Listening to girls' problems?

[chaos86]

I read a lot of conflicting opinions on this topic. Now the general rule of thumb is you don't want to become her therapist and be associated with negative feelings but what if you're looking for a long term relationship? say this girl is someone you've known for such a long time or maybe you've had sex with her before and wants to change the relationship into a serious one.

Most of you have probably experienced this but when you have a close relationship with a girl they tend to open up to you and tell you their problems/biggest secrets. There will be times when avoiding negative subjects become nearly impossible, times when she needs total support and it's not like you can ignore her because she's not a stranger to you. In this case do you still listen and help her with her problems? If you ignore her wouldn't she think that you're cold-hearted and only wants to be with her when times are good?

We're talking about someone who you've shared laughs, good feelings, and enjoyable moments together but for some reason yet to be your partner (maybe because you weren't romantically attracted to her before). How do you deal with this situation?

 

[SgtSplacker]

You can't compromise yourself for her, because it will ultimately turn her off from having more with you. Go ahead and listen a bit but make sure she listens to your advice too. Remember you are not a worthless puppy who's existence revolves around her needs. Your job is not to sit there and listen to her, your job is to make her feel good by f u c k i n g her and making her feel good in other ways. Next chance you get kiss her and linger a bit with your lips in contact with her cheek or neck, smell her taking her scent deep into your lungs into your body. Look into her eyes and just smile for a bit. Ask her how she's doing and keep eye contact until she pulls away. Your affections will either pull her in, or push her away. Either way you win.

 

[Kawai]

Even now that I've been dating this girl consistently, I only provide limited time for complaints about work, friends, family, etc. I'll allow a small amount for discussion sake when we first meet after not seeing one another for a week or so, but after about 10 min I cut it off.

A couple weeks ago I had to let this particular know that I really don't want to hear her problems when we first link up because it sours the date/get together.
She didn't like what I had to say at first, but hey, she made a choice to stick around. I've done this a few times in the past and it's usually met with initial displeasure, but on a universal level it also points out how far into her own little world she is to assume I want to know every little problem in it.

If they shape up after the pep-talk, we're good. If not...I didn't want to know them anymore.