems that someone is digging deeper on the search feature than I am!

:crackup:

 

[baller]

like someone has said earlier "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"

No one likes someone who is clingy.

You need to realize that there are other things in the world than dating and relationships...pick up a hobby. Trouble is that it is YOU who is Needy!
Go to the gym and look at some other women who are like 20 times better!!!! and better looking...if you play your cards right...all of them can be yours!

How many times we have seen this...Better to learn on someone's mistakes...IF not you learn on your own!