Life in the 20's and beyond.

[theapprentice]

I'm 20 years old. I'm about to graduate from college, I am almost done with my bachlors. After that I probably will start working or try to get my masters.

I was wondering whether or not the excitment of college life ever comes back?

In my college days I never joined a Frat or partied harty, hell it was a boring 3 years so far.

Do I have good times to look forward to as I start working or is life just down hill from there?

 

[WestCoaster]

College is a great time, at least it was for me. It's one of the few times in your life you're surrounded by people your own age with similar goals, aspirations, and outlooks on life. Also, for the most part the women are pretty good, too. When I went back to grad school many years later, I found young undergrads to be much more grounded than the flakey older women I had been dating.

Life doesn't go downhill, though college is great. Find fun, interesting friends and hobbies. Work on your intellect, career, hobbies, and fitness; travel a lot and don't worry about serious relationships in your 20's. Just date tons of women and have fun with it.

Why am I saying this? Because in my 20's (pre-sosuave.com) I was a royal AFC and got roped into some worthless, meaningless very long term relationships that eventually dissoved. The only thing those relationships did was limit my options and keep me dating smarter, nicer, and more beautiful women.

Take it from an old sage and reformed AFC, enjoy your 20's like no tomorrow -- because there will be no more 20's after a decade. Also, hold off on grad school for awhile. It's better to go work, date a bunch of nut jobs and go back to college ... you'll appreciate learning, the fun, and the women after you've worked in a cubicle for awhile and dated psycho working women.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Hmmm,..20 y.o. and graduating with a bachelors degree? (BTW the word 'bachelor' has an 'E' in it, soon to be graduate) Methinks I detect a statistical improbability in this post.

In my college days I never joined a Frat or partied harty, hell it was a boring 3 years so far.

And your 'college days' began at what 16? 17? I'm not sure, but I think most Frats require you to be at least 18.

The only reason I'm not closing this thread (due to your age) is because WESTCOASTER came up with something good.

 

[squirrels]

Depends on you.

 

[Vulpine]

Hmmm,..20 y.o. and graduating with a bachelors degree? (BTW the word 'bachelor' has an 'E' in it, soon to be graduate) Methinks I detect a statistical improbability in this post.

I was thinking the same thing. They'll give a degree to anyone these days, even those that party harty and can't follow directions. *cough*20*cough*

 

[theapprentice]

Yeah

Actually I am about to turn 21 and I have a year left of Undergrad to go. The thing is that I went to a college with no frats, and I didnt meet any new people even though I tired.

So now im wondering, more like worrying about what my future life is going to be like if all you do is work.

How would you get a chance to meet new people if your always working.

 

[disfunktional]

Actually I am about to turn 21 and I have a year left of Undergrad to go. The thing is that I went to a college with no frats, and I didnt meet any new people even though I tired.

So now im wondering, more like worrying about what my future life is going to be like if all you do is work.

How would you get a chance to meet new people if your always working.

You meet people at work, through hobbies and maybe in your local area. But most of the friends I have now are known from school and University still. Unfortunately working life cant quite recreate the socail fun you have at University BUT you are earning money which you can spend doing things you like, hobbies, and going off on holiday and travelling. My first year of Uni was still the best year of my life so far though!

 

[Vulpine]

Actually I am about to turn 21 and I have a year left of Undergrad to go. The thing is that I went to a college with no frats, and I didnt meet any new people even though I tired.

So now im wondering, more like worrying about what my future life is going to be like if all you do is work.

How would you get a chance to meet new people if your always working.

i get tried working at my 20-hour-a-day job and even though I tired to meet new people during my 4 hours off i cant seem to have any social life.

 

[theapprentice]

Ic

Thats a bit depressing. I also thought that most people at work tend not to socialize since they "know" that the other person is also at work.

Is it true that most people that you meet through work tend not to become personal?

Im actually thinking of going away for three years to go to a dental college, and then I'll be back here in the United States by the time I am 23. When you study in a foreign medical college you also need to add two more years to statisfy educational requirements. Which makes it 25. Starting Salaries of dentists are 125k. I dont think thats bad for a 25 yr old.

Plus they work from 9-4pm almost everyday.

Its just that I never got to do they whole Ra-Ra-Ra party thing with some mistake on my part but I never joined a frat since my school never had any.

I think a Frat is a great way to meet new people along with getting involved at school.

If I go away for college, I wont have any friends here.

 

[disfunktional]

Thats a bit depressing. I also thought that most people at work tend not to socialize since they "know" that the other person is also at work.

Is it true that most people that you meet through work tend not to become personal?

It depends if you connect with them on things other than work. Some people I go out with for drinks quite often, chat about women, motorbikes, sports, all sorts of stuff. Some people I will only ever consider a colleague who I'll chat about work with because I just dont connect with them. The bigger the company you work for the more options you have I think.

 

[theapprentice]

But

But college life is college life right?

Your right it depends on the company.

Do people even meet new people in Bars and clubs?

Im going away for college meaning not staying in the United states. I want to come back and get an apartment in Downtown Manhattan.

how would I go about meeting new people if I dont work for a company but my own private practice.

 

[RedPill]

i get tried working at my 20-hour-a-day job and even though I tired to meet new people during my 4 hours off i cant seem to have any social life.

Vulpine, here's how you can tire to swing it into your hectic schedule:

Hour 1 - Order a pizza for carry-out. When you go to pick it up, game one of the girls in at the pizza place. After 3 IOIs invite her back to your place for dinner and a movie.
Hour 2 - Watch the first 1/3 of of the first Lord of The Rings movie. When you're done eating, lay the girl. You should be able to get 2 weeks of lays out of the whole trilogy, if you stop it right after bangin her.
Hour 3 - You'll probley be getting tried at this point from pizza, sex, and intense battle scenes so call a cab for the girl and take a nap.
Hour 4 - Take a shower, and get ready for work.

Time managment is all we have!

 

[Vulpine]

Vulpine, here's how you can tire to swing it into your hectic schedule:

Hour 1 - Order a pizza for carry-out. When you go to pick it up, game one of the girls in at the pizza place. After 3 IOIs invite her back to your place for dinner and a movie.
Hour 2 - Watch the first 1/3 of of the first Lord of The Rings movie. When you're done eating, lay the girl. You should be able to get 2 weeks of lays out of the whole trilogy, if you stop it right after bangin her.
Hour 3 - You'll probley be getting tried at this point from pizza, sex, and intense battle scenes so call a cab for the girl and take a nap.
Hour 4 - Take a shower, and get ready for work.

Time managment is all we have!

Im not sure that ill be statisfied with a relationship like that. i mean how lucky would i need to be to find a girl that would actually agree to spread a harty game of dungeons and dragons over 2 weeks. by the time we got dressed up played a round got undressed and had sex all the excitment would not only trie me out but id rather stay a bachlor than drag a girl from the united States through that. plus if she worked Downtown and made a decent Salary id be scared that they commute would force things down hill quickly since im working all the time and time is short.

 

[theapprentice]

No

No..I dont plan on meeting any girls that I want to bring back...etc..

I just want to know that once you start working, where do you meet new people other than your work place since the whole college scene is gone?

 

[theapprentice]

bump

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[Scrumtulescence]

It can totally depend on how you live your life in your 20s. I have a feeling I was/am a worse case than you, but I can totally relate to finishing college without having had much fun during my college years, and hoping that my 20s holds some kind of fun for me. I actually had the most social fun during my last several years after I graduated, for a while, although I didn't find a job for a while. I'm looking for one right now. But I'm thinking of teaching English abroad. Maybe Japan (I would have a couple friends there). Doing that kind of thing for the next __ years would certainly be more interesting than spending the rest of my 20s doing something like working a boring tech support job, trying to work my way up the IT ladder. Something like that would probably be more practical, but shyt, you only live once, I don't want to piss away my 20s like I did my college years just to be "practical" and missing out on a chance to do something fun, crazy, exciting, adventurous.....all the things I didn't experience during my teens/college years.

But yeah, if you're asking if you'll ever again have the opportunity to go parties all the time on weekends and by surrounded by thousands of peers with no job/career-related responsibilities, and other benefits of a socially-conducive atmosphere like college, then No, unless you go to grad school I suppose.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

I might be a "curt" here, but bare with me...perhaps it's more "obvious" to me...

1. Do we look like soothsayers or fortune tellers?
2. Would you want a bunch of guys whom you don't know arbitrarily telling you HOW your future would be based on your past? [Given the exhorbitant # of trolls online and SS, you'll get guys telling you what will happen.

ONLY YOU CAN DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE.

Granted some of the guys here are smart (to an extent, depending on who you talk to), and some can actually lay a chick, but do you think they are QUALIFIED to give you advice on your life?

HELL NO!

I wouldn't even say that.

What I do know is, if you constantly WORRY about the future, with no mind on the PRESENT, your future will TURN OUT EXACTLY as your worries have created it. The real question is...WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ENJOY YOUR "TODAY?" If you have LOTS of good todays, your future will be great. If you constantly improve, you're a success. Success is improvement and results. Failure is digression and retraction and standing still.

There's many guys who were nerds in HS and partied hard in college. Some guys were nerds in college and party hard now.

THE PAST IS NOT WHO YOU ARE. It's what YOU DID. Anybody who claims they KNOW who you are based on your past is FULL of bs. I know that as a FACT.

What do people do when they're done college?

ANYTHING THEY WANT. They're not saddled with meaningless tests. They have money and time to do what they want. They can follow their passion without concerning themselves with professors.

There isn't ONE path and there isn't ONE RIGHT path. Their's YOUR PATH. And who cares if it's broke, if it's fun and makes you happy? Is it worth it if you're rich, but all you did was work and struggle and stress and die of heart disease? If you combine FUN with MONEY, that's the best of BOTH worlds.

Go and live life. Make conscious choices to find and be happy.



A-Unit

 

[theapprentice]

hmm...

Its scary that I dont realize that I have that much power over my future, it feels wierd.

But it's also makes me feel like if I dont have the fun I want to that then the responsibility for that falls on me.

 

[Vulpine]

I dont think it feels wierd, it feels more like "adventure".

Think of yourself as a young Huck Finn, floating down the Mississippi on a raft.

He probably felt wierd: that Mississippi is a big bad mofo.

 

[sparky0000]

I must say that I concur with A-Unit. Saddest thing to see is how practically every American guy is a lemming. Simply does what he has been told to do. This is definitely not what the Founding Fathers wanted America to become.

BTW, the American concept of college is VERY foreign to most people outside of America. It is the reason why America girls are so unable to act mature. If you are a 19 year old girl and you spend all of your time with 19 year old boys god help you and those around you. In most countries, girls that age spend time around/with men who are older. As a result they seem to have a certain amount of class that you don't see in the USA.