Hockey Playa
Master Don Juan
Hey guys im not going to write out the whole story because i know most people dont take the time to read it. I just had to get my question out to this great community that has helped me so much over the years.
My Situation/Question:
I have been on 3 dates, and had sex with this girl over the span of 4 months. She is from my home town, but currently lives 6 hours away for school, and will live there for at least another 10 months. This girl is about an HB5, but there is something special about her. Most guys probably wouldnt look twice, but she has an amazing personality. She just does it for me, drives me crazy, im sure you guys have had that one girl who you dont know why your attracted to, but you just are. As for the boyfriend part, it was kind of her first boyfriend who she met in first year college, that has just kind of dragged out for years, she told me she doesnt see it going anywhere, and its pretty much on the rocks. She hasnt fully committed to me, im assuming because of the history with the boyfriend, and the distance.
I have broken a lot of rules with this girl because i felt i could afford to. We text like crazy, and I actually feel myself being less alpha, and more oneitis about her. Im assuming this is because i know i cant have her at the moment, and it actually appears to be a challenge. I have tried to see other girls, and have many other options available but i cant seem to shake this one, she is always on my mind for the last 4 months. I have apparently developed deep feeling. She was in town just 2 days ago and we hooked up again. She told me her boyfriend or soon to be ex boyfriend is gone for the summer, but still wouldn't commit to me or give me a solid answer.
Now i am 24, im not getting any younger I want to find a solid girlfriend, and I can definitely see myself with this one.
Option#1 I am strongly thinking about calling or emailing her in a week or two, and putting all my cards on the table. Saying "Heres how I feel, here is your chance to be with me, i am willing to try the long distance thing and see how it goes. Basically I want to give us a shot. If you dont want to we'll go our seperate ways, but at least i will know."
Option #2 Play it aloof, continue to text, wait to see if her current relationship ends before summer, and than jump in. Even if she breaks up with her current boyfriend there is the distance factor. I feel like i have to eventually put it out there, because if its not going to work out, i may as well have it all out there, and go down in flames.
Basically have any of you guys ever gave a girl this memorandum? Kind of like an all or nothing? Will me putting all the cards on the table back fire on me? OR will it potentially force her hand to decide, and might work out by showing her that i am willing to walk away, and she may have missed her chance.
This is just a short summary of my situation, i just needed to get it out there. Thank you to anyone who took to the time to read this. If anyone has any questions of could give me some insight I would be much in your debt.
Thanks guys
My Situation/Question:
I have been on 3 dates, and had sex with this girl over the span of 4 months. She is from my home town, but currently lives 6 hours away for school, and will live there for at least another 10 months. This girl is about an HB5, but there is something special about her. Most guys probably wouldnt look twice, but she has an amazing personality. She just does it for me, drives me crazy, im sure you guys have had that one girl who you dont know why your attracted to, but you just are. As for the boyfriend part, it was kind of her first boyfriend who she met in first year college, that has just kind of dragged out for years, she told me she doesnt see it going anywhere, and its pretty much on the rocks. She hasnt fully committed to me, im assuming because of the history with the boyfriend, and the distance.
I have broken a lot of rules with this girl because i felt i could afford to. We text like crazy, and I actually feel myself being less alpha, and more oneitis about her. Im assuming this is because i know i cant have her at the moment, and it actually appears to be a challenge. I have tried to see other girls, and have many other options available but i cant seem to shake this one, she is always on my mind for the last 4 months. I have apparently developed deep feeling. She was in town just 2 days ago and we hooked up again. She told me her boyfriend or soon to be ex boyfriend is gone for the summer, but still wouldn't commit to me or give me a solid answer.
Now i am 24, im not getting any younger I want to find a solid girlfriend, and I can definitely see myself with this one.
Option#1 I am strongly thinking about calling or emailing her in a week or two, and putting all my cards on the table. Saying "Heres how I feel, here is your chance to be with me, i am willing to try the long distance thing and see how it goes. Basically I want to give us a shot. If you dont want to we'll go our seperate ways, but at least i will know."
Option #2 Play it aloof, continue to text, wait to see if her current relationship ends before summer, and than jump in. Even if she breaks up with her current boyfriend there is the distance factor. I feel like i have to eventually put it out there, because if its not going to work out, i may as well have it all out there, and go down in flames.
Basically have any of you guys ever gave a girl this memorandum? Kind of like an all or nothing? Will me putting all the cards on the table back fire on me? OR will it potentially force her hand to decide, and might work out by showing her that i am willing to walk away, and she may have missed her chance.
This is just a short summary of my situation, i just needed to get it out there. Thank you to anyone who took to the time to read this. If anyone has any questions of could give me some insight I would be much in your debt.
Thanks guys