Hey all,
So basically I got FZ'd recently and I know where it went wrong, I built up way too much comfort and was too available, also did stuff that I woulnt normally do. But I've learnt a great deal from the ordeal. I met this hb roughly 3 months ago and I thought things were going well.
Managed to kiss close her the first night we met and had basically been talking to her since then. So I guess there must of been attraction there atleast initially. We talked loads over text (yep mistake) and there was a lot of flirty banter and me devaluating her status making jokes about her etc. I'd seen her a few times as we both have a mutual strong interest in music so we went out and saw Dj's together, went for a drink before hand, couldnt really call this anything official but I was trying to kino escalate and game as best as I could and see where things lead.
Recently we were talking and she drops the bombshell in conversation that she had started seeing someone else. I was really surprised as I had been joking around with her that I was going to take her out and she was receptive. So a few days after she dropped this I asked is she was still up for a date. Her response: "gunna have to say no to the date part but we can still hang
" I said we should just leave it then as theres no point in doing the friends thing if there are feelings there and to get back to me if she changes her mind. She said I shouldve told her sooner and she wouldve backed off, funny thing is she still tried to talk to me that day. Her offer for friendship was genuine as we had similar interests and we were always talking about going to various nights and seeing dj's, both our respective friend groups are **** for doing stuff like that so in my head im thinking maybe I shouldve kept her as a friend so we could do that. Theres been NC for a month. Have I dont the right thing?
Also if I do want to get with her how doesNC put me in a better position? I cant imagine her turning around one day and being "hey lets start going out".
Thanks
So basically I got FZ'd recently and I know where it went wrong, I built up way too much comfort and was too available, also did stuff that I woulnt normally do. But I've learnt a great deal from the ordeal. I met this hb roughly 3 months ago and I thought things were going well.
Managed to kiss close her the first night we met and had basically been talking to her since then. So I guess there must of been attraction there atleast initially. We talked loads over text (yep mistake) and there was a lot of flirty banter and me devaluating her status making jokes about her etc. I'd seen her a few times as we both have a mutual strong interest in music so we went out and saw Dj's together, went for a drink before hand, couldnt really call this anything official but I was trying to kino escalate and game as best as I could and see where things lead.
Recently we were talking and she drops the bombshell in conversation that she had started seeing someone else. I was really surprised as I had been joking around with her that I was going to take her out and she was receptive. So a few days after she dropped this I asked is she was still up for a date. Her response: "gunna have to say no to the date part but we can still hang
" I said we should just leave it then as theres no point in doing the friends thing if there are feelings there and to get back to me if she changes her mind. She said I shouldve told her sooner and she wouldve backed off, funny thing is she still tried to talk to me that day. Her offer for friendship was genuine as we had similar interests and we were always talking about going to various nights and seeing dj's, both our respective friend groups are **** for doing stuff like that so in my head im thinking maybe I shouldve kept her as a friend so we could do that. Theres been NC for a month. Have I dont the right thing?Also if I do want to get with her how doesNC put me in a better position? I cant imagine her turning around one day and being "hey lets start going out".
Thanks
