backbreaker
Master Don Juan
wow. i don't know what made me do this but here is a post i wrote in the spring of 2004. almost 10 years ago. i was ****ing pathetic.
i just put the good / really pathetic parts here
then look at the follow up post
wow good lord i was pitiful. i have come a long motherfreaking way from that dude.
in reality / hindsight, this was around the time my first ocmpany started taking off and i started making a name for myself and she liked having me around. there was SOME physical attractoin, she always told me i was good looking, but she didn't like me 'like that'
if this would have happened today this entire post would have been 1 paragraph. yeah this girl came over my house at 9pm at night, i tried to **** her, she didn't want to let me, so i made some excuse to leave and left lol, went ghost. she calle dme a jerk /perv and i told her okay
that girl is the sole reason i signed up to this site. and it's really funny how like, id idn't want to listen to one person i nthe thread execpt for who was telling me what i wanted to hear, yet everyone else was right.
i just put the good / really pathetic parts here
Alright, I have been talking with this girl for 2 weeks now, who I used to be best friends with and we stopped talking for undicslosed reasons, mainly becuase I wanted to fvck her and she didn't want to return the favor, but it's more to it than that.
Anyway, she contacts me out of the blue 2 weeks ago after years and tells me to give her my number so that she can call me.
We have been talking a little then it really started to pick up around the middle of last week. I dont' think there has been a day since that I haven't talked to her.
Also, she has a BF and they broke up but she still cares for him and all of that good jazz.
Now, I am not a true DJ, but I have natural DJ traits... such as when she started to tell me how she wanted to break up with her BF and eventually did, I told her that that was on her and I really didn't wish to be dragged into the situtation, unless he hit her or something wild like that. I have made it clear that when me and her talk, no talking about her EX unless I bring it up or unless it's serously important (which it never is)
Anyway, she calls me friday and we hang out, litearly the entire night... from 8pm until 6am at both of our houses off and on. We had a very deep converstion and although no sex took place, had a great time. I know she had a good time (we were best friends for crying out loud). At the beginning she was a tad bit uneasy, as was I because we haven't seen each other in so long. By the middle of the night she had taken off her shoes and had made herself a pilot on my couch.
Also, for some reason, after 1 oclock all we could talk about is sex.
EVEN before we got together on friday, I had agreed to go with her to an ART museum on Saturday becuase I have taken Art History and she is taking ART in college now and needed some help. So after I left her house on friday night, or saturday morning, whatever you want to call it, she calls me and tells me she is ready on saturday.
I pick her up and we went up to the museum... Also note that I may be over analyzing but she seemed to have tried alot harder to get dressed then she did the day before, I could even smell her perfeme which I couldn't the day before. Anyway, we get to a peice of art that she was supposed to analzyise, and I try to play it cool and let her do her thing because, it is HER work. I am just there for advice. But with that said, what she was analyzing was so off base I had to jump in and show her how to actually analyze artwork. She had a friend or a classmate there with her who was eyeing me the entire time. By the time we were done, she couldnt' come up with her own opinion without asking me was it okay, which I thought was cute.
Anyway, a couple of things changed at that point. I am a pretty smart guy, not to tute my own horn, but it's one thing to say you are smart, and it's another to Prove you are smart to a woman if you know what i mean. On the way to the museum and at the beginnig of friday night, her arms were crossed when she was in my car. By the end of friday night and espically when we left the art muesum her body lanaugae had opened up alot more. She even finished off a smoothie that I said I wasn't going to finish, didn't bother taking the straw out or anything.
The previous night I got the vibe that she wanted to get together saturday night, because well she said she would get ready and give me a call so we could get together. She even confirmed this when she got out of the car when I dropped her off. However, she later said she was tired and she was over a friends house and didn't want to do anything. I got the feeling that If I would have pressured her into seeing me she would have, but no point in that.
When I first thought about it, I was a little pertired, but then I realized what happened... Although I am sure she still sees me as a friend, I think she started to feel uncomfortable around me because she is finding me more attractive (She didn't blow me off, she called me 5 times last night).
I plan to submurege myself into work again, mainly because I have alot that I want done by may and also because I want to detach myself from her as much as possible this week. She has a habit of calling me all of the time, and although I do like talking to her, If I plan on moving forward this has to stop.
Another thing, she used to do this in the past, but not to the extent that she does now, ever since friday night. She loves, I mean Loves talking about sex!! After I think 1 oclock on saturday I think the rest of the night we were talking about sex. I forget who started the conversation... I think I did one time and she did the other, but she keeps it going.
However, the odd thing is, I think she is getting a rush about talking about sex with me. Yesterday I think I asked her something about a past bf who happends to be a distant friend of mine, and she said he was the worst she has ever had and such and such (word around the grapvine is that he was that bad). We started talking about sex for around 5 mintues, and then she says "we will talk about this later, I will call you when my friends aren't around so they wont hear us talk about this". Then when she gets home, she has a habit of calling me for around 5 mintues, getting off of the phone and getting ready to go to bed and then calling me back to talk... which always leads to talking about sex.
Her "mixed signals" that she was sending are really not that mixed at all now that I looked at it. Hell she is calling me right now but I told her I would call her back. (i had convinced myself this girl wanted to **** me lol)
My question, the only one I really have is that how do I not answer the phone in a nice way? I have a cell phone so I can't say I didn't hear it. I can't pick up the phone every time she calls and say "call me back" (or can i...). That seems to be the hardest thing to figure out yet.
like i said before, we were good, if not best friends before we stopped talking, and If I just wanted to fvck her I would have left this alone a long time ago. She is LTR material in my opinion.:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
then look at the follow up post
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50075First, she called me and we got together 2 weeks ago for the first time in 2 years. It was fun. We stayed up the whole night and talked at both of our places, I really didn't want to make a move for a copule of reasons, but I got the jist that she had a good time.
Okay let me fast forward to these last couple of weeks.
First of all, her BF got kicked out of school and came home the wednesday before last, and me and her had a long, long converstion on thursday about if and how things were going to change. She assured me that she still would "make time" for me because I told her that I had no problem being her friend, but I would not be put on hold because her BF is back. I then told her that it would be best if we just weren't friends, simply because for a second I didn't believe what she was saying.
The next day when I woke up, I thought about the decision, and the fact that I really would miss talking to her, combined with the fact that she did do something that was pretty gutsy on her part, contacting me after 2 years trying to rekindle a friendship and not knowing how I felt about her, that I could be her friend as long as we had a mutal understanding about certain things. I told her this on Friday afternoon, the convo was short because we were both extremely busy.
wow good lord i was pitiful. i have come a long motherfreaking way from that dude.
in reality / hindsight, this was around the time my first ocmpany started taking off and i started making a name for myself and she liked having me around. there was SOME physical attractoin, she always told me i was good looking, but she didn't like me 'like that'
if this would have happened today this entire post would have been 1 paragraph. yeah this girl came over my house at 9pm at night, i tried to **** her, she didn't want to let me, so i made some excuse to leave and left lol, went ghost. she calle dme a jerk /perv and i told her okay
that girl is the sole reason i signed up to this site. and it's really funny how like, id idn't want to listen to one person i nthe thread execpt for who was telling me what i wanted to hear, yet everyone else was right.