Limited time, want to f close, advice?

[SmoothTalker]

So if anyone recalls this is regarding the girl I posted about around Christmas, the ex's best friend who's leaving the country where there is mutual attraction.

I did take a shot at it, and so far I would say it has gone well. We've hung out three times since then which were all fun, flirty dates, and I will be seeing her again later this week. Since she is leaving the country fo a while this coming time will probably be the last time I see her for a while, and I would really like to sleep with her (obviously lol).

On our dates so far we've only made out but I don't believe it's because we're 'stuck' at kissing. To this point she hasn't resisted any advances, it's just that I have not had the opportunity to go far beyond kissing as we haven't hung out in any really private settings yet.

So given that I'm rather interested in sex the next time I see her, and I have to make the jump from just kissing to full blown sex, any advice on making the transition would be appreciated.


Also in the past I've found sending a random dirty sexy text to a girl I was already having sex with was great for getting her revved up. Anyone ever try sending one of these to a girl they haven't had sex yet?

 

[Slickster]

If she hasn't been resisting your advances up until now then it sounds like a matter of opportunity. This means the setting must be right and comfortable.

I don't know what you have planned for your last date but you need to make sure the opportunity is there more than anything. Chances are she's not going to want to have a quickie in the car or bathroom. Somehow whatever you have planned it should end semi-early and you end up back at your place or her place.

As far as texting dirty messages I don't know if that's the best idea with a chick you don't have any previous sexual connection with. It's way too easy to take texts and emails out of context.

In terms of ramping up the sex vibe. You need to convey sexual energy without putting pressure on her. Women can really sense your energy without any words at all. As long as you can do it without being overly aggressive or putting pressure on her it will really turn her on.

She needs to feel your eyes lusting for her. Your touches must be full of sexual energy even if its a simple brush against her skin or holding her hand. Don't just kiss her, kiss her with passion. Gently caress the back of her neck and hold her face/cheek while kissing too.

Sexual conversation is good but you have to be careful about how and when you bring it up. Having her in a sexual state through kissing and touching should come first. Ask questions that stimulate her imagination and give her visuals too. Force her to imagine the feelings of the act being performed on her.

Ask her how she likes to be touched and where. Does she like deep rubs or soft tickles? Kisses on the back of her neck or at the base of her spine? Foot massage or back rub? When naked does she like to be held close in the hot steamy shower or in the fresh cool sheets? Start simple and get more kinky.

As things ramp up start showing her the examples. Rub her deeply vs. soft tickles. Kiss her in different areas and ask what feels better. Since it's the first time the longer you can stir the pot the better. The more foreplay the better your chances.

Any resistance to sexual conversation should be met with a reply along the lines that "So many people get uncomfortable talking about sex. It's JUST sex why are people so awkward about it?" Make her feel comfortable through your own ease. Then resume the physical approach with touching and kissing.

If you've been getting hot and heavy already you probably don't need much more than the right setting but if she is leaving she might pull the "I'm leaving soon so I don't want to start anything too serious...." Once again meet that with a "...it's JUST sex" routine.

On the other hand the fact that she's leaving might make her want to have sex more because it is your last chance. If this is the case you might want to play on the "I'm not going to be able to kiss/touch you like this for such a long time..." angle.

Once again the sexual energy you are emitting is key.

Hope this helps and keep us posted.

Slick

 

[SmoothTalker]

Thanks, that's some good stuff to keep in mind.

I'm not completely decided on my plans actually, but I was thinking something active/fun, then as you mention, wrap up fairly early. Alternatively depending on the mood I'm reading I may just go for "lets watch movies/shows on my computer". We had mentioned grabbing dinner but I think I'll suggest making something at my house instead, perhaps pizza. (I mean making, not putting in Dellissio) I should be able to get the house to myself so that will help.

We both seem to be generally comfortable with sexuality so hopefully you're right, it's mostly a matter of opportunity.

 

[SmoothTalker]

****! What can I say it, I blew it and I am pissed at myself.

I had her on my ****ing bed, lights dimmed, head on my chest, home alone, and all I tried to do was kiss her which we have already been doing.

WTF was my problem today!? I've had sex at least 300 times by now. Not with her sure, but so what.

At one point I accidentally placed my hand on her crotch ( it was dark) and she just laughed it off rather than getting offended or anything. I KNOW I could have gotten at least something, and almost certainly full sex.

Ugh, so stupid.

So this was supposed to be our last time hanging out before she leaves, and most likely will be. I might have to drop by her house briefly tomorrow morning to pick something up but that isn't supposed to be a long meeting, so yeah I missed my chance.

I'm almost tempted to just try to **** her at her house when I drop by tomorrow, I think I probably could. I wouldn't be surprised if she went home thinking wtf was his problem, did I need to spell out '**** me'?