Looks Vs Personality?: Your take.

[Baggio86]

Hey guys,

So I have a dilemma.

I have been spinning 3 plates recently... 1 inparticular I have been spinning for almost a year now.

The 2 newer plates I would personally put at a 7 and a 7.5-8. The plate I have been spinning for the year is more towards a 6.5... 7 if she lost about 15-20 pounds.

Now the 6.5 has easily the best personality I have ever known in a girl, personality wise an A+. Funny, Intelligent, respectful, thoughtful, good job, good money, carry's half the load in everything... everything you can ask for in a future wife.

The other 2 are high maintenance and pretty boring in all honesty, but I consider them to be better looking.

Now the long term plate is pushing for exclusivity, part of me thinks it is in my best personal and future interest to commit to her as she would easily be the best for me personally... the kinda girl you rarely stumble upon in this crazy world.

So would you:

A: Commit to the 6.5 and get her working out to put her up to a 7-7.5 and stick with her for the long term, and reap the rewards.

B: Let the 6.5 go and keep spinning the slightly more attractive plates while looking for a girl who encompasses all the qualities (may never happen).

C: Retreat, drop them all, work on myself a bit more and see what the future holds.

It's a very tricky one for me, been thinking about this for a few weeks now and wanted to see what you all would say to this.

Thanks for reading.

 

[jurry]

Similar situation here, certainly no way I could advise you on this as it is your situation and you know the girls better than I do.

Why choose? Women are often a lot more tolerant of you seeing other girls than you may think. As long as the 6.5 thinks she is "the one", keep spinnig others and she'll likely be ok with it, provided she never really hears/sees it and you treat her well.

 

[Baggio86]

Thanks Jurry.

Yeah I think she has an idea that I am seeing other girls, I just have not told her, she definitely thinks she is the one.

I agree and I have been doing just that, as in continuing spinning. I guess that as I'm 29 now, with a fair few pretty dramatic ex's.. keeping this one seems like a good idea... one of those ones where I guess you want to have more of a 'trophie' on your arm yet its worth knocking a point off the looks for the rest of the qualities... quite the conundrum.

 

[Baggio86]

I coincide with Jurry. We don't know these girls so I wouldn't feel proper giving you advice.

But what I'd do personally is C, unless you really like 6.5. But I could never settle for a 6.5. The reason I would pick C is because you will find a girl with all the qualities, but to effectively find her I think working on yourself is the best way to go about it. My main plate now has A+ personality and is probably at least an 8 on the looks scale. There are these types of girls out there, so don't settle. If you do, you'll regret it and miss out on many opportunities.

I think you make a lot of sense here... I would much prefer an 8 with all of her traits.. just as this is a trait I have only found once I have convinced myself it is so rare that I may throw away a good thing... I think I am definitly leaning towards C... thanks for the good advice as always ruler!

 

[Obsidian]

I'd probably settle for 6.5 if she had a great personality -- unless I felt like I could do better by dropping all the girls, and finding someone new. Personality is important. The second and third girl sound like weak candidates.

so A or C

 

[Cejay]

What's your desired outcome/goal?

If you want to spin plates, why settle at all? Don't commit, and adjust and add more.

If you want to be with one and/or married, A is the clear choice or C and look for new possibilities.

Personally I prefer the 6-7s for the reasons you quote your 6.5. They are more appreciative and happy to be in your company.

But that's just me.

CJ.

 

[_sideways_]

Hey guys,

So I have a dilemma.

I have been spinning 3 plates recently... 1 inparticular I have been spinning for almost a year now.

The 2 newer plates I would personally put at a 7 and a 7.5-8. The plate I have been spinning for the year is more towards a 6.5... 7 if she lost about 15-20 pounds.

Now the 6.5 has easily the best personality I have ever known in a girl, personality wise an A+. Funny, Intelligent, respectful, thoughtful, good job, good money, carry's half the load in everything... everything you can ask for in a future wife.

The other 2 are high maintenance and pretty boring in all honesty, but I consider them to be better looking.

Now the long term plate is pushing for exclusivity, part of me thinks it is in my best personal and future interest to commit to her as she would easily be the best for me personally... the kinda girl you rarely stumble upon in this crazy world.

So would you:

A: Commit to the 6.5 and get her working out to put her up to a 7-7.5 and stick with her for the long term, and reap the rewards.

B: Let the 6.5 go and keep spinning the slightly more attractive plates while looking for a girl who encompasses all the qualities (may never happen).

C: Retreat, drop them all, work on myself a bit more and see what the future holds.

It's a very tricky one for me, been thinking about this for a few weeks now and wanted to see what you all would say to this.

Thanks for reading.

You're not going to get her to workout with you if she really isnt the workout type. She needs to stop eating junk food on her own time as well.

I dated this girl who had it all...except she woukdnt workout with me, ordered junk food, and would lie and tell me shes at the gym, but i never saw results.

Fitness is important to me so sadly, had to let her go.

I think you should keep them all as plates. If they want more and are willing to drop what you guys have, then si be it. Theyre not ur robots.

Props for all those plates tho

 

[skinnyguy]

Wasn't it nismo who said that looks and personality are inversely related? I have yet to see a post about an HB 10 with a killer personality, lol.

The older I get the more I just want a girl who is into ME. There is this fat chick named Ally who really likes me. 5 years ago I never would have looked at her. But now it intrigues me cause she's treat me like a King.

 

[jurry]

Wasn't it nismo who said that looks and personality are inversely related? I have yet to see a post about an HB 10 with a killer personality, lol.

The older I get the more I just want a girl who is into ME. There is this fat chick named Ally who really likes me. 5 years ago I never would have looked at her. But now it intrigues me cause she's treat me like a King.

Its all relative, the HB10 has way fewer options that are worth treating like a king from her perspective, so obviously most guys will see her as some stuck up cvnt. But all she is doing is trying to get her moneys worth, so to speak. We all are, biologically.

Its no different from the fat girl who really likes "you", she is attracted to your higher SMV, the confidence you have with her because you know you can have her. But have her lose a bunch of weight start looking better and see how much she still treats you like a king

I realize how cynical this sounds and of course there are exceptions not all people are this way, but the vast majority are.