Listen to her friends, or just go for it...?

[Cheat_LBJ]

Alright, quick background: new girl I've met at school who I'm quite interested in. I've become included into her little circle of friends.

All her friends really like me (for some odd reason) and they all know that I'm pretty into her. A couple them have told me that they'd really like to see me with her, but have told me that I should wait because she's said she's not really into having any kind of relationship due to starting school as a freshman and all.

I get a lot of signs she's interested in me in the couple of times we've had one-on-one conversations (as part of larger social activities -- i've yet to actually do anything with just her).

My question is this...who do you buy in this situation: her friends (who I really do trust are giving me accurate information as they have it) or her actions that seems to indicate she's interested?

I don't wanna blow it by making a move and having her say "Like you and all, but I'm just not ready right now..." but I similarly don't wanna wait and have her get snapped up by some other guy who might take initiative and catch her at the right moment.

Kind of a "damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. Term ends in 3 weeks, and exams start in less than that (dating then = worse idea than crystal pepsi)

Any thoughts?

(I did a search, browsed a few pages and got bored when i didn't see anything)

 

[Swoop]

The only time when a girl isn't ready for a relationship is when she is younger than 16. Other than that, go for it.


This reminds me of my situation with a HB8 several months ago. I met her and find out she just broke off with her bf recently. So I decided to give her time and wait for a better moment to ask her out. So several months later, I thought it's time to ask her out.

Swoop: "Hey, (her name), I want to take you out to dinner".
HB8: "Oh Swoop, I am actually dating someone right now."

Yup, I waited and that's what happen. Remember, women hates to be lonely, they will jump from relationship to relationship. I made my mistake and pay heavily, so don't make yours.

 

[psychgrad]

NEVER EVER take a womens advice about relationships. They DO NOT know what the hell theywant

 

[white cloud 8]

Yeah, f*ck them and their advice . Just *GRAB* your balls and take charge, you're a man, aren't you?

 

[mungro]

agreed, don't be the guy who waits too long, other guys are out there, she'll get snatched up soon. better to try and make a few moves figure out for yourself if she's ready for a relationship.

i don't know about you, I hate the "what if?" feeling. I like to get accepted (or rejected) rather than wonder.

 

[Cheat_LBJ]

Originally posted by mungro
agreed, don't be the guy who waits too long, other guys are out there, she'll get snatched up soon. better to try and make a few moves figure out for yourself if she's ready for a relationship.

i don't know about you, I hate the "what if?" feeling. I like to get accepted (or rejected) rather than wonder.

The only feeling worse than the "What If" feeling is the feeling of knowing you just screwed the pooch because you didn't have any patience and rushed headlong into something, ignoring warning signs along the way...

That's my dilemma...

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

You kind of screwed yourself over partner.

Your first mistake was trying to be close friends with her and all her other friends instead of attacking your target.

You see a girl that you like and you don’t want that “What If” feeling so you,

Approach, chat her up, TRY to be C&F naturally that fits your personality, build a rapport if you can, then cut to the chase ask for digits and you will get your answer.

All of that can be done in 6 min or less. And hellova lot less time consuming then trying to fit in a group of friends that your really not interested in just to be friends with out interior motives.

Because now if you ask her out and she says no or does and doesn’t work out you just screwed yourself over with all her lady friends because now she will poison you or they will see that you just wanted to be friends with them to get to her.

And if neither of that happens your lucky guy.

Just remember see the target you dive in for the kill then pull up and circle again for another unless you of course nailed it.

If you want to know how to get a girls number quick and easy do a search.