Long time no see...

[Timster]

Since December, I've become best friends with a certain girl. We hung out, or at least called each other regularly -- watching movie, or just goofing off...

A few weeks ago, she met a certain guy. Since then, she has been spending all of her time with him - totally forgetting about me. I called to her to try to talk about it, but she just said that she's been really busy. She always had plans when I called, so I've backed off and haven't called her since.

I have other friends that I hang out with, but I really want to keep the bond she and I have (had). Will this infatuation with this other guy fizzle? What would you suggest I do? Just wait it out? She's a really fun person and I don't want to "fade out of the picture".

 

[spider_007]

get a life. leave the gurll alone. you two ware friends, you don't have a chance of anything else (friends zone thing). if she wants to keep in touch she will call you..... right now she is seeing somebody.........somebody who makes her heart skip a beet.

what are you doing calling her "to talk about it" you pvssy.

if your lucky she is gona say hi to you when she runs into you somewhere........

 

[Lost In Translation]

learn from this

get MALE friends

women will do this to you EVERY TIME it doesn't work

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Tim: She's showed you what a "great friend" she is by ditching you when she gets a boyfriend. You basically mean NOTHING to her. You will never be her boyfriend. You will never mean a thing to her. The only time she will keep in contact with you is when she needs attention and validation while she is single. I've met these girls before. They are a dime a dozen. In short, she's using you.

When/if she breaks up with her boyfriend, she will come running back to you. Guaranteed! This is your chance to save face and be a man. Tell her to fuvk off when this happens. Although I doubt you have the balls to say this judging by your post, I hope you do for your own dignity's sake.

 

[ScrewIt]

This is why guys have guy friends...

Basically whats going on is, her bf's time is more valuable than yours. And she feels you're not worth it. forget her a move on, she already has.

 

[Timster]

TillTheEndOfTime, I think you hit the nail on the head.

A few weeks ago, she was dating this loser and he was a real jerk to her, she came running to me.

I don't want to be her fallback guy...so, *I'll* be too busy for her (when/if she comes around) and I'll get out there and date other girls...

 

[muttley]

great opportunity to play ganji games IMO. If you *dissappear* , she will think:

-where has he gone?
-have i done something to cause this?
-have i lost him?
-is all the attention he was giving me, is going to some other girl?
-what have i done?

etc etc, let her emotions run riot in her brain, thats if there is interest level in YOU. If there isnt, then she really wont notice. Dissappear until your contacted, personnally if a girl did that to me id move on, infact i learned not to fall into the friend zone now unless i allow it.

Your call bro.


peace.

Muttley

 

[DJDamage]

Tim: She's showed you what a "great friend" she is by ditching you when she gets a boyfriend. You basically mean NOTHING to her. You will never be her boyfriend. You will never mean a thing to her. The only time she will keep in contact with you is when she needs attention and validation while she is single. I've met these girls before. They are a dime a dozen. In short, she's using you.

Good advice, have been through that myself I could tell you timster, that TillTheEndOfTime is right.

Women in general make lousy friends, get yourself some guy friends.

For her you were just an entertainment unit, when she felt bored she would call and meet up with you and you entertained her or did stuff for her. It beats staying at home and watching T.V.

Move on and don't let this user back into your life, because it will happen again.

 

[DJDamage]

great opportunity to play ganji games IMO. If you *dissappear* , she will think:

-where has he gone?
-have i done something to cause this?
-have i lost him?
-is all the attention he was giving me, is going to some other girl?
-what have i done?

etc etc, let her emotions run riot in her brain, thats if there is interest level in YOU. If there isnt, then she really wont notice. Dissappear until your contacted, personnally if a girl did that to me id move on, infact i learned not to fall into the friend zone now unless i allow it.

Your call bro.


peace.

She was the one that dissappeared due to lack of interest, she couldn't care less if he jumps off a bridge. Forget Gangji and move on.

 

[CraigMack]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Tim: She's showed you what a "great friend" she is by ditching you when she gets a boyfriend. You basically mean NOTHING to her. You will never be her boyfriend. You will never mean a thing to her. The only time she will keep in contact with you is when she needs attention and validation while she is single. I've met these girls before. They are a dime a dozen. In short, she's using you.

When/if she breaks up with her boyfriend, she will come running back to you. Guaranteed! This is your chance to save face and be a man. Tell her to fuvk off when this happens. Although I doubt you have the balls to say this judging by your post, I hope you do for your own dignity's sake.

This is by far the best advice so far givin. I do hope you will listen to this man. When I read your post I couldn't believe it. Have you even read the bible?????

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

go get involved with other women kid, and next this hoe this second, not later, not tomorrow, this second.

 

[jprjrjr]

Why would you even think of tolerating that kind of behavior? When she had nothing better to do, you were just fine to hang out with. Now that she found a man, you're just a distant memory.

The advice you've been given so far is pretty sound. Forget the ho bag and move on.

 

[Timster]

She just called me -- just to talk. I'm really tempted to pretend like everything is ok, but it's not. What should I have said/say next time?

 

[Pure Drive +]

Say hi and the formalities. Then after exactly 1 minute, I don't give a rat's ASS where you are in a convo, say you are a busy man, in a hurry, and need to take care of some business. Tell her to call back some other time.

She probably won't, and that is good for you. If she does call back, do the same thing, you're always busy, at least for users like her.

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by Timster
She just called me -- just to talk. I'm really tempted to pretend like everything is ok, but it's not. What should I have said/say next time?

Everything is okay. The two of you are just friends remember? So it's perfectly fine for her to ignore you when there's another guy in her life and run back to you when she doesn't. However, if you do not like this, then you can either talk it out (if you're really good friends and the two of you actually listen to each other and allow each other to voice their opinions) or just forget about her and move on to other friends.

In my opinion though, this isn't a real big deal. It happens a lot. Even guys do it. Well, AFC guys do it. I've come to understand why people do it and I don't think it as a malicious act on their part. They just don't know better. However, with friends like these, I tend not to put much importance in to them. If there's nothing better, I'll hang with them. Otherwise, they'll probably be the names that are at the bottom of my "willing to spend my time with" list.

 

[Timster]

Good points, JonJack...I'd really like to keep our friendship...she told my friend that she wants that no matter what.

However, I feel like she's forgotten about me, although, she did call the other night...I think time apart is best for now...

She told him that this new guy (who she'e been dating for 4-5 weeks) is the guy she's going to marry...uh...riiiggghhhttt....

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Timster
Since December, I've become best friends with a certain girl. We hung out, or at least called each other regularly -- watching movie, or just goofing off...

A few weeks ago, she met a certain guy. Since then, she has been spending all of her time with him - totally forgetting about me. I called to her to try to talk about it, but she just said that she's been really busy. She always had plans when I called, so I've backed off and haven't called her since.

I have other friends that I hang out with, but I really want to keep the bond she and I have (had). Will this infatuation with this other guy fizzle? What would you suggest I do? Just wait it out? She's a really fun person and I don't want to "fade out of the picture".

Once two people enter a relationship, the buds and the bros and the male/female friends go to the wayside, as all the time is spent on the signifigant other. "Hoes before Bros" ALWAYS goes down.