Lose motivation after number close!?

[SPEAK]

Ok, so as I've talked about earlier my life has been changed by this website. I am WAY more outgoing and confident with myself than I have ever been. So anyway, I was at a party on Friday night and I was the life of it. It was a dry party, due to the fact that I got a possession ticket on Halloween, and to my surprise I had a lot of fun. I was very social and danced with a lot of chicks, and got two new phone numbers. I told one of the girls I would call her Sunday (which is today) and the other girl that I would call her "sometime next week" haha. However, yesterday I separated my shoulder and I just didn't really feel like going out tonight, but I think I'm just b*tchin out. When I got their numbers I was stoked to hang out with them, but now I guess I'm just afraid or something. I know I had great report with both of them, and I had a lot of fun with them too. So I guess my question is do you tell a girl when you are going to call them, or just tell them that you will call them "sometime" or something like I did with the second girl. I think I'm just writing this to vent, or because I feel like **** for not having called the one girl tonight.

 

[SPEAK]

Ok i just re read that and i sound like a total puss bag AFC. I will call girl 1 tomorrow and ask her out on a date. I think i might take her roller blading, I did that with a girl a couple weeks ago and it was fun. Does anyone else kno of any good action dates?

 

[sageproduct]

bowling's okay, i have plans for that with a girl soon...ice skating seems real fun to me. real cute and lots of easy kino

 

[eaglez1177]

"So I guess my question is do you tell a girl when you are going to call them, or just tell them that you will call them "sometime" or something like I did with the second girl"

Lol I think your totally overanalyzing man. I really dont think its gonna make a huge difference if you do or do not mention "sometime next week"

Your second post is sounding much better though. If your more into the "action" date, then theres stuff like bowling, sledding (theres snow on the ground where im from), ice skating, making snowmen (almost got me laid once lol), swimming (if your from a warm place), etc. Theres a bunch.

 

[redline420]

It good that you noticed and caught your mistake. I had the same problem for over a YEAR. I never LET myself succeed, and I think what it was, was that it was incongruent to my self-image. When I saw myself I saw a kid who never closed, who never persued women, and never got the result I wanted. I essentially then just played the role I put myself in. Your doing the same thing. You ARE your biggest ****block, b/c you dont let yourself succeed b/c of the chance of failure. You could stop with a number close and be like "I got the number, idc rly if I F**k her though anyway." and let that mentality get stronger and stronger, or you can start showing some intent, and actually following up what you started. The process may seem a little foggy and you may not see a clear path to take from where you are now to the bedroom, but constantly pushing yourself to close close close is going to get you the lay. and trust me once you close once, closing again will just come naturally. Your on the right track, keep it up and dont give yourself excuses. Every time you give yourself an excuse, ask yourself if it would be an exceptable excuse for a friend to use if he was trying to get out of calling up a girl.

As for dates, I cant remember the last time I planned a date. I have just notuiced whenever I stress about what to do next it inevitably makes the date awkward and suck. I usually just plan to meet up and chill and just figure it out from there, although thats just my opinion and planning MAY work better for you. anyways good luck with everything!

 

[SPEAK]

hey thanks so much for the replies, very helpful. And its good to kno other people have had this problem too redline, I will continue to develop that finishing mindset. Thanks again.