If any one is in this situation you know how it feels.
Perhaps you started working out or changed your attitude or behavior so you became more mature.
You weren't desperate for that "one girl" anymore.
You stopped being needy towards your friends. You began to assert your independence.
And yet, at school. The level of respect you recieve is still substandard.
Attractive girls still dont even notice you.
"Popular" guys continue to scorn you for no reason.
You are still looked down upon. Even with your newfound strength and confidence, they still see the old you.
They still see the wimpy, unattractive, poser kid from four years ago.
Outside of school, its different. There is more respect from those who dont attend your school. But you can't seem to loosen up because you feel like they are just like the kids at your school. Arrogant, unforgiving, and disrespectful(subtly or overt)
This is my problem. I am not unconfident
nor desperate, nor needy, but I am frustrated at the double standards game being played in my school.
Guys showing RESPECT towards their friends, yet scoff whenever you interact with them. And so forth......
I am in a bulking phase right now. Doing it for many reasons. I am tired of being skinny.
Those of you who say "well im skinny and i get props all the time, its all about the attitude man" NOT TRUE.
There are exceptions out there. I see them at my school all the time. Circumstances like family background, connections, and a pre-existing social circle conveys their status well enough.
Im tired of being viewed as weak and undeserving of any respect.
Feel free to share your experiences and what you did to cope with this rut
Perhaps you started working out or changed your attitude or behavior so you became more mature.
You weren't desperate for that "one girl" anymore.
You stopped being needy towards your friends. You began to assert your independence.
And yet, at school. The level of respect you recieve is still substandard.
Attractive girls still dont even notice you.
"Popular" guys continue to scorn you for no reason.
You are still looked down upon. Even with your newfound strength and confidence, they still see the old you.
They still see the wimpy, unattractive, poser kid from four years ago.
Outside of school, its different. There is more respect from those who dont attend your school. But you can't seem to loosen up because you feel like they are just like the kids at your school. Arrogant, unforgiving, and disrespectful(subtly or overt)
This is my problem. I am not unconfident
nor desperate, nor needy, but I am frustrated at the double standards game being played in my school.
Guys showing RESPECT towards their friends, yet scoff whenever you interact with them. And so forth......
I am in a bulking phase right now. Doing it for many reasons. I am tired of being skinny.
Those of you who say "well im skinny and i get props all the time, its all about the attitude man" NOT TRUE.
There are exceptions out there. I see them at my school all the time. Circumstances like family background, connections, and a pre-existing social circle conveys their status well enough.
Im tired of being viewed as weak and undeserving of any respect.
Feel free to share your experiences and what you did to cope with this rut