Looking back on the last year

[Desdinova]

And what a year it was! Back in the Spring, I ended my marriage peacefully despite the fact that she cheated on me. It was really difficult to do, but I never brought up the cheating. Instead of focusing on what ended the marriage, I focused on the fact that it was just over. She hadn't had time for me in the last 6 years, so I learned to not care. I had to quit caring in order to keep myself sane. She was never around, and it was extremely lonely. I spend my married time indulging in hobbies until my son came along. Then, I indulged in spending time with him while she was indulging in spending time with her friends.

The night I ended it, I had met a new girl to date. It was refreshing because she is easily one of the hottest women I've ever dated. Too bad she was a bytch. My first post-marriage lay.

Didn't have anyone to date during the summer months. Instead, I did the DJ Bootcamp and got stuck on the week where I needed to number close. My problem is that I can't hold a conversation with a complete stranger to save my life. I started working on improving that part in my personality until I got distracted with work. With one guy quitting and one guy off sick, I was bogged down with work doing out-of-town trips every second week.

During that time, I signed up on POF and played around on there since I didn't have the time to go out and sarge. I ended up meeting a woman on there with 2 kids. Nice to date a blond again! The problem with her is that she just doesn't have the time to date. This was my second post-marriage lay.

Being with this woman made me realize that I had issues from my marriage. I was so happy to be spending time with a woman again that I gave her too much attention, too much energy, too much emotion, and did too many favors for her. Of course, she pulled back. I went and got some counseling about this whole thing. All he really suggested was that it's just going to take some time to 're-calibrate' myself to being single again.

Realizing that I basically had a quick onset of one-itis for this girl, I set up three dates with other women. One I'm still dating, one I dated only once (who keeps trying to follow up), and one whom has a date with me in January.

The girl I'm seeing regularly isn't really that incredible on the looks scale, but she's fun nonetheless and actually has the time to date me. Although I'm not really attracted to her, it's nice to finally spend time with someone who's a bit more level on the personality scale. This is what's helping me re-calibrate myself. She is also my third post-marriage lay.

I'm also keeping my options open to date more women. I know a couple women who are interested in me (and are better looking), so I'm going to pursue them this next coming week. One of them has a VERY AFC bf. According to him, they have had their relationship 'tested' over the last 9 months. In other words, something is VERY wrong with the relationship which is likely him being AFC. This woman is attracted to me, I've already met and made friends with her parents, and she lays the Kino on me pretty heavily. I was pulling back on sarging her because she was in a relationship, but now that I know the circumstances, I'm not holding back anymore. If there's one thing I'm good at, it's stealing women from other men.

As for my life outside of women, I'm finally back at recording music since I have the time now. Today I'm going to sign up myself and a lesbian friend for some dance classes (something I've been wanting to do for years), and I'm going for a coffee with my ex-wife's boyfriend's ex-wife, so that should be fun too.

It feels good to be single.

 

[betheman]

"If there's one thing I'm good at, it's stealing women from other men."

that was a good read apart from that^^^^

 

[azanon]

"It feels good to be single."

Enjoy being where you are, but don't make the mistake of thinking of it as inherently superior. The grass on the other side isn't necessarily greener, but it's green. And when it isn't, don't blame the grass. Blame the caretaker.

 

[Desdinova]

"If there's one thing I'm good at, it's stealing women from other men."

that was a good read apart from that^^^^

Okay, I'll re-phrase that... If there's one thing I'm good at, it's attracting women away from their boyfriends.

Many women are in boring relationships with boring men. When a fun, interesting man comes along and displays attractive qualities that are missing in her bf, she will be quite open to being lured away from the dullness of her relationship.

Attractive women generally aren't single. They move from man to man with little 'down time' in between. The attractive ones that ARE single usually have a reason to be so: they're full time moms, they're busy pursuing a career, or they're social retards.

Enjoy being where you are, but don't make the mistake of thinking of it as inherently superior.

I don't think that at all. There's nothing wrong with being in a LTR if you've got a good woman by your side. I completely understand the desire and the satisfaction that come with being in a LTR. But that wasn't the case in my marriage. It was the loneliest relationship I've ever been in. Now that I'm single, I'm actually able to have a good time with women. As much as I love my hobbies, spending all my time with them makes them lose their appeal. It's kinda like when you turn one of your hobbies into a full time job.

 

[azanon]

I don't think that at all. There's nothing wrong with being in a LTR if you've got a good woman by your side. I completely understand the desire and the satisfaction that come with being in a LTR. But that wasn't the case in my marriage. It was the loneliest relationship I've ever been in. Now that I'm single, I'm actually able to have a good time with women. As much as I love my hobbies, spending all my time with them makes them lose their appeal. It's kinda like when you turn one of your hobbies into a full time job.

Ok that's cool. Yeah, if I were suddenly single again, there'd be things about it I'd like. Being able to game women again freely, doing what I want when I want without answering to anyone - including both time and money, and several other things. BUT, I'd lose a hell of a lot too. Lets put it this way, if I could wave a wand and be suddenly single and not lose a dime of my net worth, ..... I still wouldn't do it. I'm sure there are some marriage haters that probably don't believe me when I say that.