this is a post from the feminist site "ENOTALONE"
the OP is a girl
"Starting to date again....need some advice....
Been single 2 months now. A guy i have seen around the local area asked me out. I said no.....he was presistant....very sweet....asked me a few more times. We both work in the bar industry....our scheduels ares crazy so going "out" mean to a bar that is 24 hours, AKA the Casino bars haha, and usually after midnight. Since I am already at the bar i say he can meet me. We hang out from midnight to 8am. Barely even drink. Just talk for hours....but im still thinking "I dont want anything" He seems alot like me. Hes been cheated on and hurt in the past. We hang out 6 more times like this, almost every night. We havent even really kissed, he just walks to me my car and gives me a sweet kiss on the lips and thats it. I never felt pressure. So a few nights ago we are talking outside by my car, he asks if he can come to my house one day, i say "No, bc that means feelings are involved and i dont want feelings" and he gets really upset and says "So you have no feelings for me?!?" and i get really nervous and just say "Not yet." He turns around and storms off to his car....usually guys do this and come running back...nope he got into his car and drove away.....that was the second i realized i actually do like this guy. That night he told me he told his mom about me and how he cant believe every girl he likes has issues about liking him back and it hurts him becasue he puts himself out there and gets hurt. He also has told his sister about me and all his friends becasue they come into my bar and ask how things are going...
Weve seen each other since, but he seemed to have pulled back a bit.....here is my question i need some help on....
I told him last night that i do have feelings for him....i THOUGHT his response would be a good one but instead he said "Well i like you alot but i dont really know what i want right now" I feel completly shot down because it took alot for me to open up and let my feelings show. What is my best next move? I like this guy, im not looking for a SERIOUS thing....but i didnt want him to pull back right now...Im so new to dating a new guy my instant reaction is to get all psycho and text a billion things.....which i KNOW is wrong. PLease help...i dont wanna lose this chance with this guys. "
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=418723
the OP is a girl
"Starting to date again....need some advice....
Been single 2 months now. A guy i have seen around the local area asked me out. I said no.....he was presistant....very sweet....asked me a few more times. We both work in the bar industry....our scheduels ares crazy so going "out" mean to a bar that is 24 hours, AKA the Casino bars haha, and usually after midnight. Since I am already at the bar i say he can meet me. We hang out from midnight to 8am. Barely even drink. Just talk for hours....but im still thinking "I dont want anything" He seems alot like me. Hes been cheated on and hurt in the past. We hang out 6 more times like this, almost every night. We havent even really kissed, he just walks to me my car and gives me a sweet kiss on the lips and thats it. I never felt pressure. So a few nights ago we are talking outside by my car, he asks if he can come to my house one day, i say "No, bc that means feelings are involved and i dont want feelings" and he gets really upset and says "So you have no feelings for me?!?" and i get really nervous and just say "Not yet." He turns around and storms off to his car....usually guys do this and come running back...nope he got into his car and drove away.....that was the second i realized i actually do like this guy. That night he told me he told his mom about me and how he cant believe every girl he likes has issues about liking him back and it hurts him becasue he puts himself out there and gets hurt. He also has told his sister about me and all his friends becasue they come into my bar and ask how things are going...
Weve seen each other since, but he seemed to have pulled back a bit.....here is my question i need some help on....
I told him last night that i do have feelings for him....i THOUGHT his response would be a good one but instead he said "Well i like you alot but i dont really know what i want right now" I feel completly shot down because it took alot for me to open up and let my feelings show. What is my best next move? I like this guy, im not looking for a SERIOUS thing....but i didnt want him to pull back right now...Im so new to dating a new guy my instant reaction is to get all psycho and text a billion things.....which i KNOW is wrong. PLease help...i dont wanna lose this chance with this guys. "
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=418723
