DJjazzyJeff
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 22, 2003
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I come back to SS every couple of months just to see what's changed if anything. I don't generally feel inspired to post, but after spending a day or two reading about the new situations I wanted to put something out there that I am learning about women, but more importantly life in general. Maybe somebody can take something from it and apply it to their situation. This community is a collection of men that have mostly been driven to this site for tips and tricks to get back the "one that got away".
As a society, we have been raised to think that failure is bad and that we should avoid at all costs making a mistake. The moment we "lose" a girl, we feel like we have failed; made a monumental mistake and now we must correct it. The failure is believing that you ever "possessed" the girl to begin with. The solution is in living in the moment. If you can focus on what you are experiencing now it leaves no room for regret. The beauty of that is it makes everything you do perfect. If you mess up, so what. Free-will makes your life unique, and in that aspect perfect. Something as monotonous as driving to work can become new everyday because you are aware to the differences of the day and opportunities you have NOW in this moment. This same thinking will also help you to deal with whatever comes at you in the future because you realize you have the free-will and can do anything you want at any given moment.
Why have a plan for getting married in the future? Why regret "the one that got away"? Does it really serve you or does it take away from you experiencing the present? Examine your feelings and do what you want to do now. If you are in a position to get married and feel today that it is the best thing to do, then propose.
Realize that the choices you make are not controlled by anybody. What you occupy your thoughts with is your choice. Everybody will have a unique experience and different choices to make in life, but we are all going to reach the same end. Life is meant to be lived. Don't take this moment for granted. Do whatever it is you want to do even if it won't make sense to anybody but you. This is your life to live and every decision you make is perfect because it's yours.
As a society, we have been raised to think that failure is bad and that we should avoid at all costs making a mistake. The moment we "lose" a girl, we feel like we have failed; made a monumental mistake and now we must correct it. The failure is believing that you ever "possessed" the girl to begin with. The solution is in living in the moment. If you can focus on what you are experiencing now it leaves no room for regret. The beauty of that is it makes everything you do perfect. If you mess up, so what. Free-will makes your life unique, and in that aspect perfect. Something as monotonous as driving to work can become new everyday because you are aware to the differences of the day and opportunities you have NOW in this moment. This same thinking will also help you to deal with whatever comes at you in the future because you realize you have the free-will and can do anything you want at any given moment.
Why have a plan for getting married in the future? Why regret "the one that got away"? Does it really serve you or does it take away from you experiencing the present? Examine your feelings and do what you want to do now. If you are in a position to get married and feel today that it is the best thing to do, then propose.
Realize that the choices you make are not controlled by anybody. What you occupy your thoughts with is your choice. Everybody will have a unique experience and different choices to make in life, but we are all going to reach the same end. Life is meant to be lived. Don't take this moment for granted. Do whatever it is you want to do even if it won't make sense to anybody but you. This is your life to live and every decision you make is perfect because it's yours.
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