DJbootcamper
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Before I begin my initial question, I'd like to say a few things.
After reading the DJBC and other multiple posts from the site, i realized the whole "Jerk vs. Nice Guy" thing is true, among other things.
The first maybe...5 months I went out with my girlfriend, I treated her like A QUEEN. I taxi'd her everywhere (it was sophomore year, i was the only one who could drive), I bought her everything (roses...save ur money, they dont do anything), and she basically walked all over me. Every night her best friends would say "M***, why are you still going out with her? You could have soooo much better, you're so nice to her" **nice guy alert**, after about 6 months she got out of her mood, and realized what a catch I am. Unfortunately, I have this grudge deep down inside on her for being so mean to be before, that I guess I stopped treating her like a queen every since (no more flowers, no more taxi'ing), and I keep her with this thing in the back of her head that I could dump her anytime...this in-tern makes her want to merry me (basically what everything says).
But anyway, in September it will be 2 years together. Thats all sophomore year, all junior year, and personally I don't think I want to be in a relationship all my senior year. I've been debating breaking up, or going on a break, but I just dont do it. My reasons for not breaking up are all the basics:
"What if I regret it the next day?"
"What if I can't find anyone better?"
"What if SHE finds someone better?"
and of course..."What if I can't get any *****?" (which I realized, being a DJ or Alpha-male is not about 'getting *****', so I've kind of got that complaint out of my mind).
I guess you can say I've been "comfortable" for a while now. I'm so used to seeing her....that its just normal. But I mean, almost every night I hang out with another girl (behind her back...I dont cheat though!), and sometimes it's like I dont wanna be at the same place as her, so I can socialize better with people. The more attractive girls I become friends with, they just raise my self-esteem to make me think that i WILL be successful if I break up with my girlfriend.
One thing I think i WILL have the balls to do soon though, is go on a break....for like a month or so, decent one. I think it would give me the opportunity to see whats out there, find myself,
Oh ya, for the record, she is my first "real" girlfriend, so who knows, maybe I'm sticking around solely for that reason.
Anyway, if you guys have been in my shoes before, what has happend after you ended it? One of my good lady friends has been in 2 long-term relationships in a row, and now shes single, and she keeps telling me how amazing it is (maybe she just wants my n*ts...).
I know in the end though, despite what my friend says, despite with you DJ's say, that it all comes down to me. I think tonight I'm gunna make a "Pluses and minuses of breaking up" list, and see what side comes out strongest.
Eh sorry for the length, I just had to get all this out of me. Feel free to offer advice or ask any questions you wanna know in order to help more me more.
After reading the DJBC and other multiple posts from the site, i realized the whole "Jerk vs. Nice Guy" thing is true, among other things.
The first maybe...5 months I went out with my girlfriend, I treated her like A QUEEN. I taxi'd her everywhere (it was sophomore year, i was the only one who could drive), I bought her everything (roses...save ur money, they dont do anything), and she basically walked all over me. Every night her best friends would say "M***, why are you still going out with her? You could have soooo much better, you're so nice to her" **nice guy alert**, after about 6 months she got out of her mood, and realized what a catch I am. Unfortunately, I have this grudge deep down inside on her for being so mean to be before, that I guess I stopped treating her like a queen every since (no more flowers, no more taxi'ing), and I keep her with this thing in the back of her head that I could dump her anytime...this in-tern makes her want to merry me (basically what everything says).
But anyway, in September it will be 2 years together. Thats all sophomore year, all junior year, and personally I don't think I want to be in a relationship all my senior year. I've been debating breaking up, or going on a break, but I just dont do it. My reasons for not breaking up are all the basics:
"What if I regret it the next day?"
"What if I can't find anyone better?"
"What if SHE finds someone better?"
and of course..."What if I can't get any *****?" (which I realized, being a DJ or Alpha-male is not about 'getting *****', so I've kind of got that complaint out of my mind).
I guess you can say I've been "comfortable" for a while now. I'm so used to seeing her....that its just normal. But I mean, almost every night I hang out with another girl (behind her back...I dont cheat though!), and sometimes it's like I dont wanna be at the same place as her, so I can socialize better with people. The more attractive girls I become friends with, they just raise my self-esteem to make me think that i WILL be successful if I break up with my girlfriend.
One thing I think i WILL have the balls to do soon though, is go on a break....for like a month or so, decent one. I think it would give me the opportunity to see whats out there, find myself,
Oh ya, for the record, she is my first "real" girlfriend, so who knows, maybe I'm sticking around solely for that reason.
Anyway, if you guys have been in my shoes before, what has happend after you ended it? One of my good lady friends has been in 2 long-term relationships in a row, and now shes single, and she keeps telling me how amazing it is (maybe she just wants my n*ts...).
I know in the end though, despite what my friend says, despite with you DJ's say, that it all comes down to me. I think tonight I'm gunna make a "Pluses and minuses of breaking up" list, and see what side comes out strongest.
Eh sorry for the length, I just had to get all this out of me. Feel free to offer advice or ask any questions you wanna know in order to help more me more.