Live-in GF watches too much television

[Valentino14]

why don't you take the batteries out of the remote? Harvey nailed it. Cut off her tv time and get her out.

 

[Harvey_Poon]

I'm going to follow your advice and try to ween her off the television. First by telling her not to watch her shows on the big screen any more (especially since I need my quiet time to focus on my writing), then by disabling the shows on the service.

Well, you should make yourself more clear when you are writing these threads. Since you originally let her watch her two shows, let her watch those for now. Having her watch anymore of them, will interfere with your writing time, and it won't cure her problem. You need to ween her away from the TV. Instead of telling her not to watch the shows on the Big Screen, you need to start doing things as a couple first. Let her see that those shows are not important, and that there is more to do, than just watching crappy TV. This is the only way to cure an addict, especially one who watches too much TV. She should want to be giving her time to you, not the TV. That is what you need to be looking for here. If it's the TV for her, then out she should go, which is out of your place.

She needs to be more involved with you, and the relationship, or otherwise there is no point in going on with it. After all, you should be more important to her that those shows. You should also be able to have your quiet writing time in your own place without the noise. Just telling an addict not to do something won't cure the problem. She needs to do other things to occupy her time instead of watching the TV. After that, then you can take control of the TV, and she won't have her addiction to it.

The TV is her problem, and that is the problem that needs to be dealt with. If you leave and do other things, that will never help. She still has the addiction and you won't get your writing done. Actually, if she never moved in, then you wouldn't even have this predicament. But, if you do it right, and follow my advice, this will work out to the best of your benefit, either way.

I think Backbreaker's advice on what to do is perfect for this scenario.

Well ThunderMaverick, people agree with me, and not with you. This man said that he is going to take my advice. Because that is what he should be doing to see if this relationship is worth it or not. Where is your advice? You didn't even offer any advice ThunderMaverick. All you did was agree with someone's bad advice that you said was "perfect", which does nothing to cure the problem. Why should anyone listen to you? Then you write a novel trying to validate yourself to me in each of your posts, when you are always wrong. Why is that? Why don't you spend your time offering real advice to these men instead of validating yourself to me? Wouldn't that serve you and this forum better? Nobody wants to read long defensive posts of yours that offers no solution to the problem.

If you can't take any criticism in a forum on the boards, how are you able to deal with women in real life? You just accept their bad behavior and make excuses for them like most of these guys do. I can see that in your writings. You just wasted your time trying to validate yourself to me, because I don't even care. Hope your fingers didn't cramp up writing your insecure posts that we all can read.

Harvey Poon

 

[plate's_empty]

why don't you take the batteries out of the remote? Harvey nailed it. Cut off her tv time and get her out.

If he's trying to end the relationship then yes.

Otherwise, I'm with ThunderMaverick on this one. The idea is to get her to do it on her own. Not because you said so but to do it because she WANTS to. The Seven Habit of Highly Effective people go over this in the first chapter. It may take a little bit of time but a talk with her would be a good first step. Ask her questions...simple ones. Why do you like watching so much TV? Is there anything else you would rather be doing? Get her to start thinking about it on her own. Maybe, like ThunderMaverick said, she's just ignorant to what she's doing. She might just snap out of it. With an Economics degree she's not a dumb girl. The goal is to have her decide on her own to limit how much TV she watches.

 

[glass half full]

I can tell you, from being married to a TV-holic, this won't get better. Read what these guys are saying and act accordingly

 

[Down Low]

You're sh1tting us. You took in a used-up bar skank?

Is there something wrong with women OCCASIONALLY going to happy hour with other co-workers for 1-2 hours after work?

$100 says all her favorite bars have at least one motel within a 10-minute drive, or are that close to her prior residences. Spare me the bvll sh1t people spread around to evade responsibility for their own actions. Men and women go to bars to hookup for sex. It's way cheaper and easier to just buy beer or liquor from the store, and just crack one open when you get home, while playing chess with your son and praising your daughter for the pink bow she drew on Scooby Doo to emasculate him into being Hello Doggie.

She's not lurking in some remote smoke-infested dive bar at dusk, with tatted up ex-cons and registered sex offenders buying her drinks. Jesus.

Irrelevant whether it's a classy joint or a bucket of blood. Women go for whatever type of men they go for. Besides, many states don't permit smoking in bars anymore, most Gen K-Y types have some tats, and most men get into some sort of trouble and have been arrested if not convicted. What's most telling, what tells me that you fully understood this point even before putting it in the form of a question, is that you said "buying her drinks." As in "trying to hookup for sex." You're playing dumb. Well, I'm not playing. Go home and slurp cvm out of her well-reamed azzh0le, you self-loathing faggot.

 

[AmIAFC]

$100 says all her favorite bars have at least one motel within a 10-minute drive, or are that close to her prior residences. Spare me the bvll sh1t people spread around to evade responsibility for their own actions. Men and women go to bars to hookup for sex. It's way cheaper and easier to just buy beer or liquor from the store, and just crack one open when you get home, while playing chess with your son and praising your daughter for the pink bow she drew on Scooby Doo to emasculate him into being Hello Doggie.



Irrelevant whether it's a classy joint or a bucket of blood. Women go for whatever type of men they go for. Besides, many states don't permit smoking in bars anymore, most Gen K-Y types have some tats, and most men get into some sort of trouble and have been arrested if not convicted. What's most telling, what tells me that you fully understood this point even before putting it in the form of a question, is that you said "buying her drinks." As in "trying to hookup for sex." You're playing dumb. Well, I'm not playing. Go home and slurp cvm out of her well-reamed azzh0le, you self-loathing faggot.

Gee, thanks.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Well, you should make yourself more clear when you are writing these threads. Since you originally let her watch her two shows, let her watch those for now. Having her watch anymore of them, will interfere with your writing time, and it won't cure her problem. You need to ween her away from the TV. Instead of telling her not to watch the shows on the Big Screen, you need to start doing things as a couple first. Let her see that those shows are not important, and that there is more to do, than just watching crappy TV. This is the only way to cure an addict, especially one who watches too much TV. She should want to be giving her time to you, not the TV. That is what you need to be looking for here. If it's the TV for her, then out she should go, which is out of your place.

She needs to be more involved with you, and the relationship, or otherwise there is no point in going on with it. After all, you should be more important to her that those shows. You should also be able to have your quiet writing time in your own place without the noise. Just telling an addict not to do something won't cure the problem. She needs to do other things to occupy her time instead of watching the TV. After that, then you can take control of the TV, and she won't have her addiction to it.

The TV is her problem, and that is the problem that needs to be dealt with. If you leave and do other things, that will never help. She still has the addiction and you won't get your writing done. Actually, if she never moved in, then you wouldn't even have this predicament. But, if you do it right, and follow my advice, this will work out to the best of your benefit, either way.



Well ThunderMaverick, people agree with me, and not with you. This man said that he is going to take my advice. Because that is what he should be doing to see if this relationship is worth it or not. Where is your advice? You didn't even offer any advice ThunderMaverick. All you did was agree with someone's bad advice that you said was "perfect", which does nothing to cure the problem. Why should anyone listen to you? Then you write a novel trying to validate yourself to me in each of your posts, when you are always wrong. Why is that? Why don't you spend your time offering real advice to these men instead of validating yourself to me? Wouldn't that serve you and this forum better? Nobody wants to read long defensive posts of yours that offers no solution to the problem.

If you can't take any criticism in a forum on the boards, how are you able to deal with women in real life? You just accept their bad behavior and make excuses for them like most of these guys do. I can see that in your writings. You just wasted your time trying to validate yourself to me, because I don't even care. Hope your fingers didn't cramp up writing your insecure posts that we all can read.

Harvey Poon

Who are you again? You just accused me of not offering any solutions? Did you just lie? Here's what you're doing - you're either not reading the solutions I offered or you just cannot read at all. Do you want me to quote the solutions I gave again? If you tell me I offered no solutions (aside from backbreaker's and others) one more time I'll copy and paste it for you again. I don't want to be accused of being a liar.

Otherwise, I'm with ThunderMaverick on this one. The idea is to get her to do it on her own. Not because you said so but to do it because she WANTS to. The Seven Habit of Highly Effective people go over this in the first chapter. It may take a little bit of time but a talk with her would be a good first step. Ask her questions...simple ones. Why do you like watching so much TV? Is there anything else you would rather be doing? Get her to start thinking about it on her own. Maybe, like ThunderMaverick said, she's just ignorant to what she's doing. She might just snap out of it. With an Economics degree she's not a dumb girl. The goal is to have her decide on her own to limit how much TV she watches.

Seems someone agrees with me

why don't you take the batteries out of the remote? Harvey nailed it. Cut off her tv time and get her out.

I understand why he would want to do this, Valentino, but it might not be a good idea for a couple of reasons:
You're overtly controlling her behavior by force. This might work if your wife were completely subservient and
she's extremely submissive that way. Based on what AmIAFC is telling us, she's a full time working woman with a decent job. Well educated. She's going to look at your forcing her to not watch TV as controlling. You can't MAKE someone do anything without blowback.

She might start to resent you for this and she'll remember. Sh!t like this piles up in the relationship. When bad qualities start overshadowing good qualities the frame is slowly lost. She might find other avenues to enjoy herself that you might have a problem with.

I don't know your GF as well as you do, AmIAFC, but if you think she's the kind of person who will be okay with your dictating the rules on how she acts then go for it. Remember though, if she's not cool with you telling her what she can or cannot watch she'll pick up another bad habit. Like I said before, if it's not the TV it'll be something else. I would suggest to lead your life by example, and don't try to manipulate hers.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I can tell you, from being married to a TV-holic, this won't get better. Read what these guys are saying and act accordingly

Hey, Glass! So what did you do to curve your wife's TV habits?

 

[Warrior74]

I've already explained this in some detail. If you're not going to bother to read through the problem, perhaps you should refrain from offering any more advice.

Oh I read it. I just thought it was BS. Stop living with women you aren't married to. That's rule number 1. You wouldn't even have this problem if you followed the rules.

 

[zekko]

Stop living with women you aren't married to. That's rule number 1. You wouldn't even have this problem if you followed the rules.

Piss on that. I live with my girlfriend and I couldn't be happier. I think cohabitating with her is one of the smartest things I've ever done, since I see this as a workable alternative to marriage, and I live in a no common law state.

As for the "rules", I live my life the way I want to, not according to some list of rules made up by a bunch of strangers on the internet.

Rebel Bad Boy Zekko

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Curious, Zekko. What are the benefits to living with your current GF now as opposed to living separately? I mean combining finances might be good if she works full time? But what else?

 

[( . )( . )]

This forum doesn't seem to have a "how to improve your relationship mode", only a "tell her to FVck off mode". Sad, really.

Does no one here actually work on a relationship? Or do you all just toss 'em and look for new. Sheesh.

There are 50 things this guy can try, without kicking her out.

There's also 3.5 billion more out there and some of them could even be non happy hour harpies/ Reality T.V drooling dead sh!ts.

"tell her fvck off mode" is also a good thing btw. It's a basic requirement for mans inherent quest for excellence.

 

[Jitterbug]

I still marvel at the standard Western advice for a man to get out of his own house (or bedroom) when his woman pisses him off.

In my dad's patriarchal culture, the woman gets shipped back to her parents' house if she's being annoying. If he's annoying, she goes back there too until it cools down.

A man's house is his castle, and he's meant to be the lord, not the servant that leaves when the lord is displeased.

 

[BeDJ]

I still marvel at the standard Western advice for a man to get out of his own house (or bedroom) when his woman pisses him off.

In my dad's patriarchal culture, the woman gets shipped back to her parents' house if she's being annoying. If he's annoying, she goes back there too until it cools down.

A man's house is his castle, and he's meant to be the lord, not the servant that leaves when the lord is displeased.

What else can you do when her name appears on the lease?

Remediation would be subtle disapproval with covert anxiety-inducing conduct. Game is most essential with our fem-centric system. If all else fails, walk away as a man. No words, no sh*tstorm, just leave her with the one-that-got-away sentiment.

 

[glass half full]

Hey, Glass! So what did you do to curve your wife's TV habits?

you need to read my post again lol
I couldn't get her to quit. She just got prouder. But I had to get rid of all my habits to get her off my back about it. And it did not help one bit. That was my point. Don't give in to them, it will not get you anywhere but AFC'd. That's the point

 

[glass half full]

To elaborate on my previous post, I am a big MLB and NFL fan of my area teams. Her dad lived 30 miles away. Instead of going to visit during the week, or on saturday, we went sunday, about the time the game came on usually. So I listened on the AM radio in the car. That did not cut it either. She seduced me in the middle of a football game once, she said later she did it just to see if I would have sex over football. Of course I did, but the idea pizzed me off. Basically, they just want control over us. Thing is, once they get it, they seem to get bored. I have come to the conclusion that they just like controversy of some sort all the time. When they get comfy they get bored, that's when trouble starts.

 

[Burroughs]

I still marvel at the standard Western advice for a man to get out of his own house (or bedroom) when his woman pisses him off.

In my dad's patriarchal culture, the woman gets shipped back to her parents' house if she's being annoying. If he's annoying, she goes back there too until it cools down.

A man's house is his castle, and he's meant to be the lord, not the servant that leaves when the lord is displeased.

astonishing isn't it....

...but sadly not surprising...modern man is fast becoming a useless faggot unable to see beyond his own desperate addiction to puzzy..

look at the posts that start with a list of abominable behaviors by the womyn and then the man says 'but I don't want to get rid of her tell me how to change her waahhhhhhh!'

see what the faggot man doesn't understand is that women after age 19 don't change, they freeze into impetuous slobbering children and the hotter they are the more annoying they get...so like tits said...learn to *tell em to fvck off* or remain a clueless faggot...a prisoner in your own home

 

[zekko]

Curious, Zekko. What are the benefits to living with your current GF now as opposed to living separately? I mean combining finances might be good if she works full time? But what else?

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't live with just anyone. More than likely, I would have married this woman. Except that I've been married before, and it ended in divorce. I won't risk that happening again. She knows this, and while she'd rather be married to me, she accepts it.

Have you ever lived with a woman, Thunder? Just wondering, because if you did, I think you would understand the benefits - unless you lived with the wrong girl of course. Aside from the last year when my wife went crazy, I actually enjoyed being married. But even though I thought we had a fair divorce settlement, it did set me back financially, and that won't happen again.

My girlfriend does work full time so she does pay her fair share. I can support myself, but her contributions do allow me to have more money to invest, and that in itself is pretty nice.

Mainly, I just like having her around. She's very mellow and laid back, like myself, so she doesn't get on my nerves. I like having someone to sleep with every night. We've lived together for 10 1/2 years now, so I don't think you could characterize the relationship as a failure, no matter what happens in the future. Women can turn on you on a dime.

Neither of us want children, so it's kind of like we are our own family (which marriage would be, ideally). We raise our pets together. I've had girlfriends come over and do housework for me before, but since she lives here, she's invested in making the place a home. We are basically partners in life. She keeps the garden (which I probably wouldn't have otherwise), and helps keep the yard in shape. One can make sure the other doesn't oversleep. If we go out to buy a new lamp, we're not just picking out something for my place, we're picking out something for our home.

At the risk of sounding corny, there's a difference between sharing your lives like this and living seperately. But I'm sure it isn't for everybody. And if you get the wrong woman, it can be a living hell.

I still marvel at the standard Western advice for a man to get out of his own house (or bedroom) when his woman pisses him off.

In my dad's patriarchal culture, the woman gets shipped back to her parents' house if she's being annoying. If he's annoying, she goes back there too until it cools down.

Good point. Even when I was growing up, when married couples had an argument, it was most common for the wife to go back to her mother, until things were worked out, or they split up.

These days, it seems like it's the husband who gets kicked out of the house more often than not. All she has to do is lock the door. If he comes home and kicks the door in to gain access to his own house, the police cart him away on a domestic abuse charge. Even though it's his house.

 

[BeDJ]

Harvey Poon is 25? Lol. Take everything he says with a BIG grain of salt.

I had the golden opportunity to live with an ex for nearly 4 years. Game was much easier to understand after the experience. Rollo hides in the closets of young men, holding sack of red pills.

Would I do it again in the future? Maybe not.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

"tell her fvck off mode" is also a good thing btw. It's a basic requirement for mans inherent quest for excellence.

To be honest, I don't think you're a real person. I think you are a collection of hurtful and hateful feelings left over from every registered user on sosuave that's had his heart ripped out by a b!tch. You are a the philosopher's stone of hate, pressured and condensed much like a diamond. You are perfect.

You are every man here (Including me): sosuave's organic A.I. The Ultimate Lifeform.