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Vanilla,
I understand what your saying and for people that are telling you to move out don't realize that if your parents are willing to provide for you, (no rent, utility bills, etc etc...) why shouldn't you relax and enjoy the ride matter of fact you should appreciate & value this blessing because I bet you their are people out their that would kill to be in your position. Focusing and going to school stress free (no car payments, insurance, rent...etc etc) is something not everyone gets.
You should be making the most out of this opportunity and milk the time that you have for it's worth. You have your whole life to be "independent" or go for your career so when you look back you will appreciate the time that you spent living with your parents a lot more. (I'm assuming your in your early 20s). So...keeping that in mind you DON'T have to move out or for all we know your culture might be different as well where the children stay with their parents until their late 20's. (Latin American, Middle-Eastern etc etc...).
Now your life overall is something you should consider. Work on developing hobbies or talents that you would enjoy and most of all utilize in your life later on for further beneficiary results. Martial arts, dancing, writing, art, music are just some of the things that you should at least try you hand at and see how you are. Dude to be honest or maybe it's me, but making friends/social-circles has become a pain in the ass for me because everyone is a "wannabe-leader" who has the "my way or the high-way" type mentality because people actually feel like they ARE somebody in groups that they have influence over.
Chances are that when you DO try to join their groups if you don't become a "follower" or have even an inkling of where it might seem as if you can THINK on your own you WILL be shunned out. The problem is that many of the social circles have some person that makes everyone else look good so if your not one of those chances are you won't be part of the group either.
I'll tell you a little story:-
When I first started college I was the most outgoing, friendly, talking to everyone, trying to make friends with everyone (I still am to an exent) because I wanted to make the best out of college since high-school suked ass but...I woke up to a sad reality where all everyone cares about is getting ahead by using each-other. (BTW being the smartest guy in class means that you have a sign on your head that says
"..Use me!!.." ) In the beginning I started forming my OWN groups for study and would genuinely help and aid people with the class and saw that as a vehicle for building connections, friends, resources & just knowing people overall BUT at the end of the semesters you ask them to hang out or if YOU need help with something no one picks up their phone. When you see them around campus they don't even remember your name but after making attempts, saying hi, trying to hang-out with people I eventually gave up. I've heard the line "...yooo man we gotta hit up a club one-day!!!!..." so many times that I already know it's a lie. :crackup:
At the end of the day it doesn't matter, I've learned to not rely on anyone except for myself but again I could be wrong. Even though people are at different stages of growth in their lives it's something that doesn't concern me anymore. So keeping all this in mind if I want to bang chicks or I "need" a girl in my life...I hunt on my own because that's the only way *I* know.
I highly suggest you learn to do that because if you can build authentic, REAL confidence and self-esteem you probably wouldn't "need" anyone in your life. (Courtesy of Interceptor!!!!)
