So I was kinda involved with this one girl, hb7, about 2 months ago. We hung out a couple times but she apparently couldn't handle my personality or something like that. I always chalked it up to being too ****y around her. I did come across as a very ****y dude when we hung out. So we stopped hanging out. Now she is dating a friend of mine. I never thought he was really afc, but from seeing them together I now know differently. He always gives her stupid compliments and even moved out of his dorm and into an apartment just so they could have a place to stay together. And they've only been dating for 5 days, since last Thursday. So what gives, how does this chump who bends down to her every whim win out over a more qualified, manly guy such as myself. I guess some girls are just different. Anyways, if you got an opinion on this, I'd love to hear it.
Lost a girl to an AFC
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Maybe she's good looking. Maybe she's using her for her money?
Maybe she's just playing him.
Maybe she's just playing him.
He's not the best looking guy in the world. Not to sound conceited, but I'm more attractive. He doesn't really have money or anything like that. I doubt she's playin him. She always claims that she's some big playerette, but I don't believe her because she's nowhere near hot and she's not the type of girl who can get any guy she wants. I don't really know.
johnmich
Senior Don Juan
She will probz get bored as others have commented.
And there is no way id move out after seein a chick for 5 days.
And there is no way id move out after seein a chick for 5 days.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
She's a 7?
Being overly ****y with girls who aren't 9+ will get you nowhere. They do like a confident guy, but would rather find a nicer guy then one who is borderlining on arrogant-assh0le.
Girls don't think in terms of AFC, Don Juan, etc... do you think she really sees you as more qualified? lol
This other guy is obvuously pushing her good buttons, regardless of if you see him as a wuss and an AFC.
We really gotta stop thinking in terms of black and white and start treating girls with respect, without putting them before our own well being. This guy probably does alot of "nice" things for her, and who shouldn't? but he probably also doesn't come of like a scma artist, which I'm figuring she smelled from you. She saw through your player facade.
Being overly ****y with girls who aren't 9+ will get you nowhere. They do like a confident guy, but would rather find a nicer guy then one who is borderlining on arrogant-assh0le.
Girls don't think in terms of AFC, Don Juan, etc... do you think she really sees you as more qualified? lol
This other guy is obvuously pushing her good buttons, regardless of if you see him as a wuss and an AFC.
We really gotta stop thinking in terms of black and white and start treating girls with respect, without putting them before our own well being. This guy probably does alot of "nice" things for her, and who shouldn't? but he probably also doesn't come of like a scma artist, which I'm figuring she smelled from you. She saw through your player facade.
different folks, different strokes.
probably you werent her type of guy, just move on.
just cuz a guy compliments a girl doesnt make him an afc, what makes a person an AFC is neediness and being a doormat.
Being a DJ isnt just about c&f, there are so much other qualities to exude. making a girl feel special, being a man, showing respect..etc.
reread the damn bible
probably you werent her type of guy, just move on.
just cuz a guy compliments a girl doesnt make him an afc, what makes a person an AFC is neediness and being a doormat.
Being a DJ isnt just about c&f, there are so much other qualities to exude. making a girl feel special, being a man, showing respect..etc.
reread the damn bible
Being AFC is not giving compliments. Being AFC is demonstrating desperate behavior and not believing in yourself. You can give compliments, but if you give compliments becuase you think you need to do it to make someone like you, or to win their favor, then you're being AFC. It's all in the subtleties of your inner reality manifesting in your outer reality.
Now go out get another girl!
Now go out get another girl!
Socialreject
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I know many won't agree but for certain types of women, compliments definitely help soften them up. Just use them with sense. Don't use compliments that are totally off the mark and don't worship them... plain and simply.
It doesn't mean you can never say anything nice about a girl cause seriously, if you make the right compliment that will build a lot of rapport with her.
Relating to people also means that you understand them and know how they tick. If you bust out a founded compliment based on someones abilities (rather than appearance) it can create an instant bond. Everyone is looking for confirmation on something they suspect about themselves, from other people. Some people think they are clever and like to be seen that way. Some people think they have a natural grace etc.
It's about relating to people. Attraction is one thing, relating to people is another. Ever told an insecure girl that she is 'safe' while holding her? Gives her half an orgasm right there and then.
The whole basics of pick up guides and other tactics are pretty much trends and behavior styles. They change over time. The image of the desirable man, it's all subject to change and personal taste. Pick up books and what have you simply give you the best possible approach to the majority of people out there, they don't work on everyone and are always subject to change. One thing that never changes is that connecting and relating to someone on a deeper level leaves an impression.
Maybe your 'AFC' friend related to her on a deeper level and connected with her. He may not have your game and looks but he connected with her and there is no substitute for that.
It doesn't mean you can never say anything nice about a girl cause seriously, if you make the right compliment that will build a lot of rapport with her.
Relating to people also means that you understand them and know how they tick. If you bust out a founded compliment based on someones abilities (rather than appearance) it can create an instant bond. Everyone is looking for confirmation on something they suspect about themselves, from other people. Some people think they are clever and like to be seen that way. Some people think they have a natural grace etc.
It's about relating to people. Attraction is one thing, relating to people is another. Ever told an insecure girl that she is 'safe' while holding her? Gives her half an orgasm right there and then.
The whole basics of pick up guides and other tactics are pretty much trends and behavior styles. They change over time. The image of the desirable man, it's all subject to change and personal taste. Pick up books and what have you simply give you the best possible approach to the majority of people out there, they don't work on everyone and are always subject to change. One thing that never changes is that connecting and relating to someone on a deeper level leaves an impression.
Maybe your 'AFC' friend related to her on a deeper level and connected with her. He may not have your game and looks but he connected with her and there is no substitute for that.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Okay well maybe y'all were right about some of the things said here. However, my afc friend told me a few hours ago that he is in love with this girl, and they've been together a week now. It's kinda sad to me, she has him so wrapped around her finger. He'll probably end up being screwed over in the end. And the end probably won't be that far away.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
I don't doubt that true love DOES exist.... at least for a moment, anyways
Tell us, what have you seen that makes you think this won't last?
Have you ever looked around and noticed that every person who says they are in love, guy or girl, does stuff that we consider completly AFC? In the context of what these people are sharing, it is completely appropriate, because they are sharing a feeling that is mutual.
Keep us updated on these two...... I want to see/know what happens
Mr Spitfire
Don Juan
She had low self esteem. She didnt feel she could open up to you because you were too hardassed. You were being ****y, not funny pretend ****y.
You need a hotter chick with more confidence, a girl that has a chance with you. You would have dumped her and she knows that.
You need a hotter chick with more confidence, a girl that has a chance with you. You would have dumped her and she knows that.