LuisGarcia10
Senior Don Juan
One thing I've learnt recently is that sometimes the brain can convince us to place more importance on something than we would do, simply by releasing hormones.
I won't bore you with a long story here, but to illustrate what I'm talking about, heres a short story...
About 4 months ago I met with a friend for drinks in town one afternoon, she introduced me to her friend. I was in a celebratory mood as my football team had won an important match, I got talking to her friend, the drinks flowed and we arranged to meet later that night, me, one friend, and the two girls.
Within about 30 minutes I was making out with the friend, shortly we were in bed, I woke up the following morning and thought, brilliant, a great day, sex, and she doesn't expect anything else. At this time I thought, she's hot, but I could do better. I'd been out of dating for a while at this point, I'd had a lot of one night stands and quite liked the idea of dating, so me and this girl date for a few months until recently when she dumped me, and, as everyone here has experienced, I was heart broken. I went NC, went out on more dates and got over it fairly swiftly, until she broke NC and I, stupidly, broke the rules that I've learnt and tried to persuade her to change her mind. You guessed if, as soon as he got her sense of power back, she told me she wasn't interested again. At which point I told her I definately didn't want contact with her.
Anyway, I just walked through town and saw her again, and looked at her just like any other girl, and thought, she's hot, but she's not even the hottest girl I've seen in the 5 minutes I've been walking down this street! Was she really worth the stress? Was this what I've been beating myself up over? If she had a beautiful personality and was loyal, good and honest then yes, it's possible I'd date her, but she wasn't l, she had above average looks which clouded a below average personality!
I can't speak for everyone here, but I honestly think that 90% of time people forget how the felt when they first met the girl of their focus. The girl you are spending hours trying to figure how to ether back...is it because she's amazing or is it just because you're high on the drug of infatuation. Women think emotionally, men do not, or should not l. And the second you allow that demographic to change is when you lose everything you've learnt.
I may be telling you what you already know, but what this episode has taught me is that if you analyse the girl, positively and negatively, then 9 times out of 10 she's no where near worth the trouble of caring about losing.
All it takes is a walk down the street to see how easily she can be replaced!
I won't bore you with a long story here, but to illustrate what I'm talking about, heres a short story...
About 4 months ago I met with a friend for drinks in town one afternoon, she introduced me to her friend. I was in a celebratory mood as my football team had won an important match, I got talking to her friend, the drinks flowed and we arranged to meet later that night, me, one friend, and the two girls.
Within about 30 minutes I was making out with the friend, shortly we were in bed, I woke up the following morning and thought, brilliant, a great day, sex, and she doesn't expect anything else. At this time I thought, she's hot, but I could do better. I'd been out of dating for a while at this point, I'd had a lot of one night stands and quite liked the idea of dating, so me and this girl date for a few months until recently when she dumped me, and, as everyone here has experienced, I was heart broken. I went NC, went out on more dates and got over it fairly swiftly, until she broke NC and I, stupidly, broke the rules that I've learnt and tried to persuade her to change her mind. You guessed if, as soon as he got her sense of power back, she told me she wasn't interested again. At which point I told her I definately didn't want contact with her.
Anyway, I just walked through town and saw her again, and looked at her just like any other girl, and thought, she's hot, but she's not even the hottest girl I've seen in the 5 minutes I've been walking down this street! Was she really worth the stress? Was this what I've been beating myself up over? If she had a beautiful personality and was loyal, good and honest then yes, it's possible I'd date her, but she wasn't l, she had above average looks which clouded a below average personality!
I can't speak for everyone here, but I honestly think that 90% of time people forget how the felt when they first met the girl of their focus. The girl you are spending hours trying to figure how to ether back...is it because she's amazing or is it just because you're high on the drug of infatuation. Women think emotionally, men do not, or should not l. And the second you allow that demographic to change is when you lose everything you've learnt.
I may be telling you what you already know, but what this episode has taught me is that if you analyse the girl, positively and negatively, then 9 times out of 10 she's no where near worth the trouble of caring about losing.
All it takes is a walk down the street to see how easily she can be replaced!
