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Longest amount of time it took you to fvck her?

tightsocks

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What's the longest amount of time it took you to fvck from meeting to doing the deed?
 

Black Widow Void

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Nine weeks.
I was 32 and she was an 18 year old virgin. Prior to the deed, she 'took care of my needs' and was fun to be around. She and I were dating and she received no pressure.
 

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About 2 months 19 year old, took v-card was 18 myself. A very, very, very long time ago in another country.
 

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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We actually ran through 3 of the same social circles so she was very intimidated by the fact that if it went bad with me then she maybe could lose all her friends or I would lose some so we played it cool for like over a year, she saw me with different women all the time but like she wouldn't say anything to anybody ever, that's how I knew she would be down eventually, I'll probably end up marrying that woman if anybody
 

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1 week and even that was largely because of distance

I don't understand this nonsense of waiting X number of dates to have sex and to be honest i wouldn't want to be with a woman who puts that level of control on her innate desire because i know its going to lead to much bigger issues later down the line

I can guarantee the same types of women who claim not too have sex before date XYZ are the same women who "aren't in the mood" or are always "tired" a few years down the line

Sex should always happen naturally , appreciate some people want too take longer to get to know each other but in my opinion discovering if you even are sexually compatible is pretty dam important part of a relationship avoiding it for whatever reason is naive
 

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Couple of days. Either she’s interested or not. I’ve never really done a full on pursuit. I’ve been enthralled by a woman many times but that rarely pans out.

I’ve had friend types but they usually ended up wanting to engage further after a time.

I can tell on the first meeting. It’s a Go or No-Go thing. If I’ve had texting time and she responds, it’s pretty much in the bag.

This isn’t game. I don’t really have “game” like you guys talk about. I set up one meeting, any hesitation on her part and she’s dropped from my mind. That’s the important part. No analyzing. I don’t believe in analyzing anything.

Analyzing actually shuts down natural instincts. I let my natural instincts, if you want to call it that or whatever it is, run the show. Just engage them and look them in the eye.
Do you have a method for exiting an overly analytical mode and getting into the moment and allowing the instincts to run the show?
 

2Rocky

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Your question prompted me to reflect on my own experiences, and I kinda went off on a tangent....

I'm kind of ashamed to say I've never had sex with someone where I've had to wait more than a week or second real date.
In truth , I seldom took women on a "proper date" that resulted in sex. However the women I DID take on dates resulted in longer term retention and repeat business...
I'm actually wondering if all my SNL's (which is the majority of my lays) were flukes, spur of the moment, she wanted to get laid anyway type ONS experiences.

I'd estimate 75% of the women I had sex with were ONS. While 25% were repeat business/relationships. I will admit, for the most part I got laid more frequently while in relationships than searching for ONS's.

I've only had 30 years in the game and had LONG term relationships during that time that took up 27 of those years....but I could honestly say the last 5 years has more sexual activities than all 25 before that.
 

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No doubt that the thrill of the hunt and quick success makes things much more intense.

In the words of Patrice, the longer it takes the less its worth it.
 

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31 years. We never know all the folks interested. One gave it up 31 years later. There are some others in that category.
 

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For me it's mostly just about getting a place to actually do it, I dont have my own house and nor do most women my age. I don't invest in hotels with women i just met plus most women aren't into public/car s*x.

Getting my own place would solve most of my logistics issues
 

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Wasn't chasing her, that's just how long I had met her before sex.

One night at a party she wanted to kiss me (we were sleeping in a sofa). We ended up having sex on the sofa.
 

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I think I might. I don’t do this but I know someone who keeps their thoughts straight by counting down. If he has a thought that he doesn’t want or something is bugging him, he starts counting down from 5 to 1 in his head. Seems to work for him.

I just do a mental shift. It takes practice but anyone can do it. Dwelling on the “why” or “how come” can really mess someone up bad. I mean really bad. It’s like a magnet. It will bring up past similar mental image pictures and thoughts and then stick everything together like a magnet. Just a lump of shyt. You will spin right in with your tail on fire.
Yes! It gets us stuck there and cresting a self fulfilling prophecy
 

The Duke

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Most 2-3 dates.

One went 5-6wks. There were a few dates that weren't conducive to sechs but it's an issue if it takes that long and those relationship's will have issues down the road. If she really wants you like a woman should that is high interest and you know what you are doing then 2-3dates tops. Even the "good girls". I've banged many with in a few hours of initial conversation.
 

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Couple of days. Either she’s interested or not. I’ve never really done a full on pursuit. I’ve been enthralled by a woman many times but that rarely pans out.

I’ve had friend types but they usually ended up wanting to engage further after a time.

I can tell on the first meeting. It’s a Go or No-Go thing. If I’ve had texting time and she responds, it’s pretty much in the bag.

This isn’t game. I don’t really have “game” like you guys talk about. I set up one meeting, any hesitation on her part and she’s dropped from my mind. That’s the important part. No analyzing. I don’t believe in analyzing anything.

Analyzing actually shuts down natural instincts. I let my natural instincts, if you want to call it that or whatever it is, run the show. Just engage them and look them in the eye.
Listen to what this guy has to says boys, he is spot on.
 

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3 weeks (3 dates, we only had 1 mutual night off per week) because I didn't know any better at the time and she pretty much got tired of waiting for me to make a move. Since then it's pretty much been very soon or not at all. At least for me, I know if it's not escalating pretty quickly it's going to be wasted time beyond that. Even a few times I cut my losses early and then they came back around showing interest nothing good ever came of it.
 

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The most was a couple of months if I remember correctly. But we were both virgins, before 18 and living in different cities, we met 3-4 times in 6 months.

As I got older, lays were increasingly easier to get. Up to the point where you pretty much do it on the first/second date and you almost feel like you know everything that is to know way too early.

I feel like it's almost a paradox: I kinda miss the chase, yet if things don't get sexual fast, they usually don't happen al all and I cut 'em short.
 

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