So this has happened to me twice in a row now, and I'm not quite sure why it happens or how I can get around or prevent it. I'll talk to a girl, we'll make a really good connection and I'll get her number and we'll text back and forth for a bit. Eventually I'll ask her if she wants to hang out or go see a movie or something and she'll go "Well I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now, I'm trying to be a better person and get closer to God." What does this mean!?!?!? I'm assuming it's something I'm doing wrong but I don't know. Thanks for your help!!
Losing Girls to God
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PrettyBoyAJ
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It means she done had so many d!cks in her life that she felt guilty and decided to get "closer" to God.
Purefilth
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Give her coke/ xtasy tell her she will be as close to god as is chemically possible, then bang her.
I have no problem with that- I'm Christian, myself. But this:
Well I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now, I'm trying to be a better person and get closer to God."
sounds a little strange- who talks that way in a conversation? It sounds like a creative rejection is what it sounds like.
Well I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now, I'm trying to be a better person and get closer to God."
sounds a little strange- who talks that way in a conversation? It sounds like a creative rejection is what it sounds like.
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BeDJ
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I'm not looking for anything serious either, but you seem pretty cool. I figure we'd hang out and get to know each other more.
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Lay down, I'll bring you damn close to Heaven's Gate.
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Lay down, I'll bring you damn close to Heaven's Gate.
Here's the thing: We texted back and forth and she seemed totally into me. It was odd because we were both on Christmas break from college so basically all we could do was text. We get back and I'm like hey we should hang out and she goes "Well this week is kinda busy but how about this weekend?" I said that was fine and then the next day she texts me with the growing closer to God thing. I'm fairly religious, I went to Catholic School for 10 years and go to church on Sunday and whatnot, so it's not like I tried to convert her to Satanism or anything. I feel like it was probably just a polite rejection, but it was almost a complete 180 in a matter of hours, which is what confuses me.
VladPatton
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I feel like it was probably just a polite rejection
Bingo, you nailed it. And a matter of hours is all it takes. Kudos for trying. Next!
Bingo, you nailed it. And a matter of hours is all it takes. Kudos for trying. Next!
If she is a true christian she would want more people to go on the spiritual journey with her. The whole purpose of church is so that you don't worship alone.
Sounds like a polite way of her telling you to F off.
Sounds like a polite way of her telling you to F off.
I'm a Christian, I believe in God, however I am by no means a Bible toter/thumper and I've never been all up in someones face about my religion. with that said, I run like hell from girls like this. Usually girls that all of a sudden "turn to God" do so because they're about to have a kid, or they had a kid and the father ran off and now she figures she will drag the little tyke to church in the hopes that everyone will feel sorry for them and take up a collection for them, they've been run through the c0ck ringer (like someone else said) and 9 times out of 10 they will end up dating the really creepy youth minister who's about 30 and seems so "cool" to all the girls at church who are 15-22. you know the type, the guy that runs up to you and shakes your hand and says "God loves you brother! I love you brother!". just damn WEIRD. they're not really a preacher, just some fool who was asked to read the Bible to youngsters and take them on field trips to ice skate and eat pizza. they'll date a few months and either he will get banned from the church because he secretly smokes weed or they'll run off together and start a cult together or they'll brake up and you'll never see her at church again.
Wait a minute: politely rejecting somebody is something like "hi, sorry, I'm busy this semester, and the next one looks even worse. Next year perhaps?"
I wouldn't discount her telling the truth, unless she wrote that to you only to have a laugh behind your backs with her *****y friends.
Key questions: do you live in a very religious community? Does she seem like the kind of girl who'd discover God and abandon earthly pleasures, whatever that means?
I wouldn't discount her telling the truth, unless she wrote that to you only to have a laugh behind your backs with her *****y friends.
Key questions: do you live in a very religious community? Does she seem like the kind of girl who'd discover God and abandon earthly pleasures, whatever that means?
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@AV87 I'm not sure if I would say it's a religious community, but she is definitely religious. She went with a big church group to Florida for a week over Christmas break (I was invited too by somebody else, but I had something else planned that had been planned out months ago) But to answer your question she is definitely religious. From what she said, she was always religious and not just getting back into it. Is it a good idea to text her and say Hi in like a week or two or just cuts all ties? Based on what I've learned on this forum, cut ties is probably the way to go but would this be an exception?
Bible_Belt
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Do you each go to different colleges? What's the distance between them? If you only see her on break when you're back home, there's not much point to this relationship.
No we go to the same college, but I live about two hours east of the college and she lives about 3 hours southwest of the college. I started talking to her a few days before break started but then once break started we both went home and texted each other.
Bible_Belt
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All you can do is play it cool and act like you weren't rejected. Don't go out of your way to talk to her, but when you see her around, talk to her just enough to see if she shows any new interest. She probably won't, so you just repeat that process. It could go on for years. Then one night you'll run into her when she happens to be drunk at a party, and she'll practically rape you.
Obviously, you need to move on with other options, but if you get in the habit of cultivating those options wisely, instead of destroying your chances by either being too pushy/whiny or the other extreme, refusing to ever talk to her again, then good things will tend to happen. It doesn't work for every specific girl, but overall it is a good strategy.
Obviously, you need to move on with other options, but if you get in the habit of cultivating those options wisely, instead of destroying your chances by either being too pushy/whiny or the other extreme, refusing to ever talk to her again, then good things will tend to happen. It doesn't work for every specific girl, but overall it is a good strategy.
@Bible_Belt First off thanks for the help! Second: I hardly ever see her around, and when I do it's just in the halls. I met her through a mutual friend before break and unfortunately they transferred at the end of the semester. It's basically whether or not I text her. On the one hand I don't want to seem needy or desperate by texting her, but on the other I know what you mean about destroying chances by never talking to her again. (This actually happened with another girl about 6 months ago who I just found out through facebook is friends with the current girl)
It's just a circumvented rejection, much like IHAB (I Have A Boyfriend). If a woman is interested in you, she won't let religion get in the way. Their brains aren't wired the same way.
As RT would say, you need to 'spin more plates'. Get her out of your mind by finding other girls who interest you. The more women you have that you're 'working on', the easier it is to handle bs from any particular one.
As RT would say, you need to 'spin more plates'. Get her out of your mind by finding other girls who interest you. The more women you have that you're 'working on', the easier it is to handle bs from any particular one.
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U got rejected
If it's indeed a religious matter and she's not bullsh!tting you, then there isn't much you can do: she chose God over you (?).sh8716 said:
And you, sir, dodged a .50 bullet cause good luck dating a hyperreligious girl if you aren't. Congrats.
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Let's face it. You were rejected. Your princess is in another castle getting closer to God. She's opening heaven's gates, never to you.
Case closed. Go ghost.
Case closed. Go ghost.