I do the exact same thing Jaylan. Just put the hand there; it's a great way to start if you're unsure if she'll like it. But point is, I like the idea and the OP does not.
Anyway - I HATE it if a girl tells me what to do too much. Like, I was starting to undress her on the couch and she's saying "Wait, we should move to the bed!" in a very irritating way. What the hell is wrong with the couch? Girl, I'm trying to be turned on and you're not helping! If you want something then I'll let you take the lead for a minute and you put the work in yourself! But don't just lie there like a fish and ask stuff and expect me to do it!