Looking for advice on nuking a hamster

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

So, a woman I’ve meet through my social circle is back on the market. She’s about an HB8, yoga instructor, friendly. Of course, the sharks are swimming around her, of which I am one. I’ve not blown up her phone, followed her around the club, or gone out of my way to impress her.


But she knows I’m interested, has asked friends about me (among other IOIs), and even agreed to a casual meet up to get to know each other more (instead of the occasional chat at the music club). I offered a coffee meet up this week, she agreed, and now just canceled after not hearing from her in 3 days (with three messages sent right in a row… her hamster was clearly spinning as she sent the first, then the second, then the third). She said the week as gotten away, has to plan/pack to travel for Christmas, has to work everyday, blah blah blah…and just cannot simply find the time for a meet this week (whatever, I’m not really buying it).


In her message that spelled that out, she also suggested a raincheck for after the new year (either a minor sign of interest or simply face-saving politeness, probably the latter. If she really wanted to see me, she would find a way).


Another bit of info: She’s a few months out of a LTR, which ended poorly and she’s made this known. I do know she’s reticent to get involved with anyone right now but at the same time if the “right” c0ck came along, she’d probably ride it. I’m under no illusion about this situation and have only applied a little persistence and not too much pressure.


My question is not how to “get” this girl. Totally ready to drop it and continue on with my other two plates. Still, I’d like to drop a short reply that gets her hamster spinning to maximum effect, without sounding butthurt or vindictive.


I’ve put together a few possible replies, keeping in mind outcome independence, amused mastery, and ****y/funny. I’d like to get anyone’s opinion on them and/or alternative suggestions (also, I’ve combined a few alternatives in some of them).


Siht, girl, I’m booked for 2013.

You’re funny

Too funny, Miss Smith.

You are too funny. Have a safe and merry Christmas, Miss Smith. [push/pull]

You are too funny, Miss Smith. That’s almost believable.

You are such a girl, Miss Smith.

If you were my student, you’d get a - D

You’re trying too hard, Miss Smith

You are too funny. If you were my student, you’d get a – D. Have a safe and merry Christmas, Miss Jones. [I combined a few here]

That’s understandable, sort of.

You aren’t a headcase, are you Miss Smith?

You are not very good at this, are you Miss Smith?


Suggestions?

 

[VladPatton]

I was thinking along the same lines as you a few weeks ago. To do such a thing to this one chick that is all cutesy in person but never sends a text to save her life, even if she is home alone. You know what, Ƒuck em, man!

Just let em be, because this is low interest squared. It's better off they get that feeling of "what did I just miss with this guy??" on their own terms rather than you spending your precious time and thinking of what mental grenades to implant in her fragile little chicken brain. Trust me, that'll be more powerful, and in turn, THAT is your nuke.

The best revenge is living well.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Sounds like have the right attitude OP. It might be the kind of thing, though, that warrents no response or perhaps a "cool." The other responses are good and witty but maybe a bit too well-thought out.

In fact my personal favorite for these kinds of situations iis "cool beans." Yep "cool beans" Why? Well it's not only one word so you don't seem completely short with her.... Plus it's a bit of a disqualifier... the kind of thing that a nerd would say and yet you're saying it as an expression of indifference...

The kind of thing that usually gets the wheel spinning

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Real talk: it's the holidays. If you're just meeting someone now, trying to plan anything with them before the new year arrives is going to be difficult. Plus, with all that people will have going on - Christmas, Kwanzaa, New Year's, etc. - you trying to build up interest level is going to go to waste since she won't be trying to focus her energy on YOU, seeing as its focused elsewhere.

My advice: wait til after the new year to hit her up. If she hits you up to say "hi" or something that's great... but really, if she's going to go out with you, 2 weeks of NC isn't going to make her lose interest.

 

[Kbomb]

No response is the best response.

This

Though if you really have to respond,

No can do. Would break my new years resolution that I haven't made yet.

If she replies to that with a question, then you don't respond.

But not responding is still best.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Thanks everyone. I did think about no response as well. In fact, I did some more thinking and thought up a few more replies, deleted those I didn't think would fit my goals (or would put her on too hard of a defensive), and came up with one to send (yes, lot's of thinking, but also this gave me time to make sure I didn't send out something that repels rather than maintains a positive interaction and helps establish the terms as I want them).


Anyway, I sent this before anyone here chimed in (remember, she suggested meeting after the new year):


Perhaps....[shaking magic 8 ball]....****, "doesn't look promising" for 2013. I'm gonna have to go with the oracle unless something convinces me otherwise."

She responds:

"Hahahahah!! Well played, sir. Reverse psychology. I like it." and she adds a winking smiley face.

Okay, I called her on her flimsy excuse subtly without even mentioning it, flipped the script, remained a bit ****y/funny, and a bit challenging. Plus, it reframes it so that she must now chase.

That said, she's a smart cookie and sniffed out the underlying strategy here. Don't think that negates the effect, though.

We are still frame battling, I think. She's a confident woman, no pushover, and gun shy because she came out of an abusive relationship a few months back. My game will have to be tight.

Unless anyone has a suggested response to how she replied, my gut instinct is to leave it alone now. No doubt she's accumulating orbiters (intentionally or not) like a collapsing star and I know becoming one of those will simply kill any shot I might have. Plus. I'll know all I need to know if she contacts me after the holidays.

Until then, date tonite with another babe.

 

[dap]

A little too verbose for my taste, but you kept the frame and I agree that you should leave it alone now.

 

[Bukkake]

Drop her; she's not worth any more of your time.

 

[Zarky]

Wow, really? You're coming up with a dozen different responses? That's really sad. You need to be banging other chicks, pronto.

 

[foreverAFC]

i hope the world really does end soon.

 

[Zarky]

Sadly, it won't.

 

[Boilermaker]

You need new plates, presstissimmo, bro!

 

[JohnChops]

isnt it crazy how we could just drop a girl in an instance? Like you spend time trying to get them only to find out they are flaky or just not worth it so you just drop em. Weird. Anyway yeah she isnt worth your time but awesome thread title lol

 

[Boilermaker]

We don't drop the ones we get.

It's an illusion that we entertain, that if we've spent too much time, we must have got them somehow.

It's the amateur's fallacy.

In a chess game, you can think for an hour for your move, and a master playing with you thinks for 15 seconds; his move will still be better than yours.

 

[JohnChops]

We don't drop the ones we get.

It's an illusion that we entertain, that if we've spent too much time, we must have got them somehow.

It's the amateur's fallacy.

In a chess game, you can think for an hour for your move, and a master playing with you thinks for 15 seconds; ahis move will still be better than yours.

Good analogy. So you're saying that if you spend a good amount of time trying to get a girl, even if she has low IL, in your mind you will think you have her? And forgetting this theory and knowing when a woman is a lost cause and simply doesn't like you is what a master has as his mentality? Did I get that right

 

[Boilermaker]

Yes. I agree with how you put it.

A chess master will quickly know if an attack will work (or not) down the line, in 10-15 moves.

This ability gives him to direct his resources where he thinks will yield the largest benefit.

In our world, a guy like, Danger won't think twice about NEXT'ing a girl while the sniper AFC will spend months getting the "right" shot.

In the meantime Danger would have picked up many other targets ...

(Although a master would have more "attraction" power, too so he could make things work where a beginner would fail.)