Logistics on OLD if you just want to hook up

[jhonny9546]

What’s your logistics like on OLD if you’ve both been clear that you just want to hook up? So nothing serious, just a brief connection and sex.


How do you plan the date?
How long does it last? Where do you meet? When?
What do you do during and after?

 

[BPH]

What’s your logistics like on OLD if you’ve both been clear that you just want to hook up? So nothing serious, just a brief connection and sex.

First of all, it's never that simple. In my experience, the girls who talk the biggest game are the ones who opt out of sex, or the date entirely, at the last minute.

The ones who follow your lead and have minimal idle chitchat are usually the ones who are down for that sort of thing and are just screening you to make sure you're not a weirdo.

How do you plan the date?

Over text, directly, ideally at least a day or 2 in advance.

How long does it last? Where do you meet? When?

The date usually only last a few hours unless things are going really well and you both plan to continue the night.

Usually at a bar or somewhere relaxed where drinking is involved - not somewhere crowded and too loud.

Late, often on a weekend. I find a woman's willingness to meet me later on a weekend means she's more open to ending her night with me than only starting it with me.

What do you do during and after?

Talk, drink, flirt, get to know her. Normal things.

If the vibe feels good, make a move. If she's receptive, or even reciprocates, find somewhere more private to go if she wants to continue the night with you.

 

[CornbreadFed]

No offense OP, but you live in Italy. This stuff should be easy mode for you.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

I actually have a checklist for this

My apartment will be ready
My place is really cool and clean
My hygiene is all right
Rubbers ready
Alcohol ready

I live within walking distance to everything
It’s usually a wine bar where we meet
Or a billiards place that’s open late
I know a few cool bars open late
Plenty of options
Alcohol free options too
I live in a fun neighborhood

It’s just easier to have a drink at my place
Or suggest a movie at my place
I actually enjoy having friends over
She can look at my books
Give her a foot massage

I’m never pushy about sex
It’s cool if she’s not feeling it
I’m fine if she wants to wait a while

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've had this happen a few times, but most times talking about sex right off the bat only screws you out of dates because the woman already knows what you are about and that's the same thing 90% of the dude's on there are about.

Met at a motel and just fvcked like rabbits the few times it actually happened.

After a while I realized it was far better to save any sex talk for in person convos UNLESS they went there first, and then I would respond with something flirty once and then change the topic.

 

[SW15]

My best advice would be to try to set your first app arranged date at a bar that is within walking distance of your home. That makes it so much easier to get laid.

The next best thing is a short rideshare app ride away (less than 10-15 minutes).

Things get more difficult when she drove to the get together and you did as well.

Other things like condoms, alcohol at home, a clean place, etc. are very standard things to do.

 

[The Duke]

I've done this at least 7 or 8 times.

Case #1: started messaging back on forth on POF on a Thursday. on Friday afternoon I got her number and we started texting back and forth for several hours. Basic flirting, then She sent a pic and I eased into the sexual innuendos.

By 11pm that evening I was driving to her place. Had one drink on her couch and then I started feeling her up.

After 45min I was in her bed.

This girl turned out to be as crazy as they come. She had a big case of buyers remorse the next day.

Case #2: Spent about a week texting, and I gradually turned up the sexual vibe. Made plans for a Saturday nite to go to her house. I told her I wasnt coming if sex wasn't on the table, she said Ok. When I arrived, We had drinks and watched some comedy act on TV. I tried several times to get her to her bedroom with no luck. Her sister and her brother in law also lived in her house so that didn't help. But I did feel her up and sick on her t!ts then left disappointed.

Case #3. I had a first date, then a week later she was having drinks on her patio at home and we were texting. She told me she was lonely and would make it worth my time if I went to her place. I drove 1.5hrs to her place. As soon as I got there, we were stripping clothes off after being on her patio for 20min. Ended up fuhking all nite long.

Case#4 and #5: Planned dates at the same bar. Went down almost identical. Told them up front that it was just drinks and fun. The bar I picked had great atmosphere and music. Got some drinks in them, flirted, started touching, then told them both that they were probably not sober enough to drive home so I'd gladly drive them home . Said it with a big smile. They knew what was up. Ended up taking each one home that nite.


Set the tone early on. Be flirty, fun, and confident. Don't over complicate it. Catch them in the moment. Add alcohol. It also helps if you are a little more attractive than she is.

It's not much different than picking up a girl at a bar and taking her home.

 

[jhonny9546]

Great answers guys!
But what if you don't like alcohol.. Actually, you can't drink it at all...
Alternatives?

 

[The Duke]

Great answers guys!
But what if you don't like alcohol.. Actually, you can't drink it at all...
Alternatives?

Charm also makes for good social lubricant and opens many legs. Get good with lowering defenses and making women feel comfortable in your presence. Work at learning how to connect with people.

In the cases I shared, I got the ball rolling thru my words. Alcohol just sealed the deal.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Great answers guys!
But what if you don't like alcohol.. Actually, you can't drink it at all...
Alternatives?

Then don't go to bars and date women that don't drink or aren't big in to drinking